Do you feel that you should ignore those who would bring you down, or do you just forgive them and carry on?

[DubiousIntentions]

Some people are hard to deal with and are always negative. So what are you to do?

[Rosexøxø]

What’s the point of them bringing you/ me/ us down?

What happens once/ when we’re down? Do we see clearer? Do we think better? Are we more progressive? No…

There’s no purpose; they’re not beneficial to us

The action of ‘Bringing down’ does no good thing for them or us;

it’s energetically taxing for them, and it is emotionally draining for us.

Ignore those people. They shouldn’t be on the council of “me making the most out of situations, and living my best life.”

Never consult them. Don’t befriend them. Don’t give them a “podium” to talk and have their commentary live rent free in our minds.

As unlimited our brains are, I still say I don’t have enough storage/ memory for that. 😂👌

[Rosexøxø]

My response? Ignore them. No need to forgive someone I don’t take offense to. I don’t let people with that swagger in my inner circles.

[DubiousIntentions]

I'm sure most of us know a few people who are the nasty nellies who just like to give advice, as if they can actually control their own lives.

[Rosexøxø]

I don’t know that feels targeted a bit lol

In a general statement to neutralize this: I don’t think anyone is actually always in control of their lives. It sometimes everyone “loses the ball.” It all depends on what we do if we’ve lost it. I do know a lot of people including myself are not perfect enough to give advice, but they share experience.

I’ll support my own claim and say anyone who is bringing down serves no purpose. When (in the case/ scenario) someone is clearly doing their best.

So I justify my advice here (in general) because I know a lot of imperfect people and people who made mistakes have shared their advice and certainly have impacted few others who heard it, for the better.

Yes, nasty nellies would count as someone to be ignored, by me anyways. When I am working hard towards something. They’re “placed on the back burner,” to be neglected to a crisp.

[Summeroflove]

Some people you can ignore. Some you can't ignore but it does not mean that you have to tolerate them being negative to you either. But you are right. This is a great post. You are absolutely right.

Forgiveness is hard. But we want people to forgive us when we mess up. As well as... Even the ones that really hurt us many times don't care how we feel. They don't care that we are upset and hurt. They don't care if we hate them. We don't care if we love them and wished they would change. IT makes no difference to them. The only person that hurts is you.

There is better people out there. But you also can't expect anyone to be perfect all the time. The difference is good people will say they are sorry and try to make things right and not do it anymore

[Guy13]

I don’t feel as I both think and know that I can forgive and ignore. Reestablished relationship is not a prerequisite to forgiveness 🙂

[Bethany22]

I just want to forgive them and carry on

[Fireguy17]

Yes, that is a good plan, and just don't associate with them anymore either.
Surround yourself with good friends, those that appreciate you and value what you have to say.
Those type of people seem to just have to bring others down so they then look better.
You don't need them in your life, which is too short to begin with.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

When you become my enemy, my best and only move is to continue to rise and evolve, leaving you behind to eddy. Not by my own hand, but by your lack of connection to me.

[DubiousIntentions]

Sure, that makes perfect sense. Like what?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I don't know, I stole the quote from a show.

Actually. It makes perfect sense. When people try to bring you down, fight, belittle, decredit you, any energy you give that person is usually only going to hurt you.

Maybe it feels good in the moment to argue or get revenge or talk about them to other people. And maybe you're getting them worse than they got you and you can feel a sense of accomplishment but you're still hurting yourself as well as distracting yourself from your ultimate goals.

By distancing yourself from people who want to bring you down instead of work with you to succeed, they hurt themselves in that they will be viewed as hard to work/get along with. They will lose access to the value you bring as a person and they will be so distracted by petty activities that they won't even be a thought in your head in some time. You'll have moved onto other things, hopefully bigger.

If you have purpose and direction in life, its a little easier to understand.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

And I don't mean that to sound condescending. That's how I would have seen this if someone said it to me before I started looking at life like this.

[DubiousIntentions]

Now that was better said. :)

[Havthrills]

I ignore them. They don't bring me down. Why would I let them do that to me? It's my choice if I want to be brought down or not.

[SnowedIn]

Both. If I can, forgive but ignore/not deal with them/stay away from them. If they're at work, grit my teeth and forgive and gut my way through it.

[abitcurious2022]

If they come to you and say sorry you forgive them. If they continue to do things to bring you down just stay away from them. You want to avoid the arguments.🙂

[CuriousMufuxka]

Ignore. Busy your mind with better things that might bring you up or perhaps down. At least in that position, you have an actual choice.

[NathanDavis]

there are just not part of my life... so I just keep going

[Vikkrram]

If someone brings me down then i do same wid them. Giving taste of their own Medicine

[Alex8736]

ignore and steer clear

[DubiousIntentions]

How do you stay clear of a stampede of negativity?

[Alex8736]

do you work with these people?

[DubiousIntentions]

No, but you run across them all of the time. You just aren't expecting it so you are like, what?

[Alex8736]

online or IRL?

[exitseven]

I try and ignore them.

[pizzalovershouse]

Depends on how good of a friend

[DubiousIntentions]

Do you think such behavior of them is worth having them as a friend?

[pizzalovershouse]

No if there that way just get a new friend

[Andres77]

One can ignore and forgive

[Michaelnike24]

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