I have a friend who is married (I am as well) that I used to work with for 4+ years. Because of work, we texted and talked daily. We did both admit we like one another but also that nothing can happen. That was maybe 2.5 years ago at this point.
I recently changed jobs 4 months ago. We agreed we still would talk (he thought I was just going to drop him) but I really value his friendship, so why would I do that? My husband knows I speak to to him and I’m open about my communications with him. But, I don’t think my friend is with his spouse.
A few months ago, he fell asleep with his phone in his hand and I had texted him. It was something dumb, after 10, but his spouse went through his phone and looked at our thread. The next day, he had deleted the thread and when they looked again, they asked him why it was gone saying it’s odd he would delete it. He told the truth, “we talk a lot and every few days, I delete the threads and save space.”
Maybe 2 weeks after that, I texted him a few times for three days. He responded to nothing. Then when I had spoken with him, I referred to stuff I had sent and he was confused. He didn’t get any of them. I tried calling him and it went right to voicemail. We used Skype to talk and I asked him what’s going on.
He said his Phone is having issues with incoming stuff from everyone. It’s been over a month now.
I finally asked if he was told to not talk to me anymore and he said no. I asked if he thought his spouse would call their carrier and have my number blocked and he said possibly, but doesn’t make time to find out why his phone is having issues. So, I haven’t spoken to him in 5 days, not by choice, but because he hasn’t checked his Skype.
I’m sad I don’t have my friend, but when I try to tell him we should agree to just not be friends and not talk, he pushes back. I’m flat out said how hurt I am that I don’t have a friend to talk to. And when he forgets to call me back like he says he will, he never apologizes. What do.
I recently changed jobs 4 months ago. We agreed we still would talk (he thought I was just going to drop him) but I really value his friendship, so why would I do that? My husband knows I speak to to him and I’m open about my communications with him. But, I don’t think my friend is with his spouse.
A few months ago, he fell asleep with his phone in his hand and I had texted him. It was something dumb, after 10, but his spouse went through his phone and looked at our thread. The next day, he had deleted the thread and when they looked again, they asked him why it was gone saying it’s odd he would delete it. He told the truth, “we talk a lot and every few days, I delete the threads and save space.”
Maybe 2 weeks after that, I texted him a few times for three days. He responded to nothing. Then when I had spoken with him, I referred to stuff I had sent and he was confused. He didn’t get any of them. I tried calling him and it went right to voicemail. We used Skype to talk and I asked him what’s going on.
He said his Phone is having issues with incoming stuff from everyone. It’s been over a month now.
I finally asked if he was told to not talk to me anymore and he said no. I asked if he thought his spouse would call their carrier and have my number blocked and he said possibly, but doesn’t make time to find out why his phone is having issues. So, I haven’t spoken to him in 5 days, not by choice, but because he hasn’t checked his Skype.
I’m sad I don’t have my friend, but when I try to tell him we should agree to just not be friends and not talk, he pushes back. I’m flat out said how hurt I am that I don’t have a friend to talk to. And when he forgets to call me back like he says he will, he never apologizes. What do.
