I'm in love with my friend who got a girlfriend, it's breaking me apart ik it's wrong wtf should I do?

[Nehahahhahaa]

He nd I were in smth like a band together for a competition. We just clicked asap music = love nd like it was a friend thing first he once told his friend that he got a soft corner for me same from me we eventually shared some deep trauma things since according to him we felt emotions same he nd I r in deep depressed we used to talk bout our therapists this that, on the competition day he was so nervous he holded my hand entirely even layed on my shoulder played w my hair I was just happy eventually it turned into love he cares bout me like a sister maybe I don't know I'm dumb lol he got a girlfriend it is wrong. Whenever I cry he just comes nd cheers up me nd we stopped texting after it then he popped up again once saying he was gonna die then I somehow managed to comfort him he said I'm the only one who cares bout him blah blah he loves his girlfriend so much even tho he hv said she is just meh I thought their relationship was bad or sm but it is not I don't wanna be a home wrecker we r very young by the way high school he used to text me every day double text if he didn't get a text back everyday good morning good night with the <333 everything was fine. Until last Thursday I don't know he just dipped he became so dry? Maybe it's just me thinking all the goodnight goodmorning stopped everything stopped i tried to make a conv by sending him a reel of a puppy but no left me on seen. At school he waves at me we talked today he didn't smile didn't look at my face it felt weird maybe it's me I don't know he was saying random shi nd then said bye nd left. I don't know what to do i want him as a friend idc bout boyfriend at this point I just want him it hurts I miss old things I'm worried bout him too he just made me feel alive he used to tell me to come to meet his birds nd we could go to beach the carnival etc carnivals in 4 days we haven't talked lol

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ok I wrote this while I was panicking sorry for the language. Nd I never tried to get into their relationship nd ruin It I always encouraged him to be more open to his girlfriend. It was a nice friendship I never showed my "crush" towards him nd I'm aware of my actions pretty much no one knows about it. Well I'm just confused why he stopped talking with me out of nowhere I was always there for him nd he was there for me.

[Rosexøxø]

Okay I didn’t read the whole thing- stopped half way

BUT

HURRY AND TELL HIM

how you feel of course. A simple break up and early on in the game will not hurt her. Tell him you have some feelings and ask him if he could koi’s you so you can see if you do have feelings.

See what he says (if yes, that’s good). If he does kiss you that’s a possibility.

Then after also reflect and see if you also do have intimate feelings for him or not. Making sure you’re sure of your feelings and sharing that with an important person is helpful 10/10

Better to say it, than live with regret and wonderings about ‘what if’s.’ Also ask him if he has any feelings. He could just be respectful of the friendship and not see anything yet.

He might want to keep a friend who cares, but he can still have that in a relationship- a friend who cares, and you can too.

Better now, than when it’s too late and he and the other girl move on, or hurt each other more- which somehow always affects other relationships too.

Best to you sis! I’d move on that opportunity and really great friend who also happened to be a guy. Seems like a win-win to mee? 🤷‍♀️

[Rosexøxø]

Okay he probably likes you and he doesn’t want to mess up the friendship if you’re so nice and all. Tell him and everyone be clear and not confused and hurting in the dark. Good friends show each other wounds right? So don’t stop being friends now? Tell each other what wounds you have and still the desires and dreams you have. A great friendship will only get stronger that way. They never grow through lies and deceit.

[Nehahahhahaa]

If he's happy with her I don't know if I should ruin their relationship let them be like dat. It's just the fact that he stopped talking outta nowwhere

[Nehahahhahaa]

Nd ty ur nice :))

[Rosexøxø]

As you get older. You’ll realize some people will truly be one of a kind. You realize they’ll die. You’ll die. I’ll die. Sorry to seem intense, but with that reality- it just gives a sense of hey, I really should try to make it work with this person. If you think he’s a rare one of a kind guy and friend- try to at least keep in touch as you grow yourself. Some people are irreplaceable. I guess as you do get older you will meet more special ones. Ones who know who they are and you will know who you are even more. It’ll be easier to keep people in your life at those times. Be young- have dreams, but if this guy is special as I may have assumed him to be, make some small effort to just keep the tie there. If he doesn’t seem to value you back for any small reason. Then yeah, probably let a dude, or any person for that matter, go.

I personally just don’t want you to miss out on the friendships with people who show they really care about you.

We can’t mistake when we find people of value and who VALUE US.

I hope if not with him or besides him, you will find great people who value ALONG YOUR OWN JOURNEY. Your dreams and aspirations and wants are important.

Alright I’ll leave it at that 😂👐

LIVE IT UP

[WhitneySnow]

Be honest. Confess your feelings. Maybe he likes you too.

[Blackmoonsns]

It's normal to feel a certain way about a friend especially if it's a friend of the opposite sex and if they're in a relationship with someone else it's a moral dilemma it can cause breakups of friendship from your female friend from him it really depends it is this is this boy worth pursuing and losing a female friend over or or not but if you do it you will develop a reputation and it will not be favorable.

[Staximus]

Did you read this before you posted it? Jumping Jesus, your writing is atrocious. Just appreciate the good times you had and keep moving forward with your life. What's done is done. Don't dwell on the past and drag yourself through the mud emotionally. Maybe he will pull his head out of his ass eventually, but you can't wait around for somebody to come to their senses and appreciate you.

[Rosexøxø]

You know she’s a girl- why would you talk like a bully (not even a teacher) or critic. She certainly didn’t come on GaG for that. Leave her be dude.

[Staximus]

@Rosexøxø why do you keep replying to everybody like this is your question

[Rosexøxø]

LmaoOOOOO I LOVE THIS 😂👐 okay I screenshotted for memories. Thank you 🥰

I really love this comment 10/10

Don’t care if you dgaf I love it 🥰👐

It’s seemingly true, but to correct you and piss you off hopefully- I answer to comments that catch my attention AND I reply with the mindset- that I grew up in a free country and had pretty free-spirited parents.

Before you hate on liberated women or something that’s not my game 👐

This country belonged to the stallions not the natives or colonials. In MY PERSONAL OPINION. I’m a free spirit like them.

Sure they’re an animal!

But I’m free-spirited like them 😌

I covered all these points so you don’t give me c… rudddddd lol

Cya?

Cya 👋😂

[Rosexøxø]

OH! and I find banter with people, and testing their soft spots, occasionally as mental stimulation!

CyAaaaaaaaaa

*echo fades*

No hard feelings. Good discussion 👋☹️

[Staximus]

@Rosexøxø it's just a little strange, like you're taking over their question

[Staximus]

@Rosexøxø those wild horses were brought here by the Spanish

[Rosexøxø]

Hey! Sexy dude! They have a longggggg history 😳👐

You wanna talk about Pangea and the egg or the chicken and Big Bang you go for it- you’re the one who wants to open a can of very veryyyy long worms lol

So here’s an article to start and there’s many more like it with helpful conclusions

And supporting evidence

returntofreedom.org/.../

[Rosexøxø]

Do you feel I’m taking over? Am I too dominant for this crowd? Do insult/ offend/ or overwhelm anyone?

Is this not a social site?

Can public discussions not be discussed?

Is this what the world of PANGEA HAS COME TO?

I rest my case 👐😊😌 lmao

[Rosexøxø]

DO PEOPLE NOT WANT TO LEARN AND BRAINSTORM.

nah y’all ain’t ready for me chicken pea 😂😂 lmao

[Rosexøxø]

Maybe I should seriously go to law school? What do you think? 👂🙃

[Staximus]

@Rosexøxø Yeah they crossed over the Bering Strait and then croaked during the ice age. You don't know Pangea haha

[Rosexøxø]

Who are you explaining this to? Lol I’ve read on this before! Do YOU love horses?

is YOUR favorite car the MUSTANG? 👂

Was PANGEA YOUR favorite topic in history?

Hmm 😌

At least my comment has helped you remind yourself things taught in school ☝️😪🐎

I think that’s a win 🥇😍

[Staximus]

@Rosexøxø I think we should be pals, pal

[Rosexøxø]

Why does this feel malicious? You really wanna be MY pal? 🤨 I thought I was offensive 😌

[Staximus]

@Rosexøxø not really offensive

[Staximus]

@Rosexøxø my grandma used to drive a 67 mustang

[Staximus]

She was one mean motor scooter

[Rosexøxø]

😯 that’s awesome. What do you think of the electric stang?

[Staximus]

@Rosexøxø that 4 door thing? That thing is an abomination haha

[coachTanthony]

If he wanted you he would of chosen you. Can't force someone to love you. Let it go and move on. Sorry.

[Summeroflove]

It sucks. But don’t pursue it if he’s got a girlfriend.

[Rosexøxø]

Why not?

[Summeroflove]

@Rosexøxø because he has a girlfriend

[Rosexøxø]

Someone else said the teen stuff is temporary anyways?

If a girl liked you and you just started casually dating someone you were JUST crushing on- you wouldn’t want that girl to admit it to you? I thought men struggled with knowing just how much s girl is into them?

[Summeroflove]

@Rosexøxø if he breaks up then fine. But you don’t have forever to wait around

[Summeroflove]

Find someone else. If they’re meant to be they will be. But don’t approach while he’s in a relationship

[Nehahahhahaa]

Yeah I know, I've never tried doing that I just was there for him as a friend if he's happy w her I'm fine with it I just didn't understand why he stopped talking nd ty

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I would say that’s probably the best. You’re welcome

[OddBeMe]

A. You’re 15. No one finds their one true love at 15. Sorry. Not questioning your feelings just stats.
B. 15 years olds tend to bounce around relationships so don’t get so down and don’t screw up your friendship with this guy. Give him time to figure it out. We’re dense.
C. No sex til you’re 18. Now go to your room.

[Rosexøxø]

No truth and stat is this- they already bond better than you and your mother, probably, and she likes, trusts him, and wants him, and he’s a healthy male who likes women- I think they have a chance to make a nice bond, or a friendship that will last after high-school years.

Okay sorry on the mother part but everyone is being negative on this girl and I literally don’t see why

[OddBeMe]

Woah woah…I meant romantic-ish relationships… 15 yr olds ain’t getting married.

Unless they’re Mormons.

[Rosexøxø]

I don't know maybe there’d be higher stats on people who get together and use two brains for the better- and not an obligation or weight, if they didn’t let society tell them “how it is.” Or “HoW it’S gOnNa Be” 😂 I mean- just look at all the hitory of past rapes/ murders- on to some divorces/ and now these lack of marriages and even social banter. It’d be easy if they didn’t have ten people in their ears, and follow crowds like hardcore homosexuals who are gonna marry their friends.

I’m not mad this time 👐 lol and this may seem like a bit of an unnecessary “rant,” but it’s only my response to what seems like an already unnecessary on-going rant from the “myth-made-alive,” “battle of the sexes.” Who even has time to make up this stuff? Amirite? 🤣😂

[Rosexøxø]

But yeah, you’re right about the stats and young people, whether they don’t like it or others do- only naturally and scientifically have one way to go and one thing to do, and that’s to grow.

I root for the exceptions and hopefully more exceptions will be the “thing” and normalize that for once- especially when the exceptions are a good thing.

[OddBeMe]

I think it’s ok to point out teens are inexperienced in “love” and romance. Especially when older pedo adults try to date them.

But yes, I have several friends from when we were young teens. They’re not stupid, but like anything else romance requires experience. Can’t walk onto Wall Street and start brokering.

[Rosexøxø]

Can never get the experience until you get the experience lol

But valid points and it’s wise to educate just don’t educate all the BAD points and if no one wants to educate on the good points and why to even want those things- at least say the very quick staple: there are still some good points/ benefits. I don't know hopefully she’ll get that if she reads this thread. 🤷‍♀️

[Nehahahhahaa]

🏃‍♂️ ik ik teens can be dumb and yeah I'm just gonna let him be for a while nd see what happens nd yessir no seggs lmao

[OddBeMe]

Now go to your room.

[slatyb]

You can be in love with him. Who knows? His current relationship may not last. In the mean time, be open to dating others.

[Anonymous]

You have to learn to ignore all that and move on. Sadly, it will happen again. It's a part of life.

[RandomGuy1030]

No it won't happen again. You need to learn how to pursue what you want. Just because you had to accept you lost your battles doesn't mean she does.

[Stevefiveo]

Sounds like his girlfriend got to him and she got jealous of your friendship. Try befriended the girlfriend.

[Rosexøxø]

That’s a far jump- even for a guy? I don't know..

[EaterPeter]

Give it a time. Let it unfold. Don't initiate anything yet. If they break up don't just jump right in.