Has the relationship run it’s course?

Anonymous

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 years & I met him during undergrad through a mutual friend. We both had the desire to be in a long-term relationship & marriage as the end goal so everything seemed to be going fine. As 2 humans, we made mistakes & mainly have had problems with communication. We went to couple’s counseling at the undergrad uni (they weren’t the best but it was free). But, we both learned from that experience & generally had a better time in the relationship during that time we were getting help.

About year 3, he mentioned how he felt so terrible thinking about all the bad things he did to me/I did to him. I told him that I couldn’t help him since I didn’t know what to say, & recommended therapy. He said he couldn’t do it since he was busy with school. Over the years, he kept mentioning it & again I’d tell him to get a professional & he made excuses (this time it was work). I tried to be as understanding as possible but it was hard for me to already navigate through the situation because he would get very upset over small mistakes I’d make due to what he was feeling. We went on a trip recently & overall it was okay even though we still had some communication difficulties. Now, he has a very negative outlook on both individual & couple counseling. I don’t want to end the relationship since I feel like we can work on how he feels & with time it’ll get better. But he’s adamant about ending it still. What do you think? How can I save this?

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10 mo
He did also say how he’s “tired” & all that so I’m not sure what to do. He said he’s been tired before with the relationship but he didn’t have the mentality to end it during that time. I’m scared because it feels I’m the monster when I didn’t do anything necessarily wrong to him like cheat. It just hurts.
Has the relationship run it’s course?
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