I love my girlfriend, we’ve been going out over a year but she has slowly started to spiral into depression and illness, and I am not sure what to do.
I am extremely unhappy at my job, my girlfriend knows this and knows I am looking for other work. The main issue is, any work I get in my field will take me across the country. I am currently in early stages of interviewing for one job. I’ve been up front with her about it, but we haven’t talked about it specifically much. No point in rocking the boat until it’s more of a sure thing.
Over the past year, she has gone from one medical crisis to the next. It is nearly non stop, and I end up just taking care of her more than spending quality time together. It’s gotten significantly worse over the last few months. It seems like her friends are also pulling away from her, which has made her rely on me even more.
I want to support her, but I am barely holding on as is with how much pressure the relationship has me under and how bad my job is. She has a rough home life, where she basically has to take care of everyone there 24/7. But because of that she doesn’t take care of herself and she will let issues pile on to the point where it’s out of control. I try to support her and be a good influence, but she has so much going on that it’s one step forward and three steps back. She relies on me almost entirely for her happiness, and it is incredibly draining for me, but I don’t know what to do. I want to help her, I hate that I feel this way, but I feel like I’m drowning. And the thing that scares me the most is if I leave for this job, or leave her, it will make her so much worse…and I would hate myself for that. The job interviews are coming army horrible times too, she is at her lowest low right now, and if I get the job, it will just make it worse. But I absolutely can not stay at this job, I know I can’t. I could really use some advice.
I am extremely unhappy at my job, my girlfriend knows this and knows I am looking for other work. The main issue is, any work I get in my field will take me across the country. I am currently in early stages of interviewing for one job. I’ve been up front with her about it, but we haven’t talked about it specifically much. No point in rocking the boat until it’s more of a sure thing.
Over the past year, she has gone from one medical crisis to the next. It is nearly non stop, and I end up just taking care of her more than spending quality time together. It’s gotten significantly worse over the last few months. It seems like her friends are also pulling away from her, which has made her rely on me even more.
I want to support her, but I am barely holding on as is with how much pressure the relationship has me under and how bad my job is. She has a rough home life, where she basically has to take care of everyone there 24/7. But because of that she doesn’t take care of herself and she will let issues pile on to the point where it’s out of control. I try to support her and be a good influence, but she has so much going on that it’s one step forward and three steps back. She relies on me almost entirely for her happiness, and it is incredibly draining for me, but I don’t know what to do. I want to help her, I hate that I feel this way, but I feel like I’m drowning. And the thing that scares me the most is if I leave for this job, or leave her, it will make her so much worse…and I would hate myself for that. The job interviews are coming army horrible times too, she is at her lowest low right now, and if I get the job, it will just make it worse. But I absolutely can not stay at this job, I know I can’t. I could really use some advice.
