I know the best advice would be to stay out it, do nothing and say nothing. I honestly have no idea what their is like. Worst thing you could as a friend is interject yourself into their relationship.
With that said, it depends on how good of a friend they were. There definitely one or two people that I would screen shot the profile and share with them IN PERSON. I would text it them. But everyone else I would ignore it, and sat nothing to them about it.
What I would do I'd message the wife in app, and say hi to her. Let know I saw it, screen shot it and take I know who she is.
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I would screen shot it and send it to them and say "OMG this looks so much like (blank) LOL
That would mean I am single and looking for someone, so if my man's homie didn't know who I was, I'd show interest... if we met up in person. I'd text my friend to come meet me at this place. Like OMG guess what? You'll never believe who I met for a date... come check it out, cause you literally won't believe me if I just told you.
Like oh, well you know he was on this dating app, so thought you should know.
If he knew who I was, I'd tell him, simply because I've been cheated on and would want to be told.
If he don't believe me, not my problem.
I would just show them the page and let them take it from there. If it was me, u would want to know instead of my friend keeping that away from me. Also what's worse is your friend tells you and you slip it out you knew or they find out you knew, they will also blame you for not having their back as a friend. I've seen it happen before.
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Stay out but keep a distant eye 👁 on things. Hang out with him more and prove without him realizing it etc.
I woukd not tell him until he opens up that area of his life conversation.
A screenshot and an email or text is what I would do. But they might have a twin sister or brother or a lookalike cousin.
I would not tell my friend, but I might send a text to her on the app and ask, "Does hubbie know about this?"
I don't like playing games.
I don't like people playing games with those dear to me.
If I can confirm that my friend's spouse is "browsing" on dating apps, I won't let it slide.
I will show the evidence (the account itself and some screen shots) to my friend.
Say nothing. Maybe try to hint or say anon. Though my experience on dating apps is that most profiles are ghost profiles from years ago of people no longer paying for their services but didn't bother to deactivate the account. I got into some trouble a while back over my plenty of fish account still being active though I haven't been on it since 2017. But try explaining that to a 6 month pregnant woman who thinks you are trolling the Internet for strange ass.
ABSOLUTELY 100% Show her! Nobody deserves to be treated with that level of disrespect, and as devastating as it would be for her to learn that the man she loves and trusted has betrayed her… It’s better she learns now than if she finds out later that you knew and said NOTHING!
Screenshot and send to them. If they're good, cool, if not, then they know now
There is the possibility that it is known by the friend/SO. being all consensual? Then that would open it up to talk to them or just contact over the app?
So many different avenues that can be used in this one I would think.Good question by the way. Often wondered that, but where I live not many people use it. And those that do you know who they because of how many people are in the area.
Will first talk to thee sponce about it
Give them a chance to explain qnd think about it, then tell my friend
It may be ok with her, or it may be something else, I prefer not to jump on the "there evil" right off the bat
But she should know if they did not tell her and she care for itScreenshot her profile, swipe right and probably pace through my house for a solid 10 minutes.
Sometimes couples set those up for fun so I'd just be a little torn on the correct course of action. I guess it depends but it would probably be some flavor of probing the friend to see if they know, doing it again in front of the partner who put up the tinder and go from there based on the reactions.
Depends on the friend really. I have friends that would do this to her first. Thier whole life is toxic to me. That one I'd just leave alone. Because odds are he knows anyway and I don't want to get tangled up in that stuff. But I have other friends who are r ee ally good guys and easily exploited by women. Him I'd tell.
Call them, let them know gently send a Screenshot if requested. I'd want my friend to do the same. I wouldn't be so worried about "getting involved" if I'm watching my friend be blissfully in love and loyal to their partner who is not giving a fuck on a dating site.
Wow that is a problem. It is really nasty to be dragged into infidelity. No matter what you do or don't do once you become aware of it you are involved in very personal nasty betrayal. If you take the attitude that it is not your business you are helping the cover up. If you disclose than you are getting intimately involved in the relationship.
Screenshot and send it. This is my friend we're talking about. My brother from another mother or my sister from another mister. This isn't causing drama if there is already drama. This will confirm what they suspected or inform them of what's going on.
If they are open/poly, I'll apologize and back away from it.if we have kids, I'll confront him about it and would probably give him another chance. and if we don't any kids, divorce babe, divorce.
Most likely they will deny it and maybe stop talking to you. So I wouldn’t interfere much. Or if I do I won’t go with a file and screenshots that’s creepy but maybe keep it short with a sentence or so ,, I was scrolling thought this dating app and I noticed your husband profile pic. If they deny it or accept it you leave it at that don’t prolong the conversation
Depending on the friend and depending on the spouse I might set up a date...
Not everyone is monogamous, and there are friends who I'd be open to being a playmate with... And too, if they're on there without their partners knowledge, it's liable to scare them off of it.
I've been caught on dating apps before while dating people, and it's so damn annoying. I would keep my mouth shut- if they're not getting what they need in the relationship it's not my business.
I have seen that. I did tell him. What’s a man in the US gonna do? He can live with a cheating wife or divorce her and let her destroy his life. That’s like a choice between a shit sandwich and cyanide.
I wouldn't do anything if I saw my friend's spouse on a dating site. None of my business. It would be in any case up to them if they wanted to discuss the matter with me, because maybe they agreed with each other.
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