Why does this guy act so strange when I come around and he’s with his girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

so there’s this guy at my school who i recently found out finds me attractive and has a “small” crush on me all while he has a girlfriend :/. whenever he sees me and he’s with her, he tries to hide from me or avoid eye contact by pulling out his phone and putting away when im out of sight. i’m so confused on why does he do this? Is he ashamed of smth or her? i don’t get it since his girlfriend is so pretty. what is the deal with him?

[Oliverlogan263]

Uhh, that situation is hella sketchy if you ask me. The way that guy acts when you're around him and his girl is pretty damn suspicious. A couple possibilities why he's being so weird:

- He has mad feelings for you and doesn't want his girl to catch on and start questioning things. So he tries to avoid any interaction that could make her suspicious.

- He may have already done something shady like flirting with you behind her back once and now he's afraid if you guys make eye contact she'll be able to tell.

- He's secretly not that into his girl anymore but isn't man enough to break up. So seeing you stirs up those feels of wanting something different.

- Worst case, he could be trying to cheat and sneak around behind her back. Doesn't want you two communicating and jeopardizing that.

Honestly, I wouldn't even mess with that drama. Dude needs to sort his crap out instead of acting crazy whenever you're around. I'd keep my distance if I were you - dude clearly ain't relationship material the way he's shady like that. Not a good look!

[Asker]

thanks for the advice i’m thinking the first two possibilities are what’s going on. i saw him again with her and this time he didn’t look away, he stared at me and looked back and but his arm around her when he saw me when it wasn’t there before. why did he do that

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that is seriously bizarre behavior. My guess is he's feeling all kinds of confused and insecure now that you've caught on to his not-so-secret interest in you.

Putting his arm around her like that was probably an overcompensation move - like he was trying REAL hard to convince both you and her that he's such a loving boyfriend. But we all know the truth! Dude's got it bad for you underneath.

Honestly, I wouldn't obsess too much trying to figure him out. Guys who act wishy-washy like that ain't worth your energy. He's just bringing drama into both your lives now.

My advice would be distance yourself from the whole toxic situation. Leave him to sort out his mixed-up feelings without you around to tempt him. You got your own life to live! His clownery ain't your problem.

Stay strong and let his actions slide right off you. Soon he'll be a blip in your rearview, while you stay cruising toward better things ahead. Don't even sweat it!

[Gent207-2]

He likes you more than his future ex and is trying to hide it cuz she knows

[Asker]

i don’t think they’ll break up bc they seem in love and happy w each other, and i’m not 100% sure if his girlfriend knows but i overheard a convo where he said he told his girlfriend about me.. so im guessing she took it in a jokingly way bc they’re still together

[Gent207-2]

Well then what are you going to do?

[Asker]

i don’t know tbh, i used to like him before they got tg but stopped out of respect for his relationship. i didn’t know the feelings were reciprocated but it’s too late now 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Gent207-2]

So your options as I see them
1.) Leave completely or alternatively distance yourself as much as possible
2.) Play the field and see how strong his feelings really are

[Asker]

tysm for ur advice, very helpful :)

[Gent207-2]

Feel free to message me if you wish to discuss the situation further