Guys, What do men like in their wives?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are rekindling our romance after having our baby and I’m hoping to see what might make him like me even more. I’ve been trying to ask him about himself, his experiences, advice when I need it, etc. (Only when the time is right) but I want mens perpectives. I want to be who he turns to when he can’t go to his friends. Any conversation topics/ advice? I want to be his best friend again and not just his baby sitting partner. Thank you!

[SnowedIn]

Learn about him. His work and the people in it. His hobbies. The sports teams he likes and how they are doing in the season. Who his friends are and what they're up to.

But.

Both of you should be doing this. I'm concerned on your behalf that in your words you have to earn something back or do something. Having a baby is a massive change for any couple. And it continues for many years. The pregnancy, too, is very stressful for both husband and wife.

I would encourage frequent conversation between you both that doesn't involve the baby or family finance. Just talk. Stupid stuff if you have to. Also, go out for dates at least weekly. Does NOT have be long or fancy or complicated. Get coffee together. Just be out just you and him. Trust the baby with a babysitter. Learn to woo each other again. He should also do what I'm about to say, but rekindle the desire to look nice for him however you used when you dated and before you got pregnant (both my wife I looked terrible at the end of the pregnancy and during the first baby's first years).

[BLP11520]

If you listen to him and care about what he is dealing with at work. His emotions, men have them to behind a shield. Wives should be the ones we trust the most. My wife cares about herself and what she wants above everything and everyone sees through it