Where do things go from here with an affair?

[Anonymous]

Had an affair for a year and 8 months. Both of us are married. I know we are stupid and everything else under the Sun. He got caught several times. We got caught in the beginning and she called me and said a bunch of hurtful things. When he got home that night she made him call me and tell me to leave him alone. The next day when I got to work he said we aren’t ending this. In the beginning he was attentive and apologized for it after that he did his best to ignore her questions and accusing. Recently things took a turn for the worse and she said she can’t be with him but she doesn’t know what she wants to do yet. Friday was there anniversary- he did his best to ignore it. He says leading up to that she has been distant and bitchy at home doesn’t communicate and leaves him alone all day while he’s at work. She posted a video on her fb Friday saying how in love they are. He didn’t like it or comment on it Friday night I noticed I had been unfriended and blocked. Saturday rolls around and he never reaches out. Late Saturday night I get a message from him asking if I am okay - then he disappears for about 15 mins and she writes that it’s over - that he doesn’t want me she’s still relevant in his life and basically it’s over. and that was her talking to me the whole time. I still have yet to hear from him. Why would he bait me and let her message me? A close friend says she probably took his phone and he’s not fighting back. My question is why would he put up a fight this whole time constantly jumping through hoops to see each other and keep her from finding out and keep coming back to me to this weekend walk away and let her run her mouth?

[Jacobbbb]

Since he's been found out, I guess he's torn between what he wants to do now. The guy's behavior is probably something like trying to please everyone and make everyone happy in the situation. He's letting his wife say whatever, which he's sorta obligated to do in a way since he cheated, and he's still checking up on you asking if you're okay. But I can't really say for sure on this one. I'm just wildly assuming based on the information I was given

As for where it'll go, who knows

[OlderAndWiser]

You are having difficulty understanding why a liar who doesn't keep his promises does the things he does? And why he doesn't treat another liar wih more respect?

Really?

[DoctorSex]

Would the little girl 30 odd years ago be proud of the woman you've turned into?

Kind regards
DoctorSex

[Guy13]

How terribly difficult that’s going to require Ephesians 5 for both and a counselor. Only hope there.

[maximumpower]

Get a lawyer and get out of your marriages.
You're obviously not happy in them.
Its NOT going to get better.

[Asker]

I haven’t heard from him since Friday. The message I got Saturday was supposedly her telling me he doesn’t want me. I’m thinking he’s done with me

[KrakenAttackin]

She is constantly pounding him into the dirt, which is why he sought an affair in the first place.

[Asker]

So why after all this would he bait me in to messaging him last night for her to write she was the one talking to me the whole time and he doesn’t want me. He hasn’t reached out to me since Friday after work

[RealDaveThomas]

If you're going to write about having an affair, at least don't go anonymous, like a coward

[noohair]

I have no idea what you are talking about. He, she?

[Anonymous]

Not clear what he thinks. I guess you'll find out when you get to work like last time.

[boggboss]

Because he can't be bothered anymore

[Asker]

Bothered by me or the situation

[boggboss]

The situation I would guess

[Iron_Man]

That’s very evil

[In_Trance]

It's not worth the effort