Why don't relationships work out when you are young?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

If you think about it look at all the questions and answers on here question like boob size dick size do I look good and then you add on top of it that most of the time when you're with somebody it's because you want to get laid you want to experience that so it's like everybody's using everybody and when you do find somebody you look at them and you see the beauty on the outside and you think that's who they are you think that's who you fall in love with but it's not well I mean it is but that's not who they are they are the person on the inside and then if you have sex for the first 20 times even 100 times whatever right before you going to come or have an orgasm you get a Moment of clarity where all the sudden you become one and that feeling is so beautiful and people mistake that feeling because it is so beautiful they mistake it as love and it's not love it's when two people connect that feeling is the feeling that you should have you're supposed to have from day one that you meet each other till the end of time that connection that Bond that most beautiful moment in the world but people call it love because they've never experienced it before

And then if you're honest with yourself we're not growing up we all want different things we all want different experiences we all want what we want and if you can't compromise on that there's going to be arguments

And then when we think we are in love and we find the best friend and we start growing together for some reason there's always one that says okay I'm good right where I'm at let's just play house because I'm happy I'm content and the other one says no we have to have more we need to prepare ourselves for the future and they want to keep growing and the other person doesn't want to grow no more and that becomes a battle because the one person wants to sit on their ass and the other person wants to keep going they're more mature they're more honest with themselves and that's what happens we're just not mature enough that's all we all look at life different we all want different things so when you get with somebody you have to pick that right person that wants to grow with you all during life because if you don't it's never going to work out it really doesn't matter if you're young or old as we get older we look at life different we become more mature and we change and as a partner if you cannot change with your spouse instead of accepting it we battle we fight we argue and then you separate angry instead of just being honest and saying look this is who I become this is who I am I'm sorry I apologize but I have to do my own thing we can still be friends everybody wants it their way and it's not going to happen that way we're all individuals we all see things different and when you get with somebody you have to accept that and you either have to work on it together always or you're going to end up going your Separate Ways

That's when you realize what life is all about here life is an experience we are to take each one of those experiences and become the best at it to experience everything because they say you can't take it with you but I believe we do we are all energy and energy Never Dies it's that knowledge that learning of becoming one with everybody is our destiny becoming one with the universe I think if you can do that you can succeed in anything you want to

FilmGuy93 · Accepted Answer

Your life isn't very stable and you don't have a clear idea about who you are as a person just yet.

RosieMelts · Accepted Answer

Because they don’t know who they are and they can both grow apart.(Life paths).

It’s hard for them to think efficiently, when dowsed in societal-induced anxiety;

balancing that with developing confidence and battling perspectives of low self worth,

and trying to answer the most hardest questions about what they ‘love,’ which is a very fluid-like concept in developing years

(we love new things and shift the things we love, but it’s more chaotic for the youth)

Despite all this, there are some resilient youth, with stellar ideas for progression, and relief to natural and man made disasters,

but as far as communicating well, respecting, and deciding to commit to another person?

At those ages, it’s a tall order.

It’s probably why it doesn’t work out for them.

Smashingdoozy · Accepted Answer

Often as you grow up your thoughts and feelings change. When I was in school my first boyfriend was a rich dick who convinced me into going to youth groups and church but constantly contradicted himself. But at the time I was head over heels for him. Now I would never go for that type. You grow and learn from your past mistakes. Part of why I think it's absolutely ridiculous that people in their 20s/30s are trying to find people who have never had relationship experience. Its that experience that makes future relationships better.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Because there’s still too much out there to explore, so little time so why settle when you’re still young?

kmg9150 · Answer

We dont know who we are still. Life changes people. We need this in order to understand ourselves better. You never really know someone until you live with them for substantial amount of time, I would say at least 6 months. Its not that these relationships didn't work out in our youth, its that these relationships were meant as lessons give us the experience to recognize which ones are worth investing into. This goes for any and all relationships. If they dont serve purpose for the path your life is on, then it will hold you back from the path to serve the purpose of your life.

Moose304 · Answer

There are no set answers to this question. I have noticed that wisdom is the last thing to develop in a human. For most humans, this happens in their late 30s and for some goes almost until their 50s. I can't tell you how many things I did back in my youth I would not do today. Let me put it this way. I know some people both male and female that did something in their youth that they to this very day regret. I know a lady who has a Gen Z daughter. She had a bad habit of walking alone at night. Last year she was raped in downtown Norfolk. This was after her mom begged her to stop. "you don't control me" well that rape was rather brutal and she spent several nights in a local hospital. This is what I mean. A person with a hedonistic attitude that lacks wisdom can't hold a relationship for long. Social Media is another problem too.

Light909090 · Answer

Depending on the other for financial support is like having a kid.
When you have a kid You have to take care of it because it’s your job and society expects you to do it.
It’s the same thing with dating.
We dudes don’t get girlfriends we get Daughters That Society calls girlfriends and we fuck them
There called feminists.
They create there own problem
Expect us dudes to fix it they Tell us to pay for there food when they already have money 💴 they Don’t wanna spend there money and society goes around telling us to take care of the girlfriend because it’s our Job because it’s part of the deal and if we don’t spend our hard earned money on a girl that doesn’t wanna spend her money we’re called immoral rude etc.
Like I said in the beginning we dudes that get girlfriends we get daughters and become fathers to Girls that society calls girlfriend.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Your personality and beliefs are still developing and forming and relationships don't come naturally, they are learned from experience. There are tons of new ideas and principles one gets exposed to once they leave the nest. The chances that two young adults grow at the same rate and in the same direction are slim. I remember my first love and how we both changed so much in the first 5 years after high school that we weren't even remotely compatible anymore. We still vaguely keep in touch and I sometimes wonder how we went from being in love to I don't even recognize that person anymore.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Everyone in my family was married by 19 or 20 and are still married, with kids and happy.

Biggest thing I can say is people don't like confrontation or working things out. From what I see right here on GAG, people are like... nope if they do that we are done. Seems like people are very easy to break up with, without even trying.

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

You are still finding out who you are. That's really a process that happens throughout your life, but you are MUCH less certain about this the younger you are. You are curious and drawn to interesting things... some of which you will find are really REALLY not for you... but it's what we do. Try. Fail. Learn. Rinse. Repeat.

ethanallen · Answer

I know several guys from my high school who dated girls from the same high school (high school sweethearts). They got engaged before graduation and then went to college in different towns. They got married after graduation and are still married.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

they don’t fully understand the emotions they do have and are largely in capable of being self-aware so when you put two or more of them together to work on something they view as very serious or very important naturally they will quickly evolve into tearing at each other‘s throat this happens in school projects this happens in relationships this’ll even happen when it comes down to doing chores. Teenagers just cannot be trusted with anything important when there is more than one of them.

sheikalana · Answer

Most likely because you're both immature. Not ready to fully commit even though you might think you are. Also inexperience contributes for a failed relationship. In the end these are all learning experiences for you to be ready to be a better partner when you're older.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Your life is constantly changing.

What you like this week is gone the following week.

People go off to school, get jobs, and your partner is going through the same changes, but ends up heading in another direction.

Sadly this happens a lot when you are younger.

itsmegrave · Answer

Relationships can fail at many different points. Some of them start with a misunderstanding about someone else's intentions, which leads to mistrust. Other times they simply aren't compatible enough. Still others fail because people have incompatible goals. There are also problems that come up as a result of being too young.

TransAm85 · Answer

Each is still trying to figure out their own goals and future. In the old days, people married young bc women didn't really work. They were just mothers/housewives. Today, women have more independent goals, hence the relationship issues also.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Cause when you're young you haven't fully matured yet. Your're also still mentally growing and over time needs, likes, wants, and personalities change. Also it has to do with how well the couple communicate with each other.

Blackcosmo · Answer

Because your sense of identity hasn't fully developed and you're not mature enough. Of course there are some exceptions but this is the majority.

lightbulb27 · Answer

They do for some.  People don’t know themselves well enough…not mature. Seems easier to move on than work through issues.

Anonymous · Answer

simple. young females are entitled, spoiled, narcissistic, drama queens, with insane expectations and false victim complexes, who constantly are looking for the “greener grass”

young males are not wanting to settle, be controlled, or locked down to one vagina

SolitarySolace · Answer

No one knows what they’re doing let alone what they’re looking for when they’re young. They’re not thinking about the future they’re having fun and doing stupid shit majority of the time it is something that will drastically affect their future

Mickbert · Answer

People are still figuring out who they are and what they want for the most part. Once you’re done with school and have some actual life experience, you have a much better idea of the person you are.

RedStiletto88 · Answer

Sometimes they do but most times everyone is trying to figure themselves out and what they really need in a relationship

dragoblack · Answer

Because of insecurities and running relationships on horny base... granted most relationships start with hookups, but making sure not to project your insecurities is important along with working on overcoming your insecurities

itsalyssaagain · Answer

They don't always work out when you're older either lol. It's not about age, it's about timing.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

She don't know what the fuck she wants yet, and he's just trying to get laid.

Anonymous · Answer

How young?

I started my first real relationship when I was 21 and I'm still in it. We own a house together and all that jazz

I guess don't jump into a relationship strictly for the sake of being in a relationship and it'll last longer

LazerBean · Answer

Because they usually make their choices based on their feelings.

Mart10 · Answer

Cause it can be lust. People are more stubborn around that age so that's why sometimes. Sometimes the priority of one person in the relationship changes

dudeinohio · Answer

You aren't fully developed emotionally. Who you like one day, you may not like the next. Younger people will go through many short relationships until they mature.

In_Trance · Answer

they're not suppose to.  it's the same a riding a bike; you're going to fall a few times before you figure it out.

Beardedman1996 · Answer

Because your YOUNG, you can’t be expected to know your career or even hair color from 18-25, so what makes you think you know whose gunna work out in your life?

Hardworkingguy · Answer

Because younger people tend to only care about themselves and aren't mature enough to support each other the best way possible and overcome life's problems

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

For some people they do, but most people don't find the right person so quickly.

Anonymous · Answer

Inexperience. Both in knowing what a healthy relationship looks like and knowing yourself enough to find the right partner

silkjames · Answer

If you young have a little fun if not find someone serious like u easy peasy lol

TroyDT · Answer

My neighbors got married when he was 17 and she was 15 and have been married for over 60 years.

Anonymous · Answer

Listen... It has zero to do... with age. You're either winging it or you understand relationships. It is that simple.

brezzybaby · Answer

Cause they don't try. That's the problem these days

Anonymous · Answer

Logistics has a lot to do with it. I had a stellar relationship with my high school girlfriend, but then we ended up on opposite sides of the country for college.

LztutuIsCute · Answer

Since your life has barely started and you don't have any idea of what you're doing with your girlfriend/boyfriend.

anylolone · Answer

Because success rates are lower than one, actually even lower than a half.

TonightYouu · Answer

Young love is 90% Lust 8% hormones and 2% acne

driven159 · Answer

Because they are immature need to grow up and learn it's not all about them

Twalli · Answer

Our lives are changing and therefore our preferences are too,

Fuentes · Answer

Cause their is so many different things you can do in life

glennos89 · Answer

They also don't work out when your older 😂😂😂

Anonymous · Answer

it doesn't work if the guys is young and don't have money

MrTaboo · Answer

Emotionally unstable, immaturity.

chocomilk99 · Answer

To much distractions n options

ZenJen444 · Answer

Because your life hasn't settled yet

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

Because they aren't intended to

Anonymous · Answer

Immaturity, reckless behaviour sums it up.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

More hormones less brain is action

Toehunter · Answer

They're not supposed to your young

bugsforlunch · Answer

People change

Boogie_01 · Answer

Some do…

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