First why would he want to keep me so private that their friends don't even know I exist? I don't mind people not knowing about me but it would be suspicious.
Most of the possible reasons are very negative like maybe he's embarrassed for them to know about me, I'm some side chick and I don't even realize it, or he's hiding something else. I would not be ok with it because the negative possibilities outweigh the positive.
If you're keeping me a secret you're either:
1. Embarrassed/ashamed to be seen out with me
2. You're using me as a side piece & don't want your girl to know
3. You're playing the field with several other women.
4. You have something else you're hiding.
I refuse to be a secret, so if that's how he wants to play it, it will end quickly.
Considering I am asocial person anyway what would it matter to me? Not like I want to meet her friends lol. Unless if her friends so happen to be great to the point I like them enough but then I wouldn't know that anyway if we've never met. Hell how would even know that she don't tell them about me?
We never talk to friends about our partner outside of a very few close friends who know us anyway before we were together. Work colleagues or acquaintances, never mention our partner as it's none of their business.
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That's a huge red flag.
I've dated a guy who did things like this. It wasn't about his "privacy" (what sort of private shit do you keep from friends you see often?).
It's a clear sign to me of someone who is more worried about perceptions of himself than he is of..
Well, his reality.
Hiding your partner is a red flag. Hiding your partner from frequent friends? That's serial killer levels of red flag.
I'd refuse to date someone like you.
If my partner in general doesn't say anything about their private life to their friends I'd not care. Some people are like that. If they usually talk about private things but want to keep me specifically private I'd have an issue wit it.
I wish my previous boyfriend did that. All of his friends were asshole incel types who assume all women are an inferior species set out to hurt superior males. There's nothing wrong with being a male who doesn't have sex, there really isn't. But, when they go for that kind of a personality, it's stupid and obnoxious. I hope they didn't make him hate me. I still love him a lot, though he doesn't have to ever talk to me again.
No, it would make me feel like he was either ashamed of me or dating other women.
He doesn't need to tell them everything but at some point they should at least know my name and that I exist.
That means she likes to keep her private parts available
When we first started, I guess. Certainly not forever, though.
Yes. Why should I care for what her friends know about me?
Nothing like that bothers me
It's really odd for someone to do that.
Depends, how long you been together?
Sounds like you're a dirty secret. Leave.
I think that would bother me.
fuck you
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