Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a few months and we been going good but outta nowhere she said that she thinks that a relationship is not the best thing for her rn She says she doesn’t want to break up but she also doesn’t want a boyfriend rn and it’s really confusing me I don't know what to do
There's two of you in this relationship, so you have a say just as much as she does. However, the one person of the two who needs space or wants to split is the one who should be respected for their choice as no one should make someone stay by guilting them or forcing them into it.
She has had her say that she wants no relationship -- but wants you around enough to keep you as a backup for something. So how do you feel about this? If you are okay with this arrangement, then you should agree that you'll both be faithful, but not spend so much time together. (This is pretty much what married couples are like :) )
If you're not okay with this arrangement, you can't force her to spend time with you. So you'll have to decide to stay or leave it for good.
I'm not saying this is her, but is possible she's an aromantic. These are people who do not enjoy or even understand romantic companionship or cannot engage in it whatsoever. They will still enjoy sex, and still love you and be in love with you, but they have no pull to being in that situation that most of us know as when we're in relationships that include spending time together and basically "coupling".
Then there's the more likely scenario in which she needs space because she doesn't want to always be around you at all times and enjoys her solitude. Maybe she feels a bit smothered in your relationship. She can still feel love and want you in her life, but needs to take it slow, or needs to make it clear she needs her alone time too.
Okay so coming from experience when I had a boyfriend. He told me the same thing and what I can really say is she's probably just asking for a break from dating. She doesn't have to break up with you and you guys can still talk she will just probably stop flirting or whatever you and her do in y'all's relationship until she feels better physically or mentally. I can't guarantee what will happen but I'm just saying coming from expediency.
u She can’t just stay that and get out of it she needs to explain herself and why no explanation at all nobody does that. If somebody really likes you, they wouldn’t do that.
Well, you have to decide what exactly you want. If it doesn't match what she wants, I think you two should split up.
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Ah... she wants to build a roster and keep her options open. Did you commit a fatal flaw like telling her your feelings or telling her you see a future with her?
let her go then go find another girl to keep you happy
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