or the question could be, Would you attend to a gathering knowing your ex-husband will be there or you won't mind?
Do you think that is a issue of being mature if you attend and wotn affect you or it is a matter of not feeling comfortable in the presense of your ex so you skip the activity?
A close acquaitance of mine last year got separated from her husband, they both share a 9yrd old daughter. This wife and husband from many many years they both belong to a sports team that practices a certain sports discipline. Both for years were on the same team, they train together, they both attended social sports activities together as a couple. Things changed last year, they got separated but they neither one quit the team, they contineu to belong to the same team and train together, but now their interaction between them inside the team was different obviously, they hardly exchange conversations when they train, only things related to their daughter period, but not even in a civil way they talk anymore. When they train now each one stay in different parts of the gym in order to be apart and hardly speak to each other. The wife, though now is the BFF of another team member who is gay and this gay friend all in the team know him for years too as the team has like 11 years of existence and we all been in that team for that amoutn of time, but the wife since she got separated last year she became very very close to this gay guy that they hang out together socially, go to have drinks with other people as well or just by themselves, on social media they both express feelings of how much they care for one another as friends and how they support each other. and that they are the best BFF ever. When it is training day the ex wife only now speaks in one side of the room with her BFF and just him
Since this separation and the team sometimes plan social acitivies, like small team parties, like Halloween gatherings, holiday parties, this ex wife stopped assisting to all of the
The ex husband is the total opposite he always like to mingle and enjoy the social activities with the rest of the team member and he always says yes. Let me tell you that neither one of the exes are currently dating.
Is that a thing of being mature and do not care if your ex is there or is it matter of just being uncomfortable being at the same place as the ex?
