How to get him to forgive u when an apology won't cut it?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is mad at me and he says saying sorry isn't though and i doubt anything else will work so... any suggestions?

[Googlemyahoo]

You’ve ruined his trust going forward from here that will be in his head.

[Anonymous]

What did you do?

[Opinion Owner]

But if he didn't break up with you, he'll most likely get over it.

[Asker]

i went out with a friend to a party, i was leaving didn't trust myself to drive and asked him to pick me up and i decided to wait outside and a friend came with me, who was a guy. A lot of girls have been getting abducted lately so we were outside waiting for my boyfriend to get there and i was leaning against him as we were both waiting. i should've just waited inside or called a uber or something so he sees us and i'm not in my complete sound sober mind and we were both laughing. i hugged Ricoy the guy friend just to say bye and got in the car. i slept the whole day home and now this morning he hasn't been talking to me until he blew up after i kept bugging him. he thought something happened with the guy i was waiting even after i explained it that nothing, I admit being outside alone with him might have not been the best course of action just needed the fresh air and being outside waiting for him allowed me to do that, yh so bad call on my part and maybe me hugging him bye didn't help the situation but i do that with all my friends, its not anything, i think he just doesn't like him but i don't get it since he has no problem with my other guy friend.

[SlothySlob]

First question, what did you do?

[Asker]

i went out with a friend to a party, i was leaving didn't trust myself to drive and asked him to pick me up and i decided to wait outside and a friend came with me, who was a guy. A lot of girls have been getting abducted lately so we were outside waiting for my boyfriend to get there and i was leaning against him as we were both waiting. i should've just waited inside or called a uber or something so he sees us and i'm not in my complete sound sober mind and we were both laughing. i hugged Ricoy the guy friend just to say bye and got in the car. i slept the whole day home and now this morning he hasn't been talking to me until he blew up after i kept bugging him. he thought something happened with the guy i was waiting even after i explained it that nothing, I admit being outside alone with him might have not been the best course of action just needed the fresh air and being outside waiting for him allowed me to do that, yh so bad call on my part and maybe me hugging him bye didn't help the situation but i do that with all my friends, its not anything, i think he just doesn't like him but i don't get it since he has no problem with my other guy friend.

[SlothySlob]

He wasn't there, you were drunk, this Rico guy probably had some, you were quite touchy-feely with this other dude. Your boyfriend regrets not going with you, you regret doing whatever you've done.

You're on your own on this one.

[Asker]

figured as much when he slapped my hand away when i tried and now it's after 2am and he's not picking up and nth from his friends so i'm out of bright ideas and giving him space isn't working. i wasn't touchy feely, its not like we were groping each other. I just leaned against him to keep my balance and hugged him goodbye, its like i groped him beside's he's my sister's second cousin, even if he was someone else nth would've happened. But he doesn't get that.

[SlothySlob]

Yeah, he doesn't. Actions are actions, words are just words.
Were you more "active" before you got with your guy?
This question may be more personal but, your body type and what were you wearing that night?
Were there drugs at the party? Were people saying they're gonna have sex at the party beforehand?

[Asker]

No it was like a friends thung with like 20 persons. No drugs except for those who vaped if that even counts. I wore jeans and a cropped hoodie.

[Asker]

I wasn't with anyone for the last 2 years before him nor was i active he knows that , nth happened between me and Rico , not then not ever. Rico and i didn't do anything, he's a pretty nice guy i just leaned against him with my arm on his shoukder sibce he didn't want me sitting on the cold sidewalk. My boyfriend drove up, i hugged him goodbye since i didn't know when i'd see him next since i haven't in a while. I got in the car and we left. I didn't kiss him like i normallt did cause he's not a fan of alcohol and we drove home. Then he woke up in a mood Sunday morning, left and i haven't heard anything and its not like i have anyone to call to check up on him. If he's mad we should talk it out, instead of me waiting here.