How do I stop relying on others for happiness?

[Anonymous]

I didn’t ever properly heal from the last heartbreak I went through. As a result, to put it simply, I don’t love myself. When I’m sad, I’m really not at my best. I’m always tired, I sleep a lot, and sometimes it’s a struggle to be around the people I love.

The day before yesterday, I got into a fight with this guy I’ve been speaking to. Now I’m at the low point again and everything is an effort. I went to the gym and I was too distracted by my overthinking, doing assignments is a struggle because I can’t concentrate. I want to find activities to help distract me, but everything I do, the bad thoughts interfere.

Finding other activities is still too hard anyway. I don’t feel like I’m good at anything. Don’t even know where to start. The only thing that somewhat distracts me is being at work, but when I’m not at work, well, Lord help me.

[ArcticBliss]

You can hit me up if you need to vent. I have a bad habit on relying too much on others for happiness. I've been working on self love. Focus on yourself. Do things that you enjoy and have a passion for. Meditate. Remember that your opinion of yourself matters more than anyone else's. Give yourself a spa day and pamper yourself. Read inspirational quotes. In time you'll get to the point where you can fill in that void by yourself. I was crying a lot these past few days bc it's been a struggle trying to fill in this void for myself. I decided today I was done crying and I'm focusing on me. What kind of work outs do you do? I find that it's hard to focus when doing yoga but intense work outs helps.

[Anonymous]

I’m too familiar with all of this. Do the work in therapy. Write down your thoughts, keep a journal, you’ll know in time what’s happening with you.
I was overwhelmed with thoughts and couldn’t concentrate on anything, the distractions made it worse, I had to face it and allow myself to feel all the emotions I was running away from by being around people or talking to them on the phone.
Stop it, people can sense your neediness and will make you feel worst each time. You’ll be fine but do the work.

[Anonymous]

If you pray to Jesus he will help you. He is our salvation from this world. If you have repented and have accepted him into your life, you will be free. I recently got out of a difficult relationship myself. I'm still battling feelings, but prayer and reading the Bible helps. When I think about her I use that as an opportunity to pray. I knew her for over a year, but it wasn't meant to be. I've been using this time to restructure my life and get my priorities straight. I'd use this time to reassess your goals if I were you. Placing your trust in God will only increase your happiness. He'll never fail you as he's eternal.

[AlexUnleashed]

Oooh well. Yeah it's tough. Heartbreak or lostness in life in general. For me it helped to be less conscious and focus outward attention. That way your focus gets better. Therapy right now helps me a lot.

[RiJox]

Ignoring your thoughts won’t help.
I’d best for you to perhaps just journal and let out everything in the paper.


Thoughts don’t define you, they are just in the air. If you believe in them then they become your reality.


The relying on yourself part takes a lot more time. You have to love yourself.
Eat well, shower, wear comfy clothes. Do things you like, laugh a lot and acknowledge that you are in control of your happiness and you need to find ways to stay happy🥺

[Suziedicostah]

You need a good conversation dear... I Have gone through the same phase as yours. I can converse with u...
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[Suziedicostah]

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[genericname85]

easier said than done. by listening to your own emotions and feelings. taking notice of what makes you happy and doing that for yourself more.

[genericname85]

there's a technique for that. listen to your impulses. thing you'd like to do. write them down and do it within under 24h.

[sensible27]

You know, you want to be sad, it's the truth, I'm not trying to be rude.

[talulahbee]

Probably therapy tbh. If u kept having health issues u would see a doctor, no difference really in my opinion

[Unit1]

Make and spend your own money.

The physicians and pharmacists will happily take your money in exchange for antidepressants.

[KingJared24]

I’m not sure if this will help but you could vent about it

[GeneticMistake]

Become a self-centered narcissist

[smellfarts]

Hang with friends.