My actual boyfriend was married when we met?

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

So when we met at work,4 years ago he was married.

After 1 month he started flirting a lot, non stop... hitting on me nearly everyday.

To the point other coworkers were saying:dude you are married. Leave her alone.

He wouldn't... Even i while rejecting him told him:go out with your wife! Or when he was making sex jokes inviting me places. I was answering: go and tell this to your wife! His responce:fuck my wife, she can go to hell.

I rejected him, insulted him, tried to humiliate him.

This continued for 7 months. Then she sued him... he got 6 months in prison.

Got back. Sued her, because she lied. He lost home, clothes, his car, everything...

During ALL this time he never stopped flirting. It was second year... then the 3d year He calmed down abit and started asking me more politelty to go out with him.

I said yes... and we are together for 1,7 year now.

He confesed that everytime i ignored him or rejected it turned him on even more.

CAN I BE CONSIDERED A MARRIAGE DESTROYER?😔

[meetkitty123]

You're the only one who knows that you answer to that if you're feeling guilty ask yourself why and you're not giving us much details to why they got a divorce nor are you giving us much details to why you gave in to him.

Not every marriage is a good one and not every man who look for women outside of their marriage are necessarily in bad marriages.

Not every marriage is an actual love marriage but not every man who say they are in a bad relationship are telling the truth.

We are Gagers are only guessing you are the only one who truly knows what the truth is.

So did you break the marriage? Why do you feel this way if his marriage was broken?

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

I dont
I just dont get why he kept living with her if it was all broken
He could leave her and come to mee
I didn't accept him in part because of this
They broke up because she sued him and sold all his belongning while he was in jail

[kylee2437]

Yikes a woman acting like she’s that special to the point he won’t do the same to her. You lose them how you get them. Good luck

[Andres77]

Sounds like he is a mess all by himself. If that’s how he disrespected his own wife in public, talking trash about her, then he too readily crosses boundaries. There’s no guarantee he won't do the same to you.

[FilmGuy93]

Not a marriage destroyer, but you are an absolute fool for linking up with this guy. He's proven to you that he's a nutcase, and here you are shacked up with him.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Why is he a nut case
He is totally normal

[FilmGuy93]

For starters, he repeatedly ignored your rejections. He’s shown you that he violates boundaries. He’s shown you that he has a temper. He’s shown you that being in a relationship won’t stop him from making moves on other women.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

He said it turnrd him on that i ignore him

[FilmGuy93]

Yeah. He’s a habitual line-stepper. That’s part of the thrill for him.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

What is line stepper?
Even insulting him turned him on

[FilmGuy93]

A Line stepper is someone who regularly violates a boundary. Someone who you tell them not to do something, but they do it any way because they want to. It doesn’t matter what you tell them, they do whatever they want and see it as a victory when you go along with it

[AviatorTom]

Marriages are destroyed from within, don't blame yourself.

[ConfusedGirl100]

If he was still legally married at the time you started dating. I would say regardless if they hated eachother or not, you could be seen as a homewrecker and that's why you never get involved with any married man until he is legally divorced.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

He wasn't with her when we started dating

[Guardian45]

As someone who is divorced, I can tell you that ship was sunk before you arrived!

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Oh... so thats why he was flirting with me?

[Guardian45]

His divorce would have happened with or without you. So, yes.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

He said regection made him horny

[Guardian45]

Quite possibly

[Guardian45]

Just remember to keep him wanting you more than any other woman!

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

How?

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

How do i seduce and tease him?

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Must be subtle

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

We work in the same office and dont kive together yet

[Guardian45]

Always be sexy to him and flirt with him. If you're good at it, then you can try being coy or tease, but don't overdo it!

[In_Trance]

He did that to his wife.
He'll do the same thing to you when someone else comes along

[Guy13]

Alright.