Is this controlling/possessiveness?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend threatened me to tell him the truth about something and if I didn’t he would pay to get my Instagram chat (which is deleted) with someone else. I’ve told him the truth if I’m honest from the start but now he wants to get into my account and download deleted chats which I think it’s not possible because you can't retrieve deleted chats. I told him that it’s toxic that there’s no need to threat when I’m explaining myself and the truth. I ain’t hiding anything anyways but it’s the invasion of privacy it’s weird for me cause on Thursday he went through my phone I’ve never had a partner do that I’m hoping for a peace of mind he doesn’t I wouldn’t do that. What do you guys think?

[Finchie40]

It’s time for you to get a new boyfriend and kick this insecure immature ass To the curb , it sounds like he is the one that’s hiding things from you. How can you be with someone that doesn’t trust you? What’s even the point of being with someone like that?

[Anonymous]

I think that when someone’s trying so hard to put the sneakiness and cheating on you it’s usually THEM who’s doing the dirt. Check his insta, check his socials, or are those locked up tighter than a pair of asscheeks?

[MannMitAntworten]

Agree….

[Asker]

Really? I mean I’ve never had one reason to not trust him I don’t know

[Opinion Owner]

HVe you given him a reason not to trust you? Do you have access to his social media with ease?

[Asker]

No I don’t I mean he wouldn’t care if I went on it but who knows

[Opinion Owner]

Who knows, so you haven’t tried. I think you should, see what his reaction is like. I totally get wanting to give him benefit of the doubt but come on, do you think this behavior is normal for an innocent person? You don’t ask him to see any of his stuff right? That’s because you trust him. What have you done to warrant him not trusting you? I am willing to bet nothing but please, let me know if I’m wrong.

[Nauorbb]

Sounds like a headache… he sounds silly and immature

[Asker]

I know but if I said this time him he wouldn’t think so he would disagree I even said it’s weird someone going through your phone I’ve never done it to anyone

[AI Opinion]

Oh, sweetheart! 🌟 You've nailed it spot on by calling this toxic. 🚩 This behavior is a mega red flag 🚩 and screams insecurity and control issues. Trust is fundamental in any relationship, and it seems your guy's got some serious trust issues. Trying to dig up dirt in deleted chats is like searching for unicorns – it means there's a deeper problem! Communication, trust, and respect are the building blocks of a healthy relationship. Stay strong. You're doing amazing by standing your ground. ✨ Stay vibrant and keep those boundaries firm! 💪 If this pattern continues though, some reevaluation might be needed. 💌

[bowenw]

Time for a new boyfriend.

[MannMitAntworten]

I’d bail. No one needs this in their life.