Does this guy who has a girlfriend like me? So confused.

[Anonymous]

OK so this has been going on for too long now and I just want to know what the deal is with this guy. I've know him for about a year and a half. when we first met we both flirted and he told my best friend that he thought I was fit and asked questions about me. I liked him too but was always too shy to approach him. then it happened that we had a lot of mutual friends and we ended up going on holiday together with our friends. however, at this point he was now kinda seeing someone. he made me confused when he brought me drinks and stuff on hol and then we kept getting close when we were drunk (we never did anything though as I always had in mind that he liked/was seeing someone else and didn't like this). after hol some of my friends said they thought he likes me and its confusing me so much! when he was still has his girlfriend we were out one night (the girlfriend wasn't there) and he was saying all this stuff about how he couldn't get close to me on hol because his mate really liked me (which was true) but wanted to and he kept hugging me etc. he would and still does always teases me and a while ago it got too much.he really annoyed me(it was around his mates) so I stopped speaking to him all together and tried hard to forget about him. I did but just recently he text me out of the blue and I tried to stay mad at him but I always give in to him and we text all day. then he text me again a while after and we text all day again. he seemed genuine but he's also always trying to be funny and confusing me and he seems like he loves to get on my nerves.he knows he does and I don't understand why! it drives me insane.he still has a girlfriend but still continues to do all this stuff to irritate me and he asked my friend the other day if I really hated him. I just want to know if he likes me or something or whether I'm totally wrong. confused. help please.

[Sarah3]

I am currently in a relationship with someone and I know that if my boyfriend would be doign something like that I would definitely hope that the girl at the other end would be smart enough to be like "hey buddy what's the deal?" He is playing games with you and this other girl. What I believe you should do is 1. talk to him and tell him that you know he has a girlfriend and it isn't right what you two are doing. its not fair to the other girl. be straight with him because if you two do both like each other you do not want to start a relationship hidden away from this other girl because once you are with him you will be the one wondering if he is txting some other girl all day. Then if that doesn't work out you should confront his girlfriend about it tell her what's going on. I mean I understand it seems extreme but I would definitely respect a girl who would come up to me and tell me what is actually going on. This guy isn't worth it if he goes behind his girlfriends back and flirts with you and txts you all day. It just isn't right.

[hershey20]

i am in the EXACT same situation, kind of eerie to read your story actually haha. I am slowly finding out however, after not seeing him around for a month or so, that my guy just wanted to have a one night stand..that would be why he was paying so much attention to me and flirting, according to my friends and his friends. I have not heard from this from his mouth, so I still have a slight doubt..but in realty it is probably true, and may be similar in your case. I do feel your confusion all too well though, since I am still confused and can't STOP thinking about him..but just keep your space and be cautious, and just see how it goes. You could try just coming out and asking him what he thinks of you too, that would be hard to do for me personally, but you will definitely get an answer ! Best of luck in your situation :)

[Asker]

Thanks, its really nice to hear that you know how I'm feeling, lol not that its good that you're having to go through it! I'm the same, can't stop thinkinh about him and the whole situation. its stupid. they are both probably not worth it. I really want to stop caring cos I feel like I'm allowing myself to b th stupid naieve girl that falls 4 th player guy who just messes me around and I'm not usually that girl.i hope ur situation wrks out th way you want it to :) and be strong, dnt b messd around with :)

[Anonymous]

I don't think he likes you. He has a gf. If he did like you, he wouldn't be with her. He's playing one of you

1. Either he really does want his girlfriend to be his girlfriend and you to be the girl on the side

or

2. He's just using his girlfriend until something better comes along

[Asker]

I know what you mean abouy playing. my friends say he's an idiot. bbut why would he keep contacting me and trying to get my attention for no reason. its just so stupid.

[Robertinho]

Ummmmmm...you want to know the truth, its simple he's playing around with you. And the only reason your confuse is because you like him and your playing along with his game. If he really did like you, he would not put you through immature things that he's doing with you. But to make matters worse, he has a girlfriend but still plays around with you like that, hmmmmmm. Well ms, its your choice but be careful, you don't want to get hurt for nothing here. Good luck but remember some things are not always what they seem to be.

[bytesunfish]

If he's the type of guy to send obvious signals to you while he has a girlfriend he's definitely not the guy you want to be with regardless of any other positive qualities he may possess. Simply imagine if you were in the girlfriend's place and he was flirting so openly with another girl. If anything were to happen between you two that could be a sad and hurtful reality.

[honey0509]

Some guys really love drama, and you picked him! reads to me like he does like you. but it is your fault for giving in. he's just playing mind games stop leting him and stop talking to him. he has a girl find a different guy

[stalinhornsby]

Blow it off for now ; until he ask you out. Then ask him about "what's her name?" clear your head and move on. But, let those free drinks keep coming. :)

[RipnRawhide]

if you think he likes you DONT go for him...there is nothing worse than a guy who purposely looks for other girls while dating!

[selectivethought]

It's feasible, it seems that way. Grab life by the horns. =D>

[Anonymous]

At first glance I would say yes he is playin with you and being a jerk. However I had something like this happen to me and I couldn't let it go I kept getting in deeper. I felt the way you do, very confused. I didn't know when to let go but in the end he left his girlfriend (we never did anything while they were still together) and we have been dating now for over a year and a half.So go with your heart or you gut it won't steer you wrong

[z3lln3r]

He likes having fun. If he does like youvits not enough to take action (ask you out). Sooooo I say he either juss wants to hookup or juss flirt with you for fun. You him happy & he likes being around you.

[Asker]

Thanks this helps. and makes sense. so do you think I should forget about him? cos altho I like him, I'm sick of feeling played and tired of thinking something might happen. :(

[xwoahrachellll]

He does all that stuff to irritate you becuase it's his way of flirting! Yes, he may have a girlfriend but he also may have a crush on you, or his personality might just be very flirtatious, you should just ask him about it.

[toulouse]

HE HAS A GIRLF FRIEND. end of story*

[Anonymous]

what is this guys name?