Had an affair for a year and 8 months. Both of us are married. I know we are stupid and everything else under the Sun. He got caught several times. We got caught in the beginning and she called me and said a bunch of hurtful things. When he got home that night she made him call me and tell me to leave him alone. The next day when I got to work he said we aren’t ending this. In the beginning he was attentive and apologized for it after that he did his best to ignore her questions and accusing. Recently things took a turn for the worse and she said she can’t be with him but she doesn’t know what she wants to do yet. Friday was there anniversary- he did his best to ignore it. He says leading up to that she has been distant and bitchy at home doesn’t communicate and leaves him alone all day while he’s at work. She posted a video on her fb Friday saying how in love they are. He didn’t like it or comment on it Friday night I noticed I had been unfriended and blocked. Saturday rolls around and he never reaches out. Late Saturday night I get a message from him asking if I am okay - then he disappears for about 15 mins and she writes that it’s over - that he doesn’t want me she’s still relevant in his life and basically it’s over. and that was her talking to me the whole time. I still have yet to hear from him. Why would he bait me and let her message me? A close friend says she probably took his phone and he’s not fighting back. My question is why would he put up a fight this whole time constantly jumping through hoops to see each other and keep her from finding out and keep coming back to me to this weekend walk away and let her run her mouth?
Where do things go from here with an affair?
