Is taking space really helping?

[Maybe_1day]

Many of you must of gone through a period of argument, misunderstanding or though time to continue the discussio. Many must of experienced giving space or being told to give space. But giving or requesting space really solve the issue?
Especially if it has happened 3-4 times in a relationship.
My actual question is, how many times can someone ask for a space? Are we going to request or give space each time we argue? Does it really just cool you off or does it solve the issues? Or more importantly, does repeatedly asking for space ruin the relationship more because of it not really helping the issue itself?

[OlderAndWiser]

If "taking space" means not discussing an issue until raw feelings have started to become less painful, that is a good idea. But that shouldn't take more than 24 hours. Anything onger than that would make me suspect that my partner is someone who avoids resolving conflcts.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Maybe_1day]

You're welcome.

[Guy13]

Space and back in two days is how I operate especially if she is a hunt you down and screamer-vocal type...

[Anonymous]

do you talk about the issue before or after the space has been given? if not, then it is useless and may need to give up on the relationship.

[Maybe_1day]

I didn't quite get it. The problem is that the issue is there, we get into an argument, she wants to refrain from saying bad words or even saying "It's over" out of anger... she just wants to cool off and then discuss it later. But honestly speaking it happened like 3 times alone this year with like 4-5 months periods in between.

[BJP21]

Its actually important taking space so you can get level headed and, work through the issue, it only escalates when you dont come to a resolution by keep arguing.