How do I prepare for when my parents are not here one day?

[MissingAWoman]

I never imagined I would be in this situation. I am likely to end up alone for the rest of my life without ever having a wife or kids of my own. I will never have my kids by my bedside when I am on my deathbed. I am going to grow old alone.

I really don't know how I am going to handle this. My parents will not be around forever. I will have to face that dreadful day. I may not have a shoulder to cry on.

I am 27, almost 28, and never had so much as a real girlfriend. Meanwhile, everyone around me is getting married and having kids of their own. I seek a woman without a romantic past where we can be each other's first loves. I am starting to come to the realization I may not find that and I will end up alone.

I have a sister but I am estranged to her. I don't know how we can settle our differences. She may be my only hope to not be left without any family.

[menina]

I'm so sorry to hear that you feel this way. I've never had a boyfriend either and sometimes I feel that I'll be single for the rest of my life. So I guess I understand how you feel.
I think you could try to talk to your sister and maybe if you tell your parents how you feel they might comfort you.

[MissingAWoman]

I don't think my parents understand the seriousness of this. They brush off the fact I never even had a girlfriend. Then when I tell my mom the importance of being close to family, she says she will be here forever and that I have these cousins (who I barely ever see) who will comfort me. I don't know if she is in denial or simply doesn't care.

[menina]

I understand what you're saying. Maybe she's in denial or she doesn't want to hurt you. What about your dad? Does he do the same?

[MissingAWoman]

He does the same. I don't get it. I understand they are only 53 right now, but another 20 or so years, it is going to be a real problem.

[menina]

I see. Perhaps they don't want to think about it because it's too painful for them. I really don't know what else to tell you. I know how it feels to think we will end up alone.

[menina]

I'm here for you, if you need to.

[MissingAWoman]

Thank you

[menina]

You're welcome.

[Anonymous]

This is good news man! You've accepted it. Now realize you're born alone, you die alone. So there's really nothing tragic about living alone. I've been single my entire life and I'm happier now then I've ever been in my entire life. Eventually you'll realize most people are just passing faces in your life wish them well as you pass (because it's the right thing to do) and enjoy your journey. The truth is most people in life aren't worth investing time and energy in. The truth is most people are just going to weigh you down and hamper you on your journey. Their absence in your life is actually a blessing.

[jjj101010]

U r optimistic if u think u can find someone who is a simile age to u and has not romantic past. Why is that preferable to being alone. There are plenty out there who would be suitable and u r still at an age where u can find someone. It’s never too late. Plus the person u meet first it may not work out with so u both move on. Ignore their history and be happy with ur future

[MissingAWoman]

She doesn't have to be my age exactly. She can be younger. But of course, does a younger woman really want to be with a guy that is 28?

[jjj101010]

The point I was making was why does she have to have no past

[MissingAWoman]

I have my reasons. A big one is that I just don't want to give my heart fully the first time to a woman who is not doing the same in return. I cannot look past whom she loved, especially from her youth. Me and a woman can no longer say we knew each other when we were young.

[jjj101010]

Who said she loved anyone. Sex and love r different. She may have dated. But what happens if it doesn’t work out between u? Then u will both need to move on to some one new

[MissingAWoman]

I am not talking about sex. I am talking about the intense emotional bonds she formed when she was young with some other guy.

[jjj101010]

And is that more important than being alone for the rest of ur life

[MissingAWoman]

Yes, this is incredibly important to me to find this woman I have been so long looking for.

[menina]

I get your point but I don't think it's impossible. I'm older than him and I have no romantic past.

[jjj101010]

And u r prepared to die alone if u can’t and won’t accept anyone else?

[jjj101010]

@menina that is rare though

[jjj101010]

I guess u r worried u might die old and alone but tbf not everyone dies old so it may not be an issue

[menina]

Well, we all die alone. He has more chances of finding someone than I do.
And in my case it's not a matter of not accepting anyone else. So yes, I guess I'm prepared.

[menina]

I know. I'm rare in many ways...

[slatyb]

"I seek a woman without a romantic past" Your imagined plight is of your own choosing.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

“Transform your mind and God Willa transform your life”. I do sympathize with your feelings, but actual death isn’t possible. Solids don’t die, souls are people, bodies die

[AndrésC64]

You can't prepare for it. It just happens and you have to deal with it.

[Twalli]

You can't find a girlfriend because you have too rigid standards for your age

[blondeguy413]

I have these same thoughts.

[Crazygurl2o3o]

Farr on them