How do I start datingif never had a relationship before? Should I just start asking out random girls or people who I have a connection?

[poneglyphs]

At this rate the only thing that's growing is my bank account and my loneliness 🙃. Anyway so, how should I meet women and not be afraid to them that they're my first girlfriend? 🤔🤔🤔

[NathanDavis]

the problem here would not be asking someone out...

even if you did ask someone out and then they say yes and go out with you... what would you offer them?

you often say you want sex, other times you say you want a girlfriend... this is what you want, this is what you would take, or receive

but, what do you give? what do you have to give in order to take, or to be reciprocated

you should not even start to considering any dating with anybody, till you first resolve these things... who are you really, what are you, what is your worth, what do you have to give, and once you have it and know all that, are you actually willing and wanting to give someone all that worth you have? or do you just want to take

or are you just after the sex?

[exitseven]

I had a friend that told me that if a girl looked interesting he would just ask her out, He said the worse thing that can happen is she says no.. He got shut down a lot but he also went out with a lot of girls. One day we went to a local convenience store because he said there was a girl that worked there that he was going to ask out. He asks the girl at the register if A was there. It turned out A wasn't working that day but he was able to get her phone number. So there was a pay phone there so he calls A on the phone. It turns out there were two girls named A that worked there and he was talking to the wrong one. He talks to her for a few minutes and asks her out and she agrees to it. That year I figured out my own way of asking girls out and I went 5 for 5 that year. You just have to get up your nerve and do it. I know it is hard at first but it will get easier and you will get more confidence even if you get turned down.

[AmyHew1tt]

Please don't start asking them out at random. Only ask a girl out of you actually have taken a personal interest in her. If you really want a relationship, not just what goes with it, then you have to be willing to be patient and put in the work. We want to be dated because you want us, specifically. Not because you want somebody.

[poneglyphs]

Yeah you're right I just have to find someone first 🥺

[AmyHew1tt]

You will :)

[PinkRose24]

I've never been in a relationship either lol

[RealMarek]

No need to ask women out at random. That would seem desperate and women don’t like desperation. Ask women out who seem attractive or interesting to you, and make sure your standards aren’t unrealistic (i. e., if you are a 7, don’t filter out all the women who are less than an 8 or 9; some men do this). Keep growing your bank account. You’re making progress there, so keep it up. That helps with confidence.

[Anonymous]

Yes, just dive in and go for it, but don't make yourself look desperate in the process.

[Anonymous]

Cases like this just make me mad