You entered a restaurant and noticed your partner on a date, would you confront them or leave?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Probably take pictures for proof later, if they didn't see me. Probably come up and confront - more asking questions if it's not obvious what's going on.

Now if they're kissing, they're feeding each other food, etc... then ok, it's an issue. I'd calmly let the guy know - "This is (now "was") my girlfriend. She cheats on me, she'd probably do it to you. Quick advice. Get out before it's too late." Get info - how long it's been going on... if he thinks she's HIS girlfriend... etc. Be quick, don't say much past that. (I wouldn't just go after the guy and assume he knows about this. If he knows and is cool with being "the other dude." ("He ain't satisfying her like I am" crap) I'd want to beat the crap out of him in that case... and it'd be tough not to, but...).

Get out of there. She's done, obviously. De-friend, unfollowed and blocked, if on social media. I don't think I would publicly "out" her cheating on Social Media (though she'd deserve it), but I might. Otherwise; Stealth mode. Tell friends. Go out and try to have a blast (partly for fun, and partly to make sure I don't do something dumb in the moment) and forget her.

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

I have found a woman who PROPOSED TO ME... with her car parked outside the home of her past Lover at 4 am, I placed my business card prominently under her windshield wiper! In turn, she feigned to reconcile.

On the SECOND occasion, I revealed what I'd found to her parents... who'd begun $$$ wedding planning and published a unique Wedding UN-engagement announcement in Burlington VT's local newspaper stating 'why'.

She fancied herself a local cosmetology entrepreneur and I KNEW what being publicly exposed as untrustworthy to her perceived clientele would do to her self esteem! At the time, I'd been a state-licensed Private Investigator and she filed a grievance with the licensing board. They in turn,
asked of her 'Was it the truth?' When she admitted "Yes, but..."

They laughed her out of their meeting, asking her... if I should begin legal action UPON HER
for a "Breach of Promise" contract. ( I COULD have legally sued HER for 'breach of Contract' and emotional damages! LOL! )

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

Oh I think I’d have to leave! I can confront him anytime about it, but a public restaurant is definitely not the place! I would possibly walk up and say something like “oh wow that looks delicious, excuse me, I’m so sorry to bother you but what is that tasty looking meal?” Then grab my phone say “oops sorry this is important” and leave! I’ll confront him later! I just want him to KNOW that he’s busted, but I have too much class to start a personal argument in a public place! (Not that you don’t have any class if you do! Hey, you do you boo!) And remember that this actually happened me with my first real boyfriend! After a year of dating I decided I was ready for sex, and discovered him cheating on me just a few days we did!

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

I'd probably go up and give him a kiss (probably his last) and introduce myself as his girlfriend/wife "and you are?"

Ask_me_anything91 · Answer

The only CORRECT ANSWER here is this. You rush up to him or her as if you don't notice the situation or that the other person is even there. Out of breath you say the following "Oh my god baby I am so glad I ran into you, I was about to call you. The doctor just called and they said that they will not be able to operate on your Micro Penis Or Waffle because the tests came back and unfortunately it isn't HIV but
FULL... BLOWN... AIDS. The docs said they haven't seen such a severe case since Patient Zero way back in the late 90's. They said simply the act of kissing and or holdingsomeones hand could infect others.

DonkeyDan · Answer

I would go up to them and say "Hi honey, sorry didn't want to interrupt you with your friend. But just to let you know that the doctor's office called about the results of your STD tests, and he would like you to make an appointment to see him as soon as possible. Anyway I'll see you at home, have a nice night."
Go home and pack all her shit and dump it in the street, changing the locks in the process.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Definitely confront him. I'm a hot head I see my man on a date he's gonna hear it from me. I hate the women that yell at the woman and blame the woman. It's your partners fault. I guess if it's a friend that knows better then you I would give her shit. Otherwise he's the one in after lol

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Id start a conversation with a girl at the bar where I know they can see me. If she's actually in a date, she's going to try and act like she never saw me, if she's not, she'll approach me. I'd send her a text asking where she is too.

You don't want to jump to conclusions, but you also gotta remember some of these chicks are crafty as hell.

Miristheiss · Answer

Well, it would be my wife.
It would be quite odd for her to be out with a guy and I don't know anything about it so I'd walk up and speak. I'd be paying really close attention to the response, any shock or nervous stammering as if she were caught off guard. I'd have to see what the story was. I'd probably ask her to come with me and we'd walk out to the lobby for a moment and I'd ask her what was going on. If there wasn't a really simple, make sense, explanation than I'd have to divorce her.

t-8900 · Answer

Go up and ask the dude if he knew she was seeing a guy. If he said "yes" then beat his ass in front of her. If not then inform him that she was until he found out she was a total slut and then tell her it's over and tell the dude good luck with her cuz she's loose af and walk off. I have zero tolerance for cheaters.

Screenwriter · Answer

What do you know about the situation? Maybe it's a work date. Maybe it's an old friend or relative. How do you know what's going on unless you're seated at the table with them.

Confronting anyone in public is always a poor choice. Snap a picture and leave. Have a discussion about what you saw later when it's appropriate.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

This sounds like fun & as for me I would take a photo & after I did I would talk to their waitress or waiter & pick up the bill out of the kindness of my heart & I would go about my business. On the other hand if the sex was good I would play stupid for a while.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Situational confrontation never works. More ever it embarrasses you as well as other people.
Let your partner have their date, and you mind your business. Later handle the situation through nonviolence and with deadly cold practicality.
Since your partner was with a date, they are either confused or completely detached, emotionally, in the relationship with you.
So understand that, and maintaining full practicality, handle the things after then.

wheresmrcunnunglis · Answer

Hell yeah I would! I would walk right over there with a glass of water, a toothy smile, and my own chair so I could join them and start questioning my partner about why the hell he was there? I would show the lady pictures of us together and tell them how long we have been together for and ask her how long they've been dating. Then I would turn to that mofo and splash his ass with water and run out in case he decides to splash me back... can't have my hair being messed up now can I? 🤣

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Sure, right after I pulled out my phone to start recording the conversation. I don't have to video record, just audio would be good enough.

I'd be like, hi dear... how are you and who is this? I'm his girlfriend or wife, see what the other person says and does.

Possibly a explanation for it, but I'd like to hear it before I do anything rash.

RobT312 · Answer

I would confront…no better time than the present.
if I were certain it was a date and not business or a friend I would just walk up and say “ BUSTED”.
then I’d leave.
it would make her scramble on her date and it would be clear she’s out of my life

Valso · Answer

Instead of making a scene and humiliating myself, I'd simply send him or her the following song and leave. Its title says it all. The fact that I was with him/her suggests that he/she had enough intellect to understand the meaning.

cookiecrusher · Answer

Start a video, as evidence.

Walk up to the table and tell her

"Honey, i wanted you to know that i took out the trash"

And to the guy i would say "hah, i fucked her first, 2/10 would not recommend, was going to write a review but her mom would have killed me" jokingly and walk out.

Got home, locks changed in 10 minutes. All her stuff donated to chairity in 3 hours. With solid prenup in place i will owe her nothing, she goes as she came.

chefsam · Answer

Take pics & videos then confront them after. Or if you guys are living together; go home, pack their stuff, leave it outside for them to see it. When they ask why you did that, show them the pics & videos then kick their ass out.

Anonymous · Answer

I would probably call up a guy friend and go back in sit in front of his line of sight and have him ✨WATCH ✨ us having a date as well, after that have my guy friend take me to get my sh! t back from him and silently leave. Block him on everything and forget he ever existed.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Pour a champagne bottle over his head Sorry. That would make me see red.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Confront them and embarrass them in front of their date. After all, why should you care if you embarrass a cheater? I might have a few choice words for his Ho too.

Sasha_Gee · Answer

It could all be a misunderstanding, so I would observe first. If they're touching hands, I'm walking over there.
If it's actual cheating, I could lose my temper, but I'll hold it in. I will confront him. But that girl is walking on egg shells during this confrontation, she better stays quiet or stays respectful, if she as much as tries to tell me off, it's on.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd be like one of those movies where th boyfriend comes up to their table and pretends to be an old friend that hasn't seen her in years. Just to see if she'll play along with it. And after a few minutes excuse myself saying it was nice seeing her again and it was nice meeting him. Giving her a sadistic grin. Then I'd go home pack my s***. Leave a note congratulating her on her acting job and "have a nice life". Then I'd leave and sever all ties.

Anonymous · Answer

If I did not know about the 'date'
I'd send a note over by one of the wait staff (who I'd tip generously) with 'We're Done' with my signature and watch the response then leave,
I would not cause a scene in the restaurant (not fair to the restaurant), their phone number would be blocked, same on social media. If they have any clothes etc in my flat it would be packed and sitting on the porch and locks/codes changed.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

Lol I'm hot-headed when i feel like I'm being disrespected so my first reaction would be to knock everything off their table.

honeynut-scenarios · Answer

I’d pull up a chair, and we’d all be having a conversation.

NathanDavis · Answer

I would take a seat somewhere, where she could clearly see me... and then wait for her to explain what is actually going on...

Wester1967 · Answer

Why confront. Walk out and keep walking. Leave them to facing real life with some joker who skeezes on other people's SO. Karma will work itself out

Apulu_3 · Answer

Confront them. Maybe it is a misunderstanding. You never know. Many relationships break due to that but I won't let that happen.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

I would just leave. Toss her stuff outside and block her number, doing anything else in regards to that 🤡 would be a waste of energy

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I would pull up a chair, and say "something you wanna tell me?" Then take things from there

Guanfei · Answer

Leave, then once I'm home, I'd call her to tell her that I've seen her, and that she can come take her stuff and leave. No drama, no negotiation, no excuse. You pack your things and leave immediately.

Luopio27 · Answer

I would asl her the next day what was her last day lile. If there is no mention of what I saw, she would likely be hiding something.  Healthy relatiomships are based on trust, not survailance.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I'd go say hello.   But why am I going to a restaurant on my own? And who's looking after the kids?

alice55 · Answer

I would walk in, be sure he see me and command something to eat while watching him to make him uncomfortable

DermalPunch · Answer

Oh yes I wo-ould. And I would be all smiley à la "sorry I'm late". Big kiss for bae and would ask if they ordered yet because I'm starving.

humanearth · Answer

I loose my temper easy over cheating. Been fucked over to many times by cheaters I most likely start a fight

Kabluie · Answer

Have to account the fact may have agreed to be non-mono with the partner, and that's okay. Might just say hi in that case.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Confront em if I left it’d be to easy for her to deny it or lie about it. When your on the spot it’s harder to come up with a coherent lie.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I wouldn't confront them, but I would either make sure that they saw me, or text a picture of the two together to her.

exitseven · Answer

This actually happened to me. This was her way of letting me know I was getting dumped. I got up and left. I was afraid of what I might do.

Rebecca798344 · Answer

confront but i wouldn't do anything like assault; i would just tell him its over

England4eva · Answer

Leave. My feelings change when absolutely necessary.

Lucy68 · Answer

Been there done that, just go back home pack your bags, move out, and don't look back

Ninania · Answer

I'd walk over and give him a hug and a kiss. Why assume it's a date straight away? His reaction will be answer enough.

anniisa97 · Answer

Are you kidding me? Of course I would confront them, it would be a whole scene from Eastenders.

nocturnalbreed · Answer

Cold stare and leave if I'm having long term relationships like for years and then see them on a date I would shower my partner with whatever liquid I could find near.

jasco · Answer

Leave because why bother. I will simply take a picture and than leave. Kick all of her stuff out and leave that note along with the pic saying I saw you

DownIndaDumpz · Answer

I'd sit across from them and stare at them the whole date

Randy888 · Answer

just leave and never talk to them again, Not worth the argument.

cth96190 · Answer

I would sit in a far corner, as discretly as possible, to observe and video them.

Dargil · Answer

If you are in a committed relationship, just walk by them and say to him or her "bye bye!"

andreasderjuengere · Answer

What am I doing in a restaurant without being with my partner? :D Well deserved, I'd say.

Jay3344 · Answer

I’d say hello, clarify what was happening and then make a decision. Like it could be a coworker and they were just having lunch together.

annabananna · Answer

I would say hi and observe to see if it’s really a date.

Darine123 · Answer

I would confront him and said nothing to the girl and slap his face and walk away

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I would confront her to see who is the guy. If she is cheating, the relationship is over. That simple.

TrillXHippy · Answer

I would just leave because she obviously is sitting across from the person that she really likes. There’s no point of me doing anything else

Andro36 · Answer

Ill make a picture, something that really proves that it is a date and not an appointment, and then Ill leave

Blaine999 · Answer

I'd wait till she saw me, let it sink in for a sec and the leave. Just so she knows how badly she screwed up and now her date is ruined without ruining everyone elses day.

Just_call_me_Levi · Answer

Leave for now, as I do want to give her the benefit of the doubt, but will address it later.

loveslongnails · Answer

I'd know she was there because I'm in an open relationship. No need to confront anything.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Tough question but anything is possible and i pray to never see myself in this position someday...

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