Why is a relationship harder to find these days?

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crossdressingrihno · Accepted Answer

There's a whole lot of things that contribute to it

The alphabet soup group is making everything so damn political and that doesn't help
Within the past 21 years we got to watch the world trade centers get destroyed, a large war on terrorism, a ramp up of terrorism across the world, a possible second Cold war with Russia popping up, threats of nuclear war being tossed around like candy on Halloween, multiple major pandemics, the near total economic takeover by China, Mass paranoia as well as more relaxed restrictions on the mentally ill which isn't helping and a whole lot of other b******* to go along with all that stuff.

Ultimately with everything going on it's kind of a surprise that we haven't tried to kill each other sooner honestly I feel like the whole relationships thing has to do with the fact that people just seem to be coming worse people and the reason I think this is happening is because everyone is just mad or sad or scared or dealing with some kind of trauma or maybe they're just mentally ill in general and all of these factors that I listed above aren't really helping in that situation honestly if anything what the world needs right now it's therapy

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I believe it's because everybody is selfish and everybody wants to be right or 4 guys if they can't manipulate the girl they don't want to be with her it's very sad situation everything is built anymore is built to throw it away so people have been brought up then if you don't like a relationship. Throw it away and get a new one there is no such thing as commitment anymore there seems like there's no respect anymore it's a me. Me me world
1/2 the population doesn't care how they talk to other people they want to be like little trumpsters and say whatever they want to say no matter the outcome. All I can say and believe in is
Love yourself like yourself be a giver of self treat people the way you want to be treated
And in time the same type of person will find you do not get angry or upset I think crazy thoughts because that person will find you don't become like the others and if you can do all the above then you will project this beautiful Aura around you and you'll be found but if you also do all the above it gets a lot easier to because there's still a lot of good people out there

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

I don't think it is, but I'm an optimist.

Ask yourself some questions. Where are you looking? What are your criteria?

Those are the two biggest questions. If someone has to have a certain job, car, amount of money, house... you've limited yourself. Does someone need to be a certain height, certain ethnic or racial background? Also limitations.

It's true, people have "preferences." But if you only consider people inside your personal bubble, a partner is harder to find.

Also, if you're only looking at school, church or work, those are other limitations.

Discover new ways to meet people: "Meetups" are wonderful. Online dating has possibilities. Use tried and true services. Tinder isn't likely to yield anything longterm. Bumble is supposed to be good, as is Match. Get recommendations from people you know and trust.

At your age there are plenty of people seeking relationships. Keep an open mind, chat with people in line at the grocery, the health club, the convenience store. You never know where you'll find a friend or a love! Good luck.

Squaresquirrel · Accepted Answer

People are going insane, also these positive thinking BS , you can do everything you want, you can get anyone you want,
Youtube entreprenours making millions influencing people to think "I just need to do this and this, and the 10 bombshell will be mine"
People love to believe they are special. (they are not) but most people should realize how much they suck, and how average and boring they are.
When you accept this, life becomes easy.
It's not going to be like "he likes me, but I wonder if I could do better than him, if I could be happier?"

razelove · Answer

It's easier to be a slut with less consequences. Also the people seriously pursuing relationships are generally not what women your age are looking for, I want another serious relationship. LTR all the way. I'm also poly, married, and have kids.

Anyway, those who want to settle down have high standards, those who would meet their standards generally just want to play around. At least that's what I saw/did when I was taking dating seriously.

MzAsh · Answer

People don’t want to put in the work to make a relationship last. They’d rather fool themselves into thinking easy, short term relationships are making them happy.

Sonorous · Answer

Because of how we use the internet.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I feel like women are really bad at finding what they want in a man. Or at least, they don't know what they want. The amount of woman I've seen the past few years tell me what they want in a man, pass guys who were exactly what they were describing and then move on to someone else who fits none of their criteria, it makes me not want to date.

When I was younger, I looked at dating as there's all these good options and I just need to find someone who likes me. Now it feels like there's all these dumb bimbos and how am I supposed to find the diamond in the ruff.

Seriously, y'all don't know what you're doing.

Chicks will get a nice dude who is nearly perfect for them and will go crazy trying to figure out if he's cheating or really over-the-top loves her and then get into a relationship with a deadbeat who abuses her and treat him like that's what a real man is.

It's almost like if you aren't constantly attacking and belittling them and making them feel small, then you're not a good dating prospect. To the woman who say there's no real men, I say there's no real woman.

And I don't want to sound like some woman bashing ass. I have a pretty even mix of guy and girl friends. And they're all different personality types. I love woman I think they're great. But it's very hard to find one to have a relationship with. And my criteria I really don't think is setting the bar all that high

Avicenna · Answer

I think it's a combination of things

1) More people in messed up situations that make them undateable for a long term relationship
2) Unrealistic expectations exacerbated by social media
3) Less direct contact with other people in real life
4) With online dating and social media, you're just a number
5) More people just interested in friends with benefits and hookups instead of having a boyfriend or girlfriend
6) More stable and dateable people are much less likely to be single and never hit the market in the first place

ShadowMonarch · Answer

This is a very serious matter...
First problem is the invention of dating sites and social media... while it is a good thing but it has has it's own share of bad things..
In a relationship both parties should know each other's personality, physical shape, and character.. until they meet each other directly these things can't be cleared up...

People have started to become more and more loners.. they will spend hours in their room (most of them). How can we met a good match if we dont even go out there..

Changes in behaviour
Men are getting more afraid of rejection... which leads to no confidence low self esteem... because of that if they do get rejected they can't handle the aftermath...

Still there are more factors that apply to this topic

EyeKnowMeNahYou · Answer

I believe the relationships are on and nowadays because of people's thinking. Doesn't matter what one individual may be consumed with ordained is important to themselves versus the relationship. I also believe it it's become harder because of technology. It's so much easier for someone to make the least effort via the full muscle media versus actually interactive with a person and a physical space. Not only that I think people are starting to more so consider what they'll tolerate and what they will not as well what they can or won't make time for. Lastly people forget about the small things, they keep any relationship going just as much as the major one..., communication.

Anonymous · Answer

Wanna know the real answer? And nobody will agree with this but it is the truth. The real truth. Not my truth. The reason is that we blame conditions and people instead of having the awareness to realize we are the problem. Not we but you and me. Not men, not women, but us as individuals. You are the problem. Stop playing the victim or holding resistant mentality and take accountability and responsibility. But nobody can see that that is the truth. So we go back on hating men or hating women. Good it's all good. We'll keep getting shit.

Reaper1985 · Answer

hookup culture and online dating ruined relationships since someone new is only a few swipes away.

however thanks to the internet more males are learning just how badly they can be screwed by the courts. if they engage in cohabitation, long term relationships or parenthood.

Zxoxo · Answer

Girl who u tellin!! Lol I find most guys even at my older age don't have shit together. Work, school, financial stability, living situations. But they are out here pursuing woman when they should focus on themselves. That's why half of them ghost bc they got too much distraction. Don't get me wrong there are decent dudes out there they are just few and far between that are on ur same path.

Mitt15 · Answer

I feel that the people do find relationship for short term , as their basis needs are met , however as the time pass and they know each other better , their expection increases , like how salary increases yearly , and with the increase in expectations and greed for a material lifestyle does start making relationship detoriating.

Jabberjaw · Answer

It's easier to fuck and have a relationship than ever.

It might ne harder for you to find a guy who you want to be with, who wants the same relationship type you want, and to have it with you.

All depends what you want, what you're willing to give up and if that's in line with what's necessary to get what you want.

lightbulb27 · Answer

always been hard, but less social skills, screwed up ideas of relationships, corruption in society, less opportunities to engage, fear of failure. where is the training?

our society is screwed up...

It was hard when I was your age as well... but seems a lot worse now.

wysiwyg2525 · Answer

Well there is too many paid adds what to look for, too many dating apps that are free for women only to go get free dates, and nobody really want to get married. It's a thing of the past. Society plays a role in everyone's life to include there families. Jist be you and be happy.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I think they're harder to start than they are to find. There are lots of single dateable people out there, but they don't know how to engage with each other. A lot of this has to do with social media, digital forms of communication (texting, emojis, and so forth). Also, a lot of people have serious mental health issues, so there's probably also a lot of insecurity and feelings of unworthiness stemming, in varying degrees, from depression and anxiety.

Dargil · Answer

If the Me Too, Radical Feminist and SJW movements are the cause. Men see Western women as pussies and paychecks because they offer nothing more of value. Men haven't changed much in 500 years. We have always wanted June Cleaver. More men are seeking relationships off shore. I did, successfully. I feel like I am cheating fate, and Karen, every damn day.

red324 · Answer

Nobody puts in the required effort in the beginning. You have to spend time together to get to know one another, not text behind a phone. How many times have I been on 2-3 dates with a girl and then it falls off because I'm not the person they were looking for or they think I'm a player or any number of false assumptions. How do you come to that conclusion after only a couple dates?

Chiarac2003 · Answer

The internet has given people instant rewards. No people want to work for the serious relationship.

Twalli · Answer

Because people turn preferences into requirements, and then don't want anyone who doesn't check all their boxes. If you come up with a list of everything you want and get rid of the things you don't NEED you can probably find a lot of other people. Like, for example, does the guy really NEED to be 6 feet tall? Wouldn't 5 foot 10 inches give mostly the same impression?

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Never been hard for me, hard though in finding a good man who wanted more than just sex. Of course I'm not single, and hope to never be again... but its been a long hard road to get to this point.

MCheetah · Answer

More women are entitled, stuck-up, and demand perfection, and less men can compete or be "good enough" for them (on top of more of them being simps and pathetic).

Guy13 · Answer

Get off the internet and out in the world chasing hobbies and you will find it easier. It does require effort SO have a Task too ⚽️ drawing book club Christian Fellowship etc

sassyredhead · Answer

It's simple people have grass is greener syndrome. They always have choices and options and look for the next best thing instead of working to build a real relationship.

HighValue · Answer

Because many people have an unacceptable past and bad morals which prevents them from getting a good partner.

emmajoyforever · Answer

Because you can't tell who someone really is until it's almost too late and then you lose trust in everyone and everything.

Anonymous · Answer

Men are being to picky. They want perfect and if you aren’t giving them everything they want from you then they are on to the next woman. Since they don’t have to commit to a woman to get sex, it make it a lot easier to discard them.

one1wild00 · Answer

Too many "inflated" expectations from Media and photo editing so most people don't come up to what our today's "Ideal mate" we envision is like. Also all the Scammers Phishing and pay for play gals don't help either.

DWornock · Answer

Young women have been trained to believe they deserve the best. Therefore, they have unrealistic expectations. Young men are learning that marriage is too risky due to our societies laws and family courts that are extremely bias against men.

Anonymous · Answer

Because all these FLIMSY men have become feminine and pathetic and less manly than ever before in existence.

jshm2 · Answer

It isn't.  You are just struggling to find someone to like you, but can't admit it to yourself.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Because men don't want to deal with a woman's sexist feminist bullshit. And women are too selfish up there in their high horse pedistal to come down to us men's second class citizen level.

DermalPunch · Answer

Because people have Icandobetteritis that is particular contagious on social media.

OnTheLevel · Answer

I think it's because there's less personal interaction and more reliance on social media and dating apps. Relationships are easier in person because you can get to know the real person rather than the online image they choose to project.

boldlyblu · Answer

Because people don't want to do the work and put in the EFFORT.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I don't think it is any more difficult now than it was 20 years ago.

Emilyis · Answer

Relationships are easily to find, It's just hard finding the one that you want.

RV2121 · Answer

Because of social media women have more loads of options and they don't want to settle down at their level. They want to settle up their level

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

its not, its always been just as hard, it's just that at your age and up it's harder to find friends, and friends are how real relationships happen.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

It's not hard to find for a young girl like yourself. The problem is you are Chad Chasing, which will never end well.

Juxtapose · Answer

We'll look at what has changed in recent years. It's clearly the internet and the flood of many options. Dating these days feels as wide as an ocean and shallow as a bathtub.

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

I think people lack the patience to get to know a person better.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, from a man's perspective it's because women have made sex too cheap and relationships/marriage too costly/risky and with too little benefit to men to offset those costs/risks. That's kind of it in a nutshell.

VV3ZZY · Answer

Online Dating has Ruined It! I feel my self esteem go down when I start using it because I feel like nobody likes me.

Nigjt · Answer

Because people have became more materialistic and that is not realistic that very much is the sins of the Bible it has to do with greed an lust jealousy. God Bless

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Because almost everyone is undateable. Men are encouraged to be undateable. Women are encouraged to be undateable. Forget about marriage that shit is jumping off a cliff right now.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel like a relationship is harder to stay in than to find. I didn’t start dating until I was 18 (by choice).

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Maybe you're not getting out. Do you go places? I notice people that don't go anywhere post stuff like this

zagor · Answer

What makes you think it is harder that it was 50 years ago? Now we have the internet, so at least there is quantity if not quality.

Anonymous · Answer

Relationships are generally not in high demand these days. I guess its the same as not wanting to go to Bali for vacation. Many people dont even know what or if they want something.

Anonymous · Answer

Women have the ability to fuck men way beyond their league, and their self value has been warped. A 5 can fuck an 8, and she thinks she is an 8. Men need to stop lowering their standards so low just for sex.

Paul09 · Answer

Because social media and dating apps. So garbage. So much harder to meet anyone. People are hard to trust too. Too many options for them.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I hadn't noticed that!

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because there is a large percentage of people not looking for relationships.

jahaims · Answer

They aren't. Statistically it's easier now than ever.

Anonymous · Answer

One question…. Why the fuck is a women of all people talking about this topic. Instead of coming here and complaining. Grow a pair of balls and approach the people you like.

Anonymous · Answer

Because most men are cry babies and not offer much. Just read some of the comments on here.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Cause we live in this new hook up culture where everybody just wants to hook up and no one wants a relationship

OG956 · Answer

It seems 2 me, that people don't want relationships in these days (I mean in general) + they don't want 2 understand each other.

007kingifrit · Answer

because it is harder to find work. many men won't date without work

Anonymous · Answer

Nobody wants one because they rather have casual sex than relationships. They also reject us who want to wait to commit to one person because they claim that's only for losers

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