What is the single reason why people these days take more to find a long term partner?

[es20490446e]

[Summeroflove]

They’re a good person trying to find the right person.

They’re a bad person who can’t hold down a relationship because good people flee and they spend time with people who are like them. Like they just want sex and end up with someone who just wants sex

[Valso]

It takes time to find a low priced woman, meaning a woman who'd settle with just what you have. I'd say that's a mission impossible cuz they all want money and the more you have, the more handsome you are and therefore the longer your relationship with her will be.

[Sisters_Of_Time]

Afraid of getting hurt! Afraid of hop in a relationship with the wrong person, really! It's going to be a long term thing so I'm not just going to say yes to a guy I kind of like, that is not enough!

[es20490446e]

What would be enough?

[Sisters_Of_Time]

Knowing the person.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sisters_Of_Time Will you say yes to dating him, then? To get to know him better?

[Sisters_Of_Time]

Now that is okay! But no sex til it's official!

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sisters_Of_Time 🙂 Solid. 👍

[BlueScorpio]

Compatability I believe is what holding people back.

[inhua]

there's not really a single reason as to why people are taking longer these days to find a long term partner. it's usually to do with a combination of pop culture, social media, peer pressure, different upbringings and various tastes that are constantly changing

[es20490446e]

I'm a believer in the Pareto principle, where most of the time a few causes most of the outcome.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay, I can explain this one. It's because all of the people who are actually looking for a true committed long-term relationship (on both sides) are all very selective, and they're also very cautious. So, when you have two sides that are both cautious and are both somewhat skeptical of each other, it is naturally going to take a lot more time and a lot more effort to bring them together.

[es20490446e]

Exactly what I was guessing Jamie.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks! :)

[es20490446e]

👍👍👍

[Cedman]

Because due to apps like tinder there is a ton of competition. Also due to selfishness standards for others are often higher than for oneself. When also add hook up culture it can lead to people who only what one night stands. Third is that people are less open as there afraid of scams or being victims of crime. You have to be open to get in a relationship and people are more closed off.

[NathanDavis]

I've always been selective with these things...

never rushed it... never went for casual or flings, so to me, nothing has really changed, I still have the same approach and I've never seen it as an issue either

[es20490446e]

What is your selection based upon? 🤔

[NathanDavis]

well, that also depends...

what would you call a long them relationship? months long, years long? decades long?

[es20490446e]

One that looks as lasting indefinitely.

[NathanDavis]

non-specific... well

there are three things that have always been in my relationships, they were smart, interesting and funny... so to that, I would add two more ingredients, good timing and the shared vision of probably starting a family, or just growing together as old as possible

[Katebfun]

Well because the highway standards you have the longer you're in the game the less people are of choosing to date. Men are rulers of relationships and women are rulers of sex so in a way a woman has to wait if a man will want to commit.

[Anonymous]

Bottom line: because most women say they want relationships but what they feel really isn't in alignment with what they truly want. I think a lot of women need time to realize that they just want f*** buddies. This is why I'll advise any guy to take thier time vetting women. Most the time she'll show her true colors. And it'll save you the cost and stress of a marriage followed by a certain divorce.

[es20490446e]

Yeah, because wanting is also wanting to put the dedication it takes.

Otherwise what you are wanting is an easy come, easy go!

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly!

[Guardian45]

In this fast-paced, isolating world, we are all like atoms, zipping around never staying in any one place for more than a few milliseconds! How the hell are you supposed to be attracted to and meet someone, then spend LOTS of time together to find out if they can be a long term partner?

[Jamie05rhs]

Spending time together is intentional. It's a choice.

But I can't help you with the "meeting them" part. haha

[Guardian45]

Well, this "atom" keeps zipping around the Universe at lightspeed! I need a rest, anyone (female) out there?

[Jamie05rhs]

@Guardian45 Lol.

[Jamie05rhs]

Let's hope she bumps into you very soon! 😇

[Guardian45]

Thanks!

[chocolatesinpockets]

I guess everything is harder, expensive, and not enough hours in a working day. After all, it's modern hectic world, hahaha, I see's it as. Lol.

[es20490446e]

Why do us have scarcity of time, if today everything takes less time?

[FilmGuy93]

A singular reason? Probably that everyone wants the best they can possibly get while putting in as little effort as they can.

[es20490446e]

Hahaha!

[melanieeeB]

To have a partner in life that they truly love and who truly respects them

[DiegoO]

I have my golden reasons, but seen where the world is heading, I think we are dangerously harvesting, extreme individualism.

[es20490446e]

Probably.

[AsaKyo]

Cause' people are lazier than ever now and expect things to just come to them with little to no effort given

[es20490446e]

This.

[boobliker]

don't sit and talk anywhere near as much as we did

[es20490446e]

Did you usually talk with strangers?

How did you do it?

[Luopio27]

Ever growing and never compromising dating standards.

[BJP21]

Finding something that is realistic and compatible is getting harder to find.

[es20490446e]

I think it is related by the fact that people pursue it online versus in real life.

[BJP21]

Absolutely true.

[es20490446e]

I think that women can rarely feel attracted to someone online, hence they make up those stupid standards (that don't really follow in real life).

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Selfishness, immaturity ( in every form) and terrible advice from bitter men/women

[Marklaw12]

Women have become difficult. They sleep around and call it empowering.

[LazerBean]

Rampant promiscuity.

[es20490446e]

I suspect it shall be deeper than that.

[Anonymous]

Laziness and too high standards.