What's your preferred relationship structure and why?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

The man leads and the woman submits to the man.

The woman leads and the man submits to the woman.

Equal. No one leads nor submits to the other.

Other.

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+1 y

I think its best the man 100% leads and the woman submits.

Now, I'm saying this assuming the man is a good and smart man with strong common sense and isn't trying to abuse or take advantage of the woman who is submitting to him.

[Pudsmucker]

My relationship is 50/50. The woman takes care of the house and the children. If she works outside the home the children are the number one responsibility with her. The children always go to the mother. Because she is the nurturer. I have no qualms of doing housework. I live in it I dirty it I eat the food. So I'm not at the dust, clean the floor and do dishes cut the grass and make necessary repairs to the house. I also cook. My wife loves it when I come home and I cook. When it comes to finances she is better at the finances than I am so she takes care of paying the house utility bills and any other obligation that we might have. We've been doing this for the last 44 years.

[BJP21]

It can be both. Why does anyone have to be dominant or submissive? I can create unnecessary strain on either one. Especially if both are dominant.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I voted c though I'm not sure I fully agree with the wording. You can be equals and just know when to follow or lead depending on your strengths. For example, someone who is stronger with finances might handle the bills.

There shouldn't be one person in charge all the time for the entire relationship though. It gives a narrower lens on what might actually work for a couple versus one person's selfish interpretation of what it should be.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

How about the man delegates to the woman?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

And if he doesn't like the way she does it, does he let it stand or does he try to correct it to a way he prefers?

If he is correcting then it's still the narrow lens situation over again. A person shouldn't have that much control in a relationship unless it's given willingly.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Assuming the man is smart he can correct her... you have a problem with that too?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I have a problem if it's just his way out of preference. If he legit has an easier way then by all means provide it. I'm not stubborn enough not to accept help if I'm legit doing wrong, but it better be actually wrong, not just because he likes to see it done another way.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

I don't think most relationships work exactly from a strictly submissive/dominate bulid, few do and the naturally successful ones seem to have the man leading the relationship. Personally, I wouldn't want a complete submissive husband. I don't mind having a right hand man who I confide in (like normal) when making decisions.

[Alwayreckles93]

A Christian men that obeys God and it's very active in the Chruch. I have learn guys outsiders Re possessed by demons.

[FilmGuy93]

Man leads, woman submits. I've noticed that most women respond to healthy masculinity by submitting.

[Rania05]

Being the lead in relationship doesn't necessarily mean the other being submissive. Both in relationship are leader but just in different ways.

[AsaKyo]

I'd prefer A tbh

I'm too stupid to lead

[Nazgol]

Mix of A and C. I think it's ok to be one or the other at different times in diff things. doesn't have to be all the time

[Anonymous]

I think the sub/dom terminology belongs to the bedroom in life I’m not submissive and I want an equal partner (but stronger) rest is team work

[007kingifrit]

we are each leaders in our own domains, she is in charge of some things, and he is in charge of others

[clampfan101]

As long as it’s true love for us both, I don’t care which way it happens.

[Anonymous]

Actually it seems to work best when the man is in charge, sometimes it works as equals depending on who does what

[HippieVeganJewslim]

C. It’s not 50-50. It’s 100-100.

[Sandeeppingping]

Fortresses

[WhitneySnow]

I voted C