What's something your partner could do/did, to make you want to marry them?

[Msputiton]

[WonderBell99]

I would really like to get married someday, preferably in my mid 20s to a kind, caring guy who would love and accept me for who I am and not try to change me. Having kids is a strong no for me though. It seems like too much work and responsibility and the thought of going through the whole pregnancy process scares me to death.

If my partner is okay with adoption, I would definitely consider it, but I would much rather adopt two or three cats and call them my fur babies.

[JaxiCats]

My boyfriend is simply there trying to support me through rough days with my family and mental health. He was there when I lost my cat, he is there when I don’t feel safe. I love him so much for that alone and I’m trying to be there for him the same way he is there for me.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

There's this song where the guy says "when I'm with you, I can only be me" and I want to find what that guys talking about. I think when I do, that's gonna be the one.

I feel like someone who really loves me for and/or despite being all the things I am will probably have all the other qualities I care about too.

[Jaximus-Lion]

I married my girl because she stood by my side at tough times and she chose me as her partner. That what made me go on one knee and ask her to marry me.

[Msputiton]

Cute

[Nikki1989]

He made me laugh harder and more than I had ever laughed before, and he still continues to do it all these years later.

[Msputiton]

Aww. I think laughter is so important in a relationship

[humanearth]

See the comedians get all the girls

[humanearth]

Love me, even with all my weirdness

I'm a amateur radio nerd, crossdresser and a old show off

She loves me, even if I can be embarrassing and act like a fool at times

[humanearth]

Basically she took me for being me and not a fake shell of me

Goes to show, always be yourself. Someone will love you no. matter what

[Msputiton]

That's great, and I agree

[acooke-13]

Love me no matter what, not to judge me, be weird with me, support me, care for me, so many things I need to consider about a man before agreeing to marry him. I also have to do this with him, it's not a one way street.

[humanearth]

I agree 100%

[exitseven]

I wanted to marry her because she was perfect for me. We had a lot in common It was a little scary how much we had in common .

[Msputiton]

Aww.

[Sixgunsound]

Have a frank discussion about life goals and plans, and how each fit into the other person's.

[Msputiton]

Gotcha

[Msputiton]

That what made you choose to marry your wife

[Sixgunsound]

Not exactly. But live and learn.

[Msputiton]

True

[BlackElph]

If someone was patient and loving enough for me to fully open up to them without judgment. Also, if he showed me he loved me and made me feel safe.

[Msputiton]

That sounds like a keeper

[humanearth]

I agree 100%

People that say they will never get married, but in my lifetime. I seen many of them get married

Why because they truly found the ONE

[BlackElph]

@humanearth that's wonderful. I hope I found the one

[NathanDavis]

to be a redhead... that would be one thing/quick way to it... lmao

[Msputiton]

I actually used to alternate dying my hair red and blonde all the time my freshman year.

[NathanDavis]

and you also have some great hair... nice

[Anonymous]

All the usual things... similar interests, compatible personalities and sexually compatible, kind and unselfish. But for me to marry her she needs to have more traditional values. I definitely want children and I want them to be raised with a real mother, not raised by daycare workers. That is a deal breaker for me.

[77five]

Have you ever considered staying home then?

[Opinion Owner]

@77five Nope, because I'm not a mother so I could obviously never be the real mother I referred to earlier. Children deserve a real mother.

[77five]

Does the gender matter? I thought you just wanted a parent to be home. Sounds like the typical case of men wanting an abundance children but they dont wanna be the one to care for them

[Opinion Owner]

@77five I said mother, not parent. Yes, the gender matters. Despite all the woke rhetoric to the contrary, women and men are different, and mothers and fathers are different. There is no substitute for a real mother in a young child's life. Fathers are equally important, but in very different ways. Pretending otherwise does no one any favors, least of all our children.

[77five]

Pretending that wanting to uphold gender roles doesn't mostly benefit men is stupid. Im not a nurturing person. But the reason why it might seem that mothers are better is because of the amount of time they spend with the kids and the expected duties. Women are expected to take on the kids. Men are not. Its societal conditioning. Studies have shown that skin to skin with fathers and newborns makes a huge impact on the bond the child as with the father and visa versa. Women are less likely to abandon their kids because they know the dad won't take them. But the dad knows the mom will. You could easily be a better and more nurturing father if you allowed yourself to and didn't feel emasculated by taking care of your own kids. Mothers shouldn’t feel that their kids are doomed if anything happened to them. Bringing home money isn't enough.

[Opinion Owner]

@77five It's ok if you're not the nurturing type. Not all women are, and that's ok. Not all women should have kids, and that's ok too. But men who want and care about their children obviously will prefer a woman who is naturally more nurturing (as most are), for the sake of his children and his marriage. Nurturing women make better mothers, better mothers make better children, better children make better adults, and better adults make a better society.

A mother develops a unique bond with her baby, and vice versa, when the baby is developing in the womb, and that bond continues after birth. Of course a father can and should develop a bond with his children, but he can never replace what a mother has with her child, and what she gives that child. Anyone who had a good mother and father in their life knows all of this, because they experienced it. Mothers are special in ways that cannot be denied. So are fathers, but in different ways.

None of this has anything to do with emasculating fathers or fathers being afraid to love their children. It also has nothing to do with benefitting men. It's all about the children.

[Opinion Owner]

@77five I do understand that there is a lot of guilt among women who can't be good mothers, and a lot of defensiveness and rationalization among women who aren't cut out to be good mothers. There is a natural desire to explain it away as you're doing here. I get it. But none of that changes the fact that having a real mother is the best for a child, and men who have the option can and should be choosy about who they marry.

A man who can support a family on a single income will have no trouble finding a good woman who is like minded. There are plenty of women around today who lament the fact that it's difficult to raise a family on one income now and yearn for the time in our history when it was the norm. They know it's best for their children and they are willing to allow their selfish career aspirations to take a back seat to their family and children during that season of their lives. It's the most important things in the world, and no amount of denial and self deception will ever change that.

You do you. But people who are serious about a family will have different views, as they should.

[77five]

All I know if Id never procreate with a man who refused to be as much as a father as I am a mother. Thats a shared responsibility. All Ime hearing from you is refusal. You want kids, but dont wanna be as involved as you possibly can. Id want my kids to be equally attached to the dad. He’d be the father and my boyfriend, not a sponsor, which is what you think men are in families. Just a wallet.

[Opinion Owner]

@77five Not at all. You have of course twisted what I said, but I'm not surprised. As I said, fathers are equally important but in different ways. A child needs and deserves a real mother at home during their early years of life. Anything less is less than ideal. A father should be as involved with his children as possible given his responsibility of financially supporting his family.

Women who have children but are not real mothers to them naturally feel guilty because they know they are not giving their children what they need and deserve. The ones who do it by choice should feel guilty, because that is a selfish choice that directly affects their children, and they know it whether they say it or not.

[77five]

Whats mot a real mother to you?

[Opinion Owner]

@77five One who pays someone else to raise her children for her.

[77five]

Oh… but the man can work and be a parent part time. If she does it, she's bad. there's zero logic with men like you so idek know why I waste energy on this. You won't change.

[Opinion Owner]

@77five Of course I won't change, nor will the other people who put the needs of children ahead of their selfish ambitions. Men and women are different. Each have their strengths and weaknesses. Ignoring that in the interest of someone's notion of "gender equality" is bad for children, and for society.
As long as there are people who try to make it about gender equality rather than what is best for children, there will always be children whose needs are not taken as seriously as they deserve to be.

[77five]

Its you thinking every single woman and man is the same. My strengths are not in child care. But I could be with a man where thats HIS strength. Pushing this gender narrative on people WILL be the cause of bad parents. Dont go against your OWN nature because some idiot (like you) tells you you're meant to fill a certain mold and role. Gender doesn't matter when it comes to childcare as long as the care is good. I would never tell someone theyre supposed to do something because of their sex. Id encourage them to pursue things they are naturally good at.

From my own experience, if my parents were in traditional gender roles, we would have been homeless YEARS ago. My mom was the breadwinner. My dad does not have a work bone in his body. Also could never keep a job. They did what worked for them.

[Opinion Owner]

@77five There will of course be exceptions, just like in anything else. For example, there are a small handful of female basketball players who might be able to cut it in the NBA. But if we opened up the NBA to female players and let them do their thing and compete against the men, only a tiny fraction would make the cut, even the taller ones. It's not about gender, but natural ability, and the vast majority of the very best female basketball players in the world are not as good as the worst male players in the NBA.

So you're right, it's not about gender, it's about ability... but there is an extremely strong correlation between gender and ability in some very important things, and that includes basketball and mothering.

[77five]

Women have their own league. I don't know why this bothers you…. I really dont..

[Opinion Owner]

@77five Is that what you took from what I wrote? Lol

[77five]

Nothing. haven't been for marriage for about 2 years now. But I used to be SO for it. Crazy much views can change in your developmental years. Another reason why you shouldn't get married young

[kentlevi]

Great sex, not crazy, good hygiene, intelligent, fiscally responsible, same values, healthy communicator.

[John_Doesnt]

Being independent without my help. I don't like the idea of being a babysitter or a wallet for a woman, so I'd prefer someone who could take care of themselves when I'm gone without cheating on me or without draining my bank account.

[Chazmatazz269]

Never ask for it or talk about it, ever. The entirety of western culture would need to change as well.

[Anonymous]

hey if you want to get married, do the opposite of what i do. i'm sure you'll get there asap.

[Msputiton]

Oh no.
I will never get married🥴

[Emiliamazing]

Smiled at me, and accepted our connection as true🥰

[FilmGuy93]

I think that if a woman massaged my feet after work, that would be next level wifey material.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Sucking my dick better than me... because I can't even reach my own dick.

[Paul09]

Lol I wouldn't want that. I don't believe in marriage. Don't need a piece of paper to prove your love.

[Fuentes]

They can't do anything I ain't getting married ever lol

[Blackcupcake]

I don’t want to marry anyone… lol

[Msputiton]

Same. See twin momma done raised us right🥰

[Blackcupcake]

hahahaha heck yes!😍❤️

[krin_m]

It has been a long time since I was married but I remember her excitement about life, intellectual curiosity and the free spirit. And she loved my cooking :-)

[TroyDT]

Absolutely nothing. Sorry, marrying under current laws would make me a fool.

[Anonymous]

hypothetically some rich guy pulls up in his Lamborghini and tries to impress my girlfriend but she is staying loyal to me even if i have lost my job.

[Juxtapose]

Marry me in a ceremony that has no legal weight.

[EaterPeter]

Be little responsible. Dating life is different than married life.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[Zolly99999]

Just be loyal...

[Msputiton]

She can be the meanest woman alive, but she loyal.

[Zolly99999]

Hmmm ok that would be a deal breaker.. lol

[Msputiton]

Lmao

[KittyBox]

Tell me they never want to be married.

[AsaKyo]

Be a simp

[humanearth]

So you want a weak minded person, that's submissive, obeys your every word and is very dependent on you.

[AsaKyo]

@humanearth Was just kidding, sir lmao..

[humanearth]

I kinda figure that, I was giving you shit

[Msputiton]

@humanearth no shit giving 😡

[humanearth]

Ooo my boss @msputiton found me, now I have to go into the giggle box

[Msputiton]

@humanearth FIRED!!!

[JamesRandiDebates]

Win a big lottery.

[Anonymous]

wow good question... I don't know

[dreamstar72]

Said yes 🥰

[hafinjun]

Inherit millions,😁