Is this care or control?

[Gloree]

I am allergic to peanuts but I love them in small amounts I cough, in large amounts I get sick.

My guy don't know as I kept this away from him. & Last week I couldn't resist a huge serving & I've been on medication since. It's so bad I have told myself I will avoid the things.

But my sibling told him the reason. And he was mad I ate the things knowing my condition. & I understand him but the problem is we attended a function in his office where peanuts came as one of the snacks.

The girls refused to serve me even a tiny portion and when I asked they pointed at him among the crowd.

I felt humiliated as it made me feel like I was under his control or something. I've not addressed the issue with him but it is paining me even if I love him.

Updates

+1 y

Thank you all. Even if most of u were harsh you helped. i have let it go. He cares.

[Guy13]

Being honest not trying to be nasty: I don’t think you understand as you stated you did.

Your judgment is so poor that you have left him with two options: 1. Cross you out because food is higher priority than life or anyone else LIVING. 2. Watch you like the child that you behave like.
—After your stunt, I would have been out. You’ll squeeze by and risk 1,000,000 for $10.00 worth of enjoyment. Can’t trust that judgment

[exitseven]

Something like this is not control, it is common sense. I gotta go along with your boyfriend on this, Be happy you have somebody that cares about you.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Rania05]

Allergies are not a child's game, he wants your good.
If it was me, I'd give away any peanut's containing food so you wouldn't eat it.
The people close to us fear for our lives and safety more than we do ourselves

[spartan55]

@Rania05
The last sentence of your opinion is a piece of wisdom I'd never heard. Thank you.

[Rania05]

It's my honor for you to be thinking so

[spartan55]

You have no self control, self awareness, self preservation... horrible judgment. But none of that matters, here but your convuluted theory that he is controlling you?
Wow, I would dump you on the spot and let you find your own ride.

[Gloree]

That's harsh

[spartan55]

Just trying to get you to look at it from a different angle.

[msc545]

He is trying to keep you from dying. Food allergies are nothing to play with.

[bowenw]

It sounds like caring to me.