Is waiting one year too quick for engagement?

[DrAdams]

What do you think!

Yes

No

[Lushka]

My parents got married after less than a year of dating, because they wanted to start a family. That was 1989 and they still love each other deeply.
My boyfriend's parents got married rather fast too, I think because they were already expecting, which used to be common (men married the first girl they impregnated, because abortions were a no-go and families of the two would feel ashamed if the youngsters had a baby before marriage) but they now hate each other after divorce.

So I guess it's not about too quick, but about the reasons for marriage and mostly the two people making a decision as a couple.
What's more, the engagement is just one ring and one yes. You can get engaged quickly, but remain engaged for years, since weddings cost an arm and a leg. Though there are cultures when the wedding should be within a year of the engagement.

[ElementoP]

I don't think it's too early and I dont think there's such thing as too late either.

I've been with my girl for 6 years and haven't asked her to marry me. Her friends and family tell her to dump me, because "clearly he's not the commitment type", but that's BULLSHIT! We own a house together, that's as committed as it gets next to marriage.
I love her more than anything in the world and as far I'm concerned I committed to her a long time ago.
I'm just not ready to be married. It has nothing to do with "settling down" and everything to do with the fact that I'm not emotionally or mentally ready to be a good husband for her. I still have some growing up to do and some anger issues I have to work out, and I'm not gonna ask her to marry me until I'm ready to be the husband she deserves.

Luckily she's smart enough to see that and agree with me

[msc545]

You really need to rethink this if you live in the US, Sweden, or some other essentially feminist country, where men essentially get fucked in a divorce (lose all your property including house and car (s), have your reputation ruined, probably lose your job and your reputation, and worst of all, lose your children and be forced to pay years of child support).

You may think you are astute enough to make good judgments about women and their greed and anger. I can tell you that virtually no man is good at this and you are probably blinded at this point by your love for your girlfriend.

Don't let your sex hormones ruin your life as so many men do.

Don't get engaged, and for god's sake, don't get married.

[AmandaYVR]

It's enough time for some. Just depends on the people.

The way you know is that you both feel that you know enough about each other. Talk, talk, talk, and spend lots of time together.

Oops I just voted A but I sort of meant more B.

[WindAtMyBack]

That's too fast. Personally I think it should be two years minimum. There are exceptions, and sometimes very quick engagements work out. But in general that's too fast.

What's the hurry? It's a lifelong commitment. If someone can't wait a couple of years before becoming engaged, then maybe they aren't ready to invest an entire lifetime into it.

[Smoothing]

I don't think there is a time frame to being ready to engage. It is something you must determine for yourself not be told when.

The only problem is that if you are with someone who's main aim was to be engaged and they are pressed for ti. e, you will loose them up you wait too long. Even then, I don't think you should be pressured into it.

[dustybiker]

Depends on the relationship. If those people keep breaking up and getting back together it’s a bad idea.

If they have stayed solid throughout and still respect each other, it’s a good amount of time.

[wolfcat87]

It's never too early for an engagement, but I would hope they wait at least until they've been together 2-5 years to marry.

[shaysh87]

i wouldn't recommend engagement only after one year UNLESS you just absolutely know that this person is the right one with the full intuition.

[DermalPunch]

If the person has been reasonably evaluated and investigated why wait. Better than fornicating in relationship limbo.

[melanieeeB]

No, whenever it fits for you two and feels right is okay

[JustinTheGreat]

Yes. I say you should be together at least 3 years before getting engaged

[Drumlin2001]

When the time is right it's right. Don't put a limit on it, just go with the flow

[OddBeMe]

Waiting for what? Engagements usually last a year for planning the wedding. Are you talking about sex?

[Cubus]

It varies for every couple, but I believe a year is enough to get to know each other closely.

[QandAGuy]

It's not about the time, it's about if the bond has shaped yet

[Anonymous]

I assume it's been easy for you to attract women most of your life

[kao118]

Shit I meant no

[KatherineJ]

I’m most cases I would say that’s too fast.

[Twalli]

I am guessing you knew each other years before it.

[WhitneySnow]

That’s fine