What is the hardest part of being in a serious relationship?

[Lynn2001]

[Spiritofn]

Extra stress from simply just being alive, every small little thing & when a major thing comes, trying to get up fast enough to not look like you toppled over, keeping traditional values very close to your heart, you don't have to put a wedding ring on her but maybe if you met during a board game swear that as long as you have that board game you will be faithful.

I've tried very hard "for love & still got the divorce papers thrown at me"sacrificed my happiness its safe to say the world doesn't love us the way it used to. I've at times prayed for a meteor to crash down and hit the place cause of our ultraviolent existence & other pain I've been going through not just my life alone.

"Agony has a funny way of showing itself."

"Women demand perfection when simply kicking ass isn't good enough."

"Walking an extra 40 miles doesn't win the girl it only wins your respect."

"Smoking weed & partying is more important then learning a second language."

"When does being a kid stop"

When does someone grow a pair.

"When you have earnt your own respect is that not enough, or do you have one more jump to make."

"$$$ isn't everything but when does it or doesn't it start to matter."

"Do you want a man or do you want a person. Cause having both might not be an option."

[Guy13]

Not always being right. Letting her go to do her thing, implode, and non-judgmentally help pick-up pieces. This makes or breaks you depending on one’s (both) own level of OCD, ability to forgive, shame, and guilt reactions to both extra and interpersonal relationship

[AmandaYVR]

Giving up what was once autonomy as a separate being, and secondly, having to always consider another person in the decisions one makes. It shouldn't be this way, that you lose these two things, but it's a fairly constant balancing act, to not lose yourself, but also always consider their feelings and preferences.

[Jamie05rhs]

That's actually what I want, though. I would much rather work as a team than always go it alone. Autonomy is overrated. I believe that I was always meant to be in a partnership.

[AmandaYVR]

@Jamie05rhs You say that because you have always been alone, not in a relationship. People who have spent many years in relationships can feel differently, where you are almost never alone and everything you do is scrutinized through someone else's eyes and their preferences and preferred way of doing things.

You're entitled to feel what you feel and want what you want. But that doesn't make others' needs wrong.

[Jamie05rhs]

@AmandaYVR Fair enough. Perspective makes a huge difference.

[Jamie05rhs]

Although being alone still sucks.

[LovingJo]

Learning to be your own person. Creating boundaries. Loving yourself as much as the other person. ALL of these things need to be achieved and maintained, for ANY relationship to work. It's hardwork!! 💯😮‍💨❤️

[coachTanthony]

The hardest part is it's serious and there are lots to think about.

[SnowedIn]

What @AmandaYVR said. x10. Communication. Compromise. Learning to shut up and listen -- actually listen -- to what your partner says. Learning to actually consider another point of view. Putting yourself second. Learning about the other person so you can better fit with (not change for, fit with) their life. Accepting your flaws enough to not project them onto your partner. Accepting their flaws unconditionally. Saying "I was wrong" and finishing the sentence there. (There's no "but".)

These things are hard but must be tried.

[AmandaYVR]

Bravo. This was really excellent. 👏

These are the realities of relationships. Many young people subconsciously have the idea that the hardest part is finding "the one." It is not. And "the one" doesn't actually exist. You make one person you meet be the one for you, through your effort, compromise, and sacrifice. A magic red light is never going to go off and let you know, "This is it." Even when it sometimes can feel that way iin the heady , that is only the beginning, and you will both be tested beyond your imagination, as the years roll on.

The hard stuff is actually things like SnowedIn has mentioned here. You are tested daily. (Not by your partner, consciously, but by the nature of partnerships.)

[NathanDavis]

in my experience... probably, to find it in the first place

and I don't really mean it is actually hard or difficult to me, I am just very selective with it so it takes time to find the right person, but once you do... then most things can go smooth and great, as they happen to be the right person just as you are yourself, with them

[PrettyPriya]

Like shopping for a car really

[NathanDavis]

oh, and also... after a few good years and when things start to evolve, but you won't always remain exactly on the same page, that happened to me a few times, especially when I was around your age, you find yourself with a great great thing with a great person, but sometimes you grow up too, and a few things change, you want more and more with that someone... but that is not always possible

sometimes you're meant to complete a cycle with someone in your life, not exactly remain forever together (again, especially when you're younger) and I do not see that necessarily as a bad terrible thing, but it sure is difficult to accept sometimes, even if it is for the best of both of you...

[NathanDavis]

@PrettyPriya lmao, that is for sure... looking for the best deal out there

[NathanDavis]

@PrettyPriya looking good from any angle, I've heard that about Prius

[PrettyPriya]

That one looks like it has had front end work done. Maybe a lift of sorts.

[NathanDavis]

@PrettyPriya must be working out well, I do think it's working out pretty well, great job

[Anonymous]

It's not for free. Ever. If you take it for granted, bad things will happen. Keeping a long term relationship going through all the changes that life brings to you, and that happen within you, you changing demands on your partner, how they react, their changing demands on you, how you react. The times when you're totally smitten, the times when you're indifferent, children!, Illness.

Whatever they do and say, you need to have blind trust in the person you believe them to be and run with it.

[England4eva]

Balance. Men in my experience never back down. So I just can’t win my point of view. It can get emotionally draining, trying to explain your point of view all the time. Yet knowing not matter how convincing you are, he just won’t buy it.

[BigschlongEnergy]

You ever think that your not all that convincing like you thought?
If you were convincing People would see your view and understand but If your Not all that convincing Nobody is gonna Listen to ya something to think about sweetie.

[England4eva]

@BigschlongEnergy why are you condescending and calling me sweetie? It’s just an opinion, I don’t hate men. This is my experience lately and I’m sharing it.

[BigschlongEnergy]

I’m not being Condescending I called you sweetie because you seem like a nice person and I wanted to Address you as such.

[BigschlongEnergy]

I hope your Experiences get better nobody should have to deal with being emotionally drained all the time.

[England4eva]

@BigschlongEnergy ok, thank you. I hope so too

[BigschlongEnergy]

Yeah no problem.

[England4eva]

@BigschlongEnergy sorry, I truly have been getting the most condescending people reply to me. Thanks for a supportive message. 🙏

[BigschlongEnergy]

It’s okay your welcome.

[England4eva]

@BigschlongEnergy Have a lovely evening

[BigschlongEnergy]

You too

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Schedules and Distance. When it feels so right, but life happens.

[TrueConfection]

Being the best wife I can be, especially if I'm irritated.

[Anonymous]

From my experience, respecting boundaries, controlling insecurity and expectations are the most difficult part.

Expectations include expected behaviour from your partner, expected time that she would spend with you, efforts and lot.

[DavidRaul]

Giving each other some space knowing you both had a long busy day and still vibing with each other

[exitseven]

You all of a sudden have to be accountable to somebody.

[FilmGuy93]

For me, the hard part is making a point of sharing menial parts of my day

[_Just_A_girl_]

When it surpasses 6 months and there's no engagement

[McRonny]

Thinking about the Future. If both your beliefs and life plans can co-exist. The possibility of it ending and the greater pain from that.

[BJP21]

At your age. Finding the next place to eat out.

[Hardworkingguy]

Understanding that no one is perfect. She has flaws as well as me and we need to work them out

[dustybiker]

Fear of losing them.

[Bethany22]

The power struggle

[Asker2022]

Why not just surrender to his power, once you do, you would feel much better.

[Agape93]

If they betray your trust

[Asker2022]

Keeping her sane.

[18Uma21]

Wanting to marry but for some reason not marrying

[OddBeMe]

Not taking it too seriously.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Cleaning up afterwards

[BigschlongEnergy]

Yah I hear ya Man I wash my Sheets everyday If I fuck everyday. There’s times when I don’t even wanna wash my sheets So I Let her know I’m not interested in having sex. It’s real nice to wake up and Go to bed knowing you got clean sheets and don’t gotta wash them.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

@BigschlongEnergy HMhmhm. You only see the surface

[BigschlongEnergy]

Well I sure as hell ain’t gonna lay around In sheets for very long if I don’t have too and it don’t take very long to do laundry 🧺

[Dinosaursandanime65]

@BigschlongEnergy but the Colorado River *MISS THE RAGE*

[BigschlongEnergy]

Yeah everybody’s got there fetish But fucking in a river Ain’t one of my fetishes.

[BigschlongEnergy]

Nice Gamer pic I love the blue.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

@BigschlongEnergy I was referring to how it’s basically NON EXISTENT, and thank you. Do you think I could overthrow Pokémon?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I say jamm right

[BigschlongEnergy]

You could if you Were In that dimension and had powers you can do anything you put your mind too.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

@BigschlongEnergy https://youtu.be/FCHcieghZ_0

By this I’m basically saying I Willa overthrow Pokémon and everything else, I’ll tell you HWHAT

[BigschlongEnergy]

Yeah I mean If your that dedicated you’ll be able to beat Pokémon It is a game after all and whole point of a game is getting to the next level if they sold games that were impossible to beat Nobody would buy the games.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

@BigschlongEnergy My sights are set far higher. I’ve seen the future, I just need to get there. You’ll see what I mean. I too am aware it’ll be too different for some people, they’ll be so used to the… “usual” to where they think only that is good. But those people are in vain. My rivals may have found their chances to soar as Eagles, but I’ll skyrocket as a Quetzalcoatlus

[BigschlongEnergy]

That’s good that your aware.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

@BigschlongEnergy haters are everywhere

[BigschlongEnergy]

They sure are

[Dinosaursandanime65]

@BigschlongEnergy So, taking into consideration I’m the greatest Conga Artist is existence’s history and I’m NOT talking about completing the story mode of a game, how likely do think it is I Willa do the media/art equipment of Frieda’s Dominion plan? (Zeno, Destroyers)

[BigschlongEnergy]

I Believe in Destiny If I’m Destined to Get Shot dead tomorrow it will happen and there’s no Way to Stop it.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

@BigschlongEnergy Mm.

[Nominal]

Everything is hard.

[Anonymous]

Hahaha, i wish i knew 😂🥲

[Adam1978]

Getting there.

[lightbulb27]

his penis?

[Steamnir]

Settling for less

[SolitarySolace]

The partner themself

[msc545]

Preserving it.

[peedy]

Money issue