I’m in the middle of a 6 year affair with a guy I’ve known over 15 years. We are both married with children, we have been having sex the past 2 years. I am fully in love, I would never leave my husband, I love him too. He loves his wife, although I’m not sure he loves me. Lately I’ve been thinking of calling it off, purely becus of my own feelings and me falling more and more in love with him. Has anyone ended an affair successfully? I’ve tried before but within a few weeks we are back in contact. It feels almost like an addiction, I feel sick, I can’t sleep, I can’t eat, I can’t concentrate and I know that will eventually pass but it’s torture. Looking to speak to people who have been in this position, not people cheated on or people who haven’t even been in a long term relationship. Yes I’m aware I’m wrong, he’s wrong, we are wrong. I’ll let god judge me when I get there.
I had an affair while I was in a long term relationship with my ex and he was also in a relationship. Mine lasted less than a year before I decided to break it off with my boyfriend bcs I realize it wasn’t fair to him. I kept seeing the other guy tho, I didn’t feel guilty bcs I’m now single and I can just look the other way about him still being in a relationship.
1.5 years into the affair I caught feelings and decided to break it off with him. He told me that he already fell for me a long time ago but didn’t want to ruin the whole thing. It made it harder for me to walk away. So I decided to prep myself and set a deadline for myself. I gave myself 3 months tops to fully enjoy my time with him, I gave him all of my love that I had with him. Then after 3 months I went cold turkey, blocked him on everything, deleted his photos, messages, etc. Got rid of all of his gifts, blocked his friends as well. It was hard but I had to do it.
I realized my mistakes, my lust have hurt a lot of people (my ex, the lover, and his girl) so for the greater good I had to pull the plug. I don’t want to be a secret, I want to openly love my man and be with him out in public. I was tired of hiding and pretending like everything was okay. If you love your child and husband more, I say just rip the bandaid off and end it asap. It’ll be hard but you gotta do it, it’s not gonna lead anywhere, you’ll only end up hurting everyone around you and also yourself in the end…
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6 years of you both cheating? C'mon. Best you clear your conscience with your husband by telling the truth and go from there.
Come back when everything crashes and burns. I've been there. Seen that. You are doomed.
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