Can your cooking and baking skills be affected by your mood and your partner?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday was the first time a cake came out perfect.

When I was in a toxic relationship with a demanding, entitled narcissistic (his own words were ''You have to please me'') that forced to take pictures of everything (with steps) I cooked, nearly all my cakes would sink in the middle. I wasn't even enjoying it anymore. He made even me do this tamales again just putting olive oil instead of lard. Then once I made it with lard, he still wanted me to repeat it. I used to get moody and stressed out by then.

I'm currently in a healthy relationship with someone that actually wants a family and there hasn't been a single argument at all; no ultimatums, no yelling, no ''you gotta please me'' demands, etc. I'm doing his birthday cake and this time it didn't sink in the middle. It's great.

Can a woman's cooking and baking skills be stunted if the partner is horrible and demanding? Versus can those skills improved if he's a decent man?

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With my current boyfriend of 8 months, he never once told me ''You have to please me'' nor gave me ultimatums for not cooking more creative, elaborated things. My other ex was being demanding, pushy and I felt trapped at some point.

[lightbulb27]

Congratulations in many ways and my condolences to whomever his next is… shouldn’t such people have warning tags like dangerous animals?


Anyways… yes…. Everything is energy. If you have negative energy going out it’s a magnetic field ‘jacking’ with the cake batter.


That’s my theory and it’s as sound as the Big Bang theory if not better.

[Guy13]

A Narcissist stunts all growth in every aspect of anyone... Good thing you escaped that one !!! How did you do that? Lots of people would benefit from that input !

[Asker]

I escaped because when I found out he scammed me with $1,300 he'll never paid me back. he lied about wanting marriage and kids (he purposely kept me as a forever girlfriend and then just a friend) and then said the horrible words with a mocking tone ''Oh you're the ready for marriage'', pure rage took over me. Afterwards I was in tears but not because of sadness, mainly tears of anger that I've wasted time on nothing, that it was a game to him, nothing but lies, that he was really a disgusting person.

[Asker]

Plus I had to briefly see a psychologist afterwards. That toxic relationship felt like being intoxicated with something that gives you allergies. It felt like food intoxication. Oh well that's all over with. What a nightmare it was!!!

[Guy13]

Well good, he made it easier than most. "Lucky You" after all...

[Guy13]

Good luck with your baking and what's cooking in the Oven... ;-)

[Adam1978]

Yeah I don't cook for picky people. If they don't want my food, they can cook their own.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think so, because a lot of love goes into home cooking.

[Asker]

True. I took more time than usual in making the cake, making sure it's well mixed. I had a lot more patience than ever. I was in a great, happy mood too, free from stress.
Plus, unlike the other demanding fool, he's interested in learning to cook. He wants to cook together when we get married and make it a fun activity.

[Anonymous]

yeah it can impact it also it depends on how long you bake the cake for and what temperature and what rack you put it on and how high it is from the heating coils

[In_Trance]

I'm sure they can