Am I controlling?

[Anonymous]

I suggest my girlfriend to build boundaries and keep some distance with some of her friends after she told me that 2 of her friends were trying to shove cigarettes into her mouth. Am i being too controlling? I love her and i dont want bad things to happen to her 🫩 (we are both 17, 18 in a few months)

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We are in a LDR, we planning to meet when we have savings.

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She said she have enough willpower to not be influenced by these people, and she said they aren’t her type of people anyways and she's avoiding hanging out with them. I just had to give her a suggestion and she thinks on her own👍

[Anonymous]

You aren’t in charge of her boundaries, they aren’t yours to build. It’s fair to voice your concerns but at the end of the day you can’t tell her what to do, she’s allowed to make her own choices and you could push her away trying to separate her from her friends. I know that’s what ended my LDR, my friends weren’t giving me ultimatums, he was and that’s not love.

[lightbulb27]

no, you are good... in fact, you could have been more forceful. as it is, you can connect with her and be accountability person for her.

some people are poison, get away from them... is good advice. And she needs to honour your statement.

[slatyb]

Those aren't friends. No, you aren't being too controlling. Telling her who she could and could not see would be controlling.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, I'm all about helping young love thrive! You're just looking out for your girlfriend, which is sweet 😘 It's not about controlling but wanting her to be in safe, positive environments. Setting boundaries can be a love language of its own. But remember, she's got the final say. Keep your convos supportive, not controlling, and you'll be a relationship superhero! 🦸‍♂️ Trust is your best friend here. Keep it light, and you're golden! 🌟

[Anonymous]

Nahhh. U are just being a caring boyfriend

[Opinion Owner]

Why do u love her by the way

[Asker]

I met her on a game, she matches my humor and almost everything i like and dislike. I was lucky enough that she's not a catfish lmfao. We talked and played everyday and stayed friends for 3months before confessing lmao😭

[Opinion Owner]

Awww. How does she look?

[Asker]

Just brunette white girl, why do you wanna know this xD

[Opinion Owner]

How tall are u both. But u haven’t seen her yet right

[Anonymous]

No, you just care about her.