Me & my family live in CA. My partner want to move back to his hometown which is 41 hours away. I don't want to move. We have kids. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

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1 y

I have my own business in California and my boyfriend have a decent job also. If we move I feel like I got to shut down my business.

[Paris13]

Stay put. You will be unhappy and regret that you went. Let him go if he wants for now. See what happens. Your man has a decent job so why would he want to uproot in this economy nowadays? xx

[Paris13]

Thanks top Gag. xx

[nawtee_me]

Is it right of you to have to move if your husband wants to?

Is it right if your husband to have to stay because you do not want to move?

All thing aside, what is more important, staying together as a family or going your separate ways?

All things aside, Is it right to force one of you to do what they don’t really want to do?

[ArrowheadSW]

Part of it depends on how well you are doing where you are now. Does your family help with the kids? Is your partner making good money where you are now, compared to what he could be making if you move? If you move to his hometown, does he have a family that will be involved with the kids? Just a few of the questions to ask.

[DubiousIntentions]

What hometown is 41 hours away from California? You can get to any place on Earth in less than 41 hours?

[Bethany22]

Don't make any sacrifices for a guy you're not married to

[bolverk]

Draw up a list of pros and cons for where you are now and your partners home town, I would be willing to bet that the biggest pro in moving would be you being financially better off (State taxes etc) the biggest con for you will probably be your business, you never said what it was but could you do it remotely?

[Summeroflove]

Yikes. This is a tough question to answer. Maybe professional couples counseling. Depends if your married or not as well.


Seems complicated.

[TrueConfection]

For the love of your children, get out of CA.

[whiskeyontherocks]

I think you’ll be pleasantly surprise with how much better life is out side of California.
Not going to lie it would be a hard transition

[DubiousIntentions]

California is getting worse every day. You definitely don't want to go there.

[dustybiker]

Depends on what the reasons for moving are. Do what is best for your family.

[Part2603]

How is this even a question? California is a shithole.

[BJP21]

Speaking from experience from living there?

[Part2603]

@BJP21 YES!!!

[BJP21]

Besides it being a blue state what makes it shitty?

[Part2603]

@BJP21 The crackheads. The crime. The traffic. The wildfires. The earthquakes I don't mind though.

[BJP21]

Sounds like your in the wrong neighborhood.

[Part2603]

@BJP21 Wow. Watch your fucking mouth.

While I personally live in a nice part of Cali, I'm not the kind of person to say, "I got mine, fuck everybody else." It'd be nice to you know, visit my nearby metropolis for some culture and fine dining, without having to be afraid of being assaulted by crackheads or worrying that my car gets burglarized. I'd like my public schools to be effective and not gender theory indoctrination centers. I'd like my whole state to be nice, not just the gated community I live in. You know?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I4S9LLoSeag

[Stevefiveo]

Stay in California. He meet you there and it is important for you to stay there. Suggest his family move to you.

[Asker2022]

Tell him I’m not going to leave my family and job so that you can cheat on me with our neighbors wife years later.

[Rockerroy]

Don't move.