If a woman wants kids and the man wants to take his time, how long can we wait for him?

[Anonymous]

Obviously at my age (15 and in HS), I'm not one bit ready for kids and not dating yet. However once I become an adult and get into a relationship where we both want kids in the future, how long would be too much waiting.

I know men don't like women to be nagging and other women adviced us to wait for him, give him time but we what if he's ready in a decade or till he's in his late 30's (assuming he's within our similar age range) but what if we don't want to be that old or past our time by then? We don't have that advantage of waiting a decade for him. On average, how long can a woman wait for him before it gets worrying?

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+1 y

All women and men keep advicing us to be patient, let him take him time and not rush him... ok but when is it too much time? At some time, he has to be ready or else that goes against our years, against our fertility and our ability to produce healthy kids.

[Apple1996]

Definitely don't wait to long. If you wait until your ready to have kids then you'll never have them. I'd say if your past 20 then it's time to start having them if that's what the couple really wants together. Don't settle for some guy that wants to play waiting games like that.

[Asker]

Exactly, all this ''Don't rush him, let him take his time'' is nonsense too. What if letting him take his time means he wants to wait 10-15 years? That's too much. That's when ''let him take his time'' doesn't apply.

[Apple1996]

Tbh I rarely here of men wanting to wait that long usually the couple spilts if they want kids at different ages

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Probably when you're in your early twenties since it's easier to get pregnant the earlier you try plus that's at least 5 years of waiting. If he still needs more than 5 years, I'd be concerned lol but at the same time, its understandable.

[Emanon25]

Having kids is something nice and it’s a big responsibility to creat them kids the right way, I think they should think about it more than once and be sure they can handle this responsibility.

[Asker]

Yes but we don't have the advantage you guys have. You can take all your time, wait 5-10 years of ''maybe, I don't know, I guess I'm ready now'' stances but we don't. We have a limited time when we become adults.
Lets assume the woman met her boyfriend (similar age) at the age of 20 and they want kids in the future. Then at age 25, she's ready and he's still not ready. What is the suggestion, for her to risk another 5 years and what if he's not ready by then either? That's bad for her.

[Emanon25]

If the guy really loves his wife I am sure he’ll be ready as well.

[Asker]

True. If he loves her, he would think of her and not waste her years. However, there are so many men that claimed to love the woman but continue stringing her along, wasting her time.

[Emanon25]

Some men are but I don’t think if there’s love in between and both are serious in theirs relationship will waste time if they both are ready.

[slatyb]

I would say 25 or so.

[Asker]

You mean when she's 25 years old right? Otherwise waiting two decades, might as well go single by then; her fertile years are gone by then.

[slatyb]

Of course.