Why would you put up with hurtful things from some people but not others?

[nojokecarmichael]

Let's say you have a boyfriend/girlfriend you 'love' that may have said or done things to hurt you and you block them or stop talking to them out of anger or hurt... but other people close to you do the same, similar or worse yet you keep them around or still respect them. Why is that?

Why not keep the same energy for the others?

I asked someone and was told that the other people wouldn't really matter, like they don't love them so they don't care and/or they've known those people for a long time so it's the norm now. But I guess having someone you love do it to you just hurts.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Honestly because a lot of people are stupid. They don't understand respect also applies to oneself as well.
It is completely fine to make a mistake the first time by choosing a bad partner or friend... it's ok at that time because you truly didn't know and lacked the experience to read people.
Now the second time, it's ok you should've known better, but if it's the third time... that's a choice

We choose not to have boundaries for ourselves and others.

[ZenJen444]

Why don't you just move on?

[nojokecarmichael]

i have

[nojokecarmichael]

Does answering the question hurt you in any way?

[ZenJen444]

Then ok? Let it go and stop talking to the person. They're not interested in speaking to you so just move on.

[nojokecarmichael]

they have reached out, multiple times... so... i confused on what you're not understanding about my statements

[legalboxers]

You shouldn’t