How can I feel less lonely?

[Anonymous]

I just started university and I really like it. I also met so many nice people already. However, I‘ve never felt this lonely in my life. My boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago. My friends from school moved to different cities and the ones that are still here don‘t really want to hang out with me anymore.. it seems like they all have their own lives now that don‘t involve me. How can I stop feeling so sad and lonely? I really need someone to talk to. thank you for helping me 🤍

[SecretsofKB]

Hey! So not quite the same situation for me, but I went to a college where only 3 other kids from my school went because it was far away.

So I was stuck at this large college and knew almost no one. And I'm not really an out going person at all. I just got to know people on my floor and in my classes. My roommate became my best friend.

Just take the time to talk to people and hang out if you get invited.

[Asker]

thank you! I still live at home so meeting people on my floor is unfortunately not an option. I will try to be more social but it‘s difficult for me..

[SecretsofKB]

Ahhh I see. It definitely is difficult at first. It will happen naturally

[Asker]

how long did it take you? I only started uni 3 or 4 weeks ago but I feel like most of the others already have their friend groups :(

[SecretsofKB]

Honestly, I probably didn't develop my main friends group until second semester on my first year. And that didn't truly solidify until my second year.

[Bethany22]

Does your university have a cafeteria? You can always go there and if you see people you know, just impose yourself on them and sit down with them. Join extra curricular clubs. Take advantage of the different free psychology or counselling services offered on campus. Maybe the counsellors can suggest ways for you to meet people. Many students are in the same boat as you, so someone on campus should be able to help you.

[Asker]

thank you :) there is a cafeteria but I am too shy to just sit down with the other students I know, I don‘t want to bother them or something. maybe I will try the second suggestion if it doesn‘t get better. thank you!

[Guy13]

www.meetup.com will have university people.

[Avicenna]

Join organizations at your university

[NadiaChepiski]

You could start eating a lot and drinking alcohol by yourself.

[Anonymous]

Find a social group you can join.

[Asker]

how?