Are You Prepared for Love? How Do You Prepare Yourself For a Relationship?

[gayesblog]

Do you have any tips or specific steps to follow?

[caring__1]

Preparing for love is transitioning from putting oneself first to showing true consideration for another. Start considering how your choices impact others rather than view everything as entitlement. If you wouldn't appreciate being on the receiving end of what you plan to dish out, come up with alternatives. Eliminate accusations, blame, criticism, demands and telling others what they should or shouldn't do from your patterns. Learn how to meet your own needs and validate yourself rather than rely on others. View what you get from others as merely the icing on the cake. Create a balance between responsibility and playfulness. Learn effective communication skills, along with how to together create and nurture a healthy partnership. Seek education before entering a relationship, learning how to avoid problems; don't wait till problems develop and then expect others to fix them for you. The value you bring to the relationship is based on what your partner appreciates, not what you believe your partner should appreciate.

[AmandaYVR]

In a way it's a good question (the second one), but it might hint at you being an over-thinker. There are maybe times not to get into a relationship. But for others, they may never feel prepared enough. It might inhibit a person, and just mask the fact that they are afraid of embarrassing themselves, getting emotionally hurt, etc.

There's always pros and cons to every situation. A person with little relationship experience is green, and might do things in a clunky way, say things they didn't mean, or say too much out of excitement or anticipation of seeing the potential before it can really be properly assessed. (Jumping in, feet first, as they say.) But more people nowadays seem to be reticent (for various reasons.) I think it might be better to ask not, am I prepared, but, what's stopping me from trying?

The only things I would say are essential are being compassionate toward the other person, giving others the benefit of the doubt (doing otherwise can sabotage an otherwise perfectly good relationship), and being a good listener. Most guys look for the girl to just treat him well. If she does that, most other things, even negative ones, can be overlooked and accepted.

[menina]

I'm not at all. I need to learn how to love myself before I'm ready to love another human being. Not to mention that I need to move to another country if I want to be in a relationship.

I guess you must know yourself, know what you want from a relationship, know your limits, know what you look for in a partner, be patient and open to meeting different kinds of people.

[Anonymous]

Preparing oneself for Love:

1) Choose - Write out what you want in definite detail

2) Make Space - Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically - For mate

3) Create a system by which to evaluate your mates.
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For example, I look for courtesy more than any other quality.
I also look to determine intent.
Does that person want a casual relationship or a serious one.
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The system is based on what you want in a partner.
However, I Only look for must haves.
I would love for her to love basketball but that isn't a must have for me.
The point of the system is for you to find what you want as quickly as possible.


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[Pinay_ako]

Nobody’s prepared for love until you’re already deep into it. Love will hit you hard before you know it. And it will hurt later and that’s another story

[SEL195]

You need to love and accept yourself first. You can't want validation or love from someone else if you yourself have not achieved this otherwise it will be a dependent relationship and not love but just love because you need it. I read a saying the other day. There is a difference between needing love and wanting love. I can live without love but i want to share my life with someone and not lose myself in the process.

[Jamie05rhs]

I think what's more important is preparing yourselves as a couple. Every relationship is different. So when you meet someone, take time to focus on them as an individual and learn as much as you can about them, and they should be learning about you as well. And you should both have serious talks about what your visions are for a relationship and how they can possibly match up, and if there are any areas of disagreement. And dream and plan together and figure out if you both can get on board with a shared vision. And then take time opening up to the other person and developing a bond.

[NatalieIshereO]

Virgins always dream

[Jamie05rhs]

@NatalieIsHereO I do dream; yes. :)

[Anonymous]

You don't. The best you can do is 1. love and respect yourself. That in turn will give you the ability to love and respect others. 2. Find somebody that is your best friend. I know this is heresy to some women. To them it's always about romance (and romance is important). But it's these females incessant need to chase thier feelings that is thier downfall. Love, real love is consistent, kind, reciprocal and selfless. I hate to steal a line from a movie but "the right person will still think the sun shines out your ass even on your worst day".

[AddylynnNightingale]

I take it slow, I don't fall head over heels for someone, I look at myself and ask why does he want to date me. Not just to see if he's right for me, but also if I'm worth dating. If the qualities I possess are not enough for me to want to date myself as a person, there is work to be done. I also need to be completely moved on from my last relationship.

[Massageman]

Date the possible guys. See how each reacts in various scenarios. How does he treat his mom? Does he respect you, your time, and your wishes? Will he listen to "both sides" of a story? Does he have an "established life" (ie, is he capable of "settling down"? ) , or is his mind still out in la-la-land? Does he have at least two or three different hobbies/interests?

[Guy13]

Be financially stable, have good credit, NO debt even car payment, 50,000 saved for a house, and across the board habits that do not exemplify gluttony and lust…. Make sense ⁉️

[PetiteBabe64]

You realize using the controller with your feet isny gonna get you an Achievement Right?

[Guy13]

@PetiteBabe64 I do not understand what you are saying...

[midnightmoon05]

Yes!! Be happy, joyful, loving…Smile, talk to others.
when you do meet him…share your happy life with him.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I think I am and I think to prepare yourself for a relationship is to make sure you're open to receive it a lot of people say they want love but they're not open to receiving love and they're incapable of reciprocating it

[ConspiracyTheorist]

If your gonna prepare for a relationship you need to prepare for heartbreak

[Nikki1989]

I keep my expectations very low, but hope for the best.

[Charliefretz329]

Nobody can ever be prepared for that roller coaster ride lol

[Iron_Man]

I’m a natural guy everything is 100% real and natural with me it just comes out my natural ways I don’t prepare for things it just happens

[Iron_Man]

But I am a planner like planning vacations planning things with the house things like that

[Nahid1707]

You have been asking some popular questions recently


You have to be ready for a relationship

[Gloree]

Be open to it. Be open to friendship. Have expectations but be flexible

[Raaj4you]

Just get to know each other well without any expectations. Live life as it comes to you.

[Anonymous]

I take love one step at a time, and never rush it.

[Anonymous]

I am still a student and earn no money, so no.

[Agape93]

I run background checks

[AsaKyo]

You don't prepare for it, it just happens