How many of you would relocate for a relationship?

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I am moving in a few days to be with my boyfriend. It takes a lot for me to feel comfortable moving out of state to be with someone. I know the risks and know that it could be a big mistake but you only live once. So tell me how many of you would relocate for a relationship?

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

I did, but in my case it was to a different country. I wasn't that nervous, I was more excited. But it did create a whole host of issues over the many years. But we are still together, married, 22 years later. Most LDRs break up, and more than half of relationships do eventually end, but sometimes they do work out. I felt very strongly about him, and wanting to be with him. It was worth the risk to me, and I am not much of a risk-taker in some ways. But in love, I am. I'll put my heart all out there and let the cards fall where they may.

Good luck to you. Have fun with it!

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Have you left yet?
I did do what you're doing only I moved 3,000 miles to a Southern state and my son was with me.

I'll tell you it is very nerve racking!! We drove my stuff in a 24 ft. Ryder truck and towed my car on the back. Many things went wrong on the long trip there.
To save time, I wasn't planning on getting married to him, but leave it to his MaMa, she had the pastor of the church come to the house and he talked me into it. She didn't even tell me he was coming over.
We did buy a house though. But got divorced 4 years later.
The end.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I would move for a relationship, if necessary, when I retire in a few years. It would be impossible for me to move now. My girlfriend moved from Gainesville to Jacksonville to live with me.

Guy13 · Answer

Leaving the NE and the snow... GREAT TIMING !! I have never had to make this kind of move. Job there and all that too?

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would not relocate unless we were married or had dated more than 2 years or they lived close by so I could go back home if there is a problem in our relationship and marriage that involves either conflict or poverty.

lightbulb27 · Answer

after 5 years I moved 10 hours away to be with my now wife. She also moved about 1-2hours from where she was. it's worked out well as everyone is happy, I love where I live and it's added a lot to each of our lives. I resisted moving for long time but once I committed to the idea, I was not nervous at all... just challenged with logistics.

My relative moved across ocean to be with his now wife.

So yea, it can work. Can it fail horribly... yes. A lot of this depends on the situation, how well you know each other, etc.. You need to explore those nerves to figure out what they are saying...

you are moving to ohio from east coast?

Anonymous · Answer

I think part of it would have to be how serious we were about each other, where it was, etc.

Lets say, for example, I had to move to Alaska for her… It’d be hell for me, personally. It’d be one of the hardest “pivots” I could imagine doing. I think that if it was permanent that she was going to live full time, with dating, it would either be the end of the relationship (or we’d be doing a long distance relationship). With marriage, I think it would have to be temporary or we visit… And if she was unwilling to budge, and unwilling to visit me, then I think it would make the relationship a lot more difficult. Moving is a BIG decision. If she’s never willing to compromise, and it’s always me, then moving for a relationship is going to be much harder than if she was always compromising and it’s like, “ok, it’s finally time for me to support HER.”

Den1971 · Answer

Well. The relationship you have long distance may possibly be way different when you get there. I hope not. Then you may be stuck in a place you don't know🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔. People change. They really do. All I can say is , have a nest egg. You may have to get out quick. Always observe his behavior. Even though I may have been together for a year or so or two years it's been long distance he ain't been in this space for 2 years or 3 years or nothing like that so you might see some things that you don't like you may see some things that you're unprepared for but whatever it is be prepared expect the unexpected but don't put expectations on anything if that makes any sense.

Francis655 · Answer

Trust me, it's a huge step forward. You'll definitely feel the absence of your family. But, if you've already been skipping time from them. Then, it won't be much of a difference. I'm currently having same experience with my partner, because she get really anxious when she feels the absence of her family. And it gets even worst when his out for work and you are left alone in a strange place. It takes two minds to get over that feeling. I wish you all the best though and hopefully he supports you through those moments.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Why would I relocate for a woman who should just cheat and leave me? Happened once when I moved to be closer to my ex to go to a college in her area and she cheated on me. Twice. So absolutely the hell fuck no

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AimeeKyle · Answer

I have…. but not before becoming engaged…. That was a requirement of mine since I had to sell my house to do it….

Stay positive and put your best foot forward. If things ever go negative…. there’s no shame in tucking your tail and move back. My sister moved long distance, then back and off to a different long distant state for someone else…. It worked out for her on her second attempt.

Good luck!

Jamie05rhs · Answer

What's your backup plan? You need a backup plan. Don't give any man complete power over your life.

I wish you hadn't posted this at the last minute. You're putting us all in a very awkward position. We love you and we want to support you. We just hope you're making a good decision.

desidoll · Answer

Yes I would. I am moving from Malaysia to the States (for marriage) in a couple of months and I have mixed feeling on this as it is the biggest decision that I have made in my life. I hope things would work well for me.

mermaidcancermoon · Answer

Yes. I almost moved once, but he had anxious attachment and grew paranoid and canceled the whole thing. So I've been wary of long distance ever since. We met up in person multiple times so it wasn't as though there was any fake roleplaying. I would recommend others move to the same city first.

BlueScorpio · Answer

I wouldn't uproot my life for a relationship unless we've been together for a long time. It's a rather risky move cause if the relationship doesn't work, then leaving everything behind you built up would of been for nothing. I would move cause I want to and there are better opportunities, I would do all this before getting in a relationship.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

I would only relocate under the following conditions

- they brought up the idea of me relocating
- they took interest and presented ways to make it convenient for me rather than not considering how I would be affected
- they told me they'd like to leave and made me going with them a qualifier as to whether they actually would.
- we were married, engaged
- defending in reason they leaving in first place

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I wouldn't because I've got 60,000 records to tote around and 4 sets of drums, among tons of other stuff. But, you don't have to worry about what you're doing, you'll be perfectly safe here with me!

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Long ago, I resided far away from home while we were struggling to maintain our LDR.  So, I decided to fly back home to be with him only to find out he flew to join me on the other side of the world.

LaBokaChula · Answer

I definitely would, I've done it before, I relocated at a young age and I stayed until Aug of this year, now I am going to go back to where I left. (not due to a relationship. I hate the area that I currently relocated to lol)

Bricealan · Answer

"You only live Twice" Ms. Bond, Hard decision, I know.

AsaKyo · Answer

If he was worth it and I knew that was the only way we were gonna be together, I would do it

I would still make sure I had money saved up in case things went badly so that I could move back if I need to

likelyOK · Answer

It would really depend for me at this point in my life we would have to be getting married and the move would have to be practical. It also could not be to a whole other country

talka20 · Answer

Not much experience to answer this but hey howre u Tamm?

exitseven · Answer

I would leave the state but I would not go to another country.

menina · Answer

I would relocate for sure. I would even move to another country or continent. I have nothing to lose.

Mia-Wallace · Answer

Been there, done that. I have the means to relocate to almost anywhere in the world. I would do that.

Andres77 · Answer

only if the relationship was already stable... and i had a good job as well lined up

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I would if I believed it was the right thing and I loved them the only thing is I genuinely can't live in a city. But I would be willing to work with my partner to do what works best for the both of us.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I would… I’ve been wanting to move anyways so it’s just a matter of 2 years until I finish school and I’m definitely planning on moving, whether single or in a relationship

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

If I felt like she was the one, then yeah, I would, but even then, it depends on where I'd go.

chocolatesinpockets · Answer

Used to think so, now I realise I would only ever date local. Or be in a relationship local. Just my opinion about myself.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Good luck! I love your attitude about only living once. Risk not, gain not.

kellytheman · Answer

I not sure I could just relocate to a different place or state for a relationship unless it was a committed one or we had a child together. I never done but if I really truly love the girl and she feels the same I give it a shot.

MadClown · Answer

I don’t do relationships, I only do marriage.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I haven't but I would if I felt the person was the one. I wish you luck and keep us posted I'd love to here how it goes

Hairylegs222 · Answer

I own my house and have settled in Oregon for many years now. I don't see myself relocating. It would be if she wants to come live in my house with me.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

I would considering I met this person multiple times before.

Anonymous · Answer

I have way back when I was 30. When my girlfriend of 3 years graduated high-school and went off to college I went with her and got a new job and rented a house so we could live together.

trumpets310 · Answer

I would if it's a place I would consider moving by myself as well

katiesmuff · Answer

I did it once and big big mistake. In less than two months I was back home.

blushing_boots · Answer

How long have you been dating? What were the reasons for moving to be with him and him not moving to you?

loveslongnails · Answer

That would depend very much on WHERE I was relocating to. I don't care how much I loved someone, there are places where I would simply never, EVER move to or want to live.

Crankor · Answer

The likelihood of meeting your best match where you currently live is very slim. i have once and after 13 years I'm doing it again ha. Though I can say it's a much different situation now

Anonymous · Answer

Well darling love n feelings are fine... But bro have backup plan... I'm definitely 100% sure you will need back up plan 😜

Gramkabir · Answer

You are a true believer and you believe based on logic and trust. So go on girl...

ChillaxingLove · Answer

If I was in love and she also loved me, I would cross the Atlantic Ocean

cookieman12 · Answer

It depends on where it is and how far it is and if it’s a place I could see myself living in. Something you can suggest would be you guys both move somewhere in between or just explore a completely new place together

annabananna · Answer

I have done it. I didn’t have anything tying me to my location so moving wasn’t a big deal.

sheikalana · Answer

I would only move for love if I could still exercise my job at that country/city.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

My career can be done anywhere, so yes, I would happily relocate for a relationship.

Marklaw12 · Answer

Nah, the love ain't that serious. If she loves me so, she better relocate for me then I will appreciate that even more.

DiegoO · Answer

I would have done that in the name of a never-met LDR. Geez, not sure what would come out from it.

Noahzaid · Answer

I never got the Idea of relocating because how did you meet in the first place!!  and if you just met why would you sacrifice your whole future for that person!

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I have thought about it. I know people want to relocate to me

Guido · Answer

I have moved for a relationship ship. 12 yr marriage and then divorced. My son tried it twice and didn't work out either time.

Utopia1 · Answer

I would but before I would I need to be with the person for a while and really get to know and understand them to make sure we’re compatible

msc545 · Answer

I might if it was someplace I could stand to live. There are very few places like that in the US (California, Hawaii, and Florida keys (maybe).

Tennessee_fan · Answer

I would if it was really something serious and we had been together for a good bit

Anonymous · Answer

I moved 8,181 miles, but I wanted to move anyway.

Billlewis · Answer

I will absolutely relocate to the destination of the woman I'm serving's preference.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. When I was younger yeah I would have. But I can't imagine meeting a woman that I'd be willing to uproot my life for now.

ummi59 · Answer

I did that for the sake of love too. Dont worry you will be happy with him

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