Why is this guy curious about me even though he has a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

We met in college but never talked that much. I had a hunch that he had a slight crush on me which turned out to be true. At the end of the first semester he tried to flirt with me but I ignored it because I was insecure and thought he was too good for me. A week later he tried again and I ignored it too.

Years later during the pandemic he found out through a friend that I had an obsessive crush on him but he told him that I was not his type.

Another 2 years later he sees me in the lecture hall and turned around to stare at me in a very obvious way so that his friends noticed and tried to bring us together and he made a romantic playlist about me.

Now he seems to have a girlfriend (he posts vacation pics with her, tags her in stories etc.) but he secretly stares at me from afar and gives me a last glance at the end of the lecture before he leaves the room or looks kinda scared when he sees me entering the room.

What does he want? Is he only flattered that I liked him and needs my validation? I would like to get to know him better but I don’t want to be used

[sage2021]

I think he really likes you and wants to get to know you but he feels like you are out of his league, that he's not good looking enough for you or something else makes him feel intimidated, so, he presses in with other girls. At least his world hasn't stopped and he's stalking you.

When I met my ast boyfriend the same kind of thing happened between us. He was bald with just a very small area in the back of his head that was white. I don't look my age. I look a lot younger than I am. When he came in my apartment for the first time, he saw different pictures of me in different times in my life. He thought I was hot when he first saw me. But honestly his bald head didn't bother me at all because his personality was what attracted me to him. He would draw pictures on small pieces of paper of a bald guy looking over a fence or something as if to tell me he liked me, but he was embarrassed
because he was bald. He kept that up for a while till we talked about it. We walked around the apartment complex holding hands and we became a couple, but he always still felt like I was too good for him. Our neighbors used to tell us we looked like a good couple together. He didn't believe them either.
Maybe your guy is feeling something similar to what we went through. Could be.

[johnnydeeeep]

The real question is @anonymous, why are you so interested in him, it's actually arousing, must be and not a lesbian

[RoseySarah]

He wants another girl even though he has a girlfriend!

Of course cause why not at least maybe dreaming of a fling with you!

Guys often don't care if they like someone!

Look at the stories of guys having 2 gfs and 2 different lives or wives

[Asker]

But my question is also does he find me attractive or is he just flattered that I liked him but he finds me ugly?

[RoseySarah]

He is going to use you no matter what happens!

Your alive that is all the men often care about regarding looks for if your pretty.

[Asker]

why did he reject me then when his friend told him i liked him?

[RoseySarah]

Probably his girlfriend was near! That or his friend knows his girlfriend and he did not want them telling her!

Also to mess with you confuse you so you want him more! Manipulate you to think about him... It's working

[Asker]

he didn't have a girlfriend at that time

[RoseySarah]

Probably thought you were someone else?

[Asker]

lol no

[RoseySarah]

Then he thinks your ugly and just wants into your panties the sex probably sucks with his girlfriend.

[Asker]

but everyone says im prettier than his girlfriend :( unprompted

[Asker]

and he used to find me pretty years ago

[RoseySarah]

Probably are

[Asker]

what?

[johnnydeeeep]

You spund like you are ok with being used by him and there is nothing wrong with it. It sounds like he legitimately likes his girlfriend that he tags in posts on social media, but that he thinks you may like to be an easy piece of pussy and distraction on the side and that you are willing to give it to him the way he wants and not ask for more.

I think you should and I also think you should lete have fun with you similarly

[Asker]

If he likes her so much why does he still make an effort to stare? I don’t give him any positive signals

[johnnydeeeep]

Yeah you do your just unconscious of them. If you don't give him positive signals you surely wouldn't be talking about him on this platform in your free time

[Asker]

I Don’t give him any signals. You can have a crush on someone and the other person would still not notice

[johnnydeeeep]

I know that you earnestly believe that you are not offering him any signs, but I can assure you that you are.
I can see them from here, further that id why they are called blinds within the discipline and philosophy of science, because they are ours and we can't see them

[Asker]

Ah ja. So explain to me how would he notice if he always sits in front of me 20m away?

[Finchie40]

He stares at you because he wants to bang you and finds you attractive, If you show interest in him , it sounds like he would easily kick his girlfriend to the side for you

[Asker]

so he doenst really love her?

[Finchie40]

If he is checking you out and staring at you like you say he does , then No he doesn’t really Love his girlfriend, he just likes the convenience of her , When a guy really loves a girl , he pretty much becomes blind to other girls’ out of respect for his girlfriend , not saying he doesn’t look, most people
will look at someone they feel is attractive walking by , but they wouldn’t stare , especially if his heart was already taken by his girlfriend or wife , , so the fact that he is staring , shows he is pretty much leaving himself available , whether he acts on it or not , it’s still shows his true colors that he really doesn’t value his girlfriend. Because I guarantee if he was in a private room with just you and you flirted with him , he wouldn’t hesitate to make out with you , so that’s the difference between looking and staring , Staring is a sign someone is pretty much interested in you , Girls’ do this as well when they see an attractive guy , it’s pretty much a clear sign somebody wants you , especially if they lock eyes with you , if I lock eyes with a girl, i am pretty much letting her know I am attracted to her and interested in her and hoping she feels the same about me , Some people will act on it and some
Will not , especially if they are shy or nervous. So it sounds like this guy really has the hots for you for sure

[cbaymesee]

Because he doesn't care about her. But he is unlikely too care about you either and is probably making eyes at other chicks too. If you decide to be a wedge and insert yourself between him and his girl, don't be surprised when he does the same to you in a month or two.

[Asker]

Ok but how would he act with a girl he cares about?

[Lara_Croft]

Bruh, just ignore him. Don't open up your heart to someone with eyes in front and in the back. If he can act like that with a girlfriend, he can do the same with yoj

[Momma-404]

B/c sometimes guys are just assholes & don’t care about you nor their current girlfriend

[Momma-404]

Or don’t really, actually care like you might think.

[Asker]

How would I know he cared about me?

[Momma-404]

I’m just saying since he has a girlfriend already, yet still looks at you, etc., he just seems really immature

[Anonymous]

Abuse he’s a man. Men don’t stop looking at other women just cause they have a girlfriend or they’re married.

[Asker]

Come on, they've been together for 2 months. At this point he should be head over heels for her and not search for another girl in a crowd and secretly stare at her from afar

[Opinion Owner]

Lol I love how women dismiss when men tell them how men think. You know this because you were a man?

[jeffend888]

You're in your mid-late 20s. You are wasting precious time in which you don't have a whole lot left.

[Asker]

Sorry but I’m not attractive to attract many men

[jeffend888]

Any woman who wants to be married or in a relationship, will be. You will always find someone desperate enough to date or marry anyone.

[Asker]

Yeah but I want a decent guy

[jeffend888]

We get to a certain age and we need to settle. It's nature. Nobody can stop time.

[Asker]

I don’t Need to settle

[WhitneySnow]

He’ll break your heart if he’s got a girlfriend

[JHAYES317]

Doesn’t matter. If he has a girlfriend, do not pursue the matter. Just ignore any advances

[Asker]

well i am not so sure if he has since he flirts pretty aggressively with other women

[JHAYES317]

Maybe he’s in an open relationship. Or maybe he’s cheating. Either way, if I were you, I wouldn’t get involved

[pickles77]

It’s hard to say. If I like a girl I’ll end up staring at her just because I’m infatuated but if it’s cause your ass or tits that’s different

[Asker]

I do have ass and tits but he looks at my face usually

[Asker]

I think he also tried to make me jealous yesterday by flirting very loudly in front of me with two other girls