Do you have to put lot of effort in finding a partner or is it a matter of time?

[DenizLikesTennis]

What do you think?

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4 mo

Update: I actually got to known to 2 women last year and it didn't work out due to diff. chwmistry

[provokeesmokee]

It's both, and it keeps applying to keeping said partner.

Relationships take time to deepen, explore, and grow. And they also take effort to preserve and strengthen.

This applies to learning about your partner as well as yourself.

It takes time and effort to get to know yourself, and each other. With time you learn what they like, what you share, what they value. With effort, you come closer together and express love.

Each of my relationships - from bitter to sweet - have taught and continue to teach me new things.

[Fireguy17]

Yes, you do.
It is pretty much like a job.
But like anything the more work you put into something the more you will get back from it.
I think it took me about 2 years before I found my wife. Both our second marriages.
I was on eHarmony, which worked well for me.
I met a lot of really nice women, but just not "the one".
Endless first dates, a lot of communicating before the first date, deciding on do I want a second date, do or will we have sex, it took a lot of time and effort, but for some reason when it was right, I just knew.

[DaveJord]

I have never fallen ass backwards into a relationship... but I have had a divorce and a lot of failed dating experiences. So honestly, I cannot tell you much, other than I have never just magically met someone.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think to find a partner, you have to put in a lot of effort, both in the relationship and also in your lifestyle and in your job and in your schooling if you choose to go to school, and in your house work.

[MzAsh]

If you want a good relationship with a quality partner, you do. And not just in finding one, but keeping one involves ongoing effort, forever. But if you find the right person, you want to put in the work, and you’ll find it an honor to be with them.

[MementoMori777]

Both, if you don't put in effort how will you show you are husband material right? With no effort, you are just a dude that I wouldn't be surprised if women pass right by you not knowing what you have to offer.

[Anonymous]

It varies. The best woman I've ever met found me. Did I have to put in a lot of work. Yes and no. No I didn't because it wasn't work. I was just being myself and enjoyed every minute of it.

I'm a firm believer in just be you man. The right woman will find you. And if not, at least you're not with the WRONG woman.

[exitseven]

Like everything else in life, opportunity favors the well prepared. You have to put in the work. I think that is something people don't want to do anymore.

[WhitneySnow]

It’s a matter of time but you have to go on a lot of dates before you find the right person

[slatyb]

Making some changes to increase your dating pool may help.

[Rapport]

It's seemingly always been a matter of time for me, the only effort I ever have to put in is just me being myself and that's been working out for me just fine.

[Nikki1989]

It is like anything in life. Good things come to those that work for it. Nobody is rewarded for doing nothing.

[DarkWinterNights]

You have to put in a lot of effort for the *chance* to find a partner.

[Ms_Facesitter]

A partner? No effort at all. The partner? Lots of effort.

[Justneedtokno]

I’ve put a lot of thought to wanting a relationship but no follow to it

[Molly1997]

I don't know I’ve nevver had to put any effort