My partner has made a restaurant booking for two, I’m going to see who the other person is. If it is a new woman, how should I react?

[Anonymous]

He has gone off sex with me and keeps saying nothing is wrong. Part of me wants to see it so I can break free from him. He will only lie if I ask him about it. He will say it’s a booking for him and his male friend.

The impulsive side of me wants to throw his drink and food on him. The maturer, sensible side of me will show my face, thank him for the years we had together and tell him that he should have told me the truth. Walk out and enjoy clearing my home of his things.

He doesn’t take me anywhere. We have three children together, one who is only 19 weeks old. I am in so much pain, it’s unbelievable.

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+1 y

Everyone‘s advice has helped. You never would believe that everything was going to plan and then my car broke down. As a last resort I had to call him to help me. I then ended it with him. Took him back and caught him telling another girl they will hook up. Don’t be a fool like me. It is over now.

[Guy13]

There seems to be a substantial amount of distrust between you two. This will escalate rather than deescalate. Ways to deescalate is, 1. clear Vision established and 2. willingness to engage couple counseling to work through setting and implementing detailed plan. make sense?

[Bolty44]

Whatever you said doesn't sound so positive so whats about to happen could be the worse your thinking about you should spy on him its for the good of you and your kids being said that some people would keep their wives for emotional needs for chores and to be a mother, and get someone else for physical one's without keeping ties but that's not acceptable too you guys should settle things

[JessJJ]

Just be careful what you wish for, if you're right and you see it you might force yourself into ending it. If you want to continue the relationship it might ironically be better to ignore it.

[slatyb]

You don’t need another reason to end it. It sounds like he’s already gone.

[Asker]

He keeps telling me it’s all in my head. You are absolutely right. I don’t need another reason. I’m not capable of just walking away. I don’t know why. He is quite good at lying, so I need hard proof.

[slatyb]

"He keeps telling me it’s all in my head" That's gaslighting. It should be an instant deal-breaker. DTMFA.

[TroyDT]

So what happens if you show up and it's his childhood friend?

[Asker]

That’s why I need to see. Why would he be keeping it a secret?