My ex got me pregnant and then left me for his baby mother he keeps begging me to keep it why won't be just leave me alone?

[Anonymous]

His baby mother is his doormat is he expecting me to be like her if I keep the baby? We live together until our lease ends in January there has been a few times where he would ask to have sex and told me we should be able to have sex If I'm pregnant with his child I always tell him no

[Anonymous]

You make a decision that best suits you. You have to remember you will need to show up 24/7 for the emotional, mental, physical and financial needs kf a child for a minimum of 18 years and probably have to do it with minimal support from your ex. Realistically. How far along in this pregnancy are you? Is this pregnancy what YOU want? Is this child something YOU are ready for? I've never been in this situation but please reflect on these things. If you don't want this pregnancy and it is still early, there is the option of termination. I've never been pregnant and never had to make that decision but if you feel that's the best option for you and you can safely access one then there is no shame in that. Getting a termination doesn't make you a bad person. Not to me at least. Regardless of your decision please make sure you get some therapy and if you have this child and keep the baby go through the court legal system for custody and do not set an example to your child or hurt your own soul by remaining a door mat to your ex. Adoption is also a valid option. All options are there for you. If abortion can be accessed safely where you are make sure you get support. They can even give you long-term birth control afterwards and I would also advise getting an STI test if your ex sleeps around. Sexual health is so important. Your mental well-being is important too. So whatever call you make, think about it and make what feels right to you and go from there. Hugs x

[Anonymous]

Take charge of this situation. What he thinks is irrelevant.

[Summeroflove]

He was using you for sex. Do you mean keep it as in adoption or abortion? I think that you need to move on from him.


You did choose to have sex with him and a baby does not deserve to die because of mommy and daddy's poor choices in life. If you want to give the child up for adoption then do that. But I will never be for abortion. That is disgusting.


He is BOTH of your responsibilities since you both consented to having sex and now are pregnant. You both seem to want to run away form your responsibilities and take the easy way out

[NerdInDenial]

Recommend you don't keep it and tell him to stay away from you.

[Wise4myage]

I say the hell with what he thinks and do what you think is right.