What would you do if you saw your friend’s spouse on a dating app like Tinder?

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Would you tell your friend or would you just let it go?

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I know the best advice would be to stay out it, do nothing and say nothing. I honestly have no idea what their is like. Worst thing you could as a friend is interject yourself into their relationship.

With that said, it depends on how good of a friend they were. There definitely one or two people that I would screen shot the profile and share with them IN PERSON. I would text it them. But everyone else I would ignore it, and sat nothing to them about it.

What I would do I'd message the wife in app, and say hi to her. Let know I saw it, screen shot it and take I know who she is.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

I would screen shot it and send it to them and say "OMG this looks so much like (blank) LOL

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

That would mean I am single and looking for someone, so if my man's homie didn't know who I was, I'd show interest... if we met up in person. I'd text my friend to come meet me at this place. Like OMG guess what? You'll never believe who I met for a date... come check it out, cause you literally won't believe me if I just told you.

Like oh, well you know he was on this dating app, so thought you should know.

If he knew who I was, I'd tell him, simply because I've been cheated on and would want to be told.

If he don't believe me, not my problem.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

I would just show them the page and let them take it from there. If it was me, u would want to know instead of my friend keeping that away from me. Also what's worse is your friend tells you and you slip it out you knew or they find out you knew, they will also blame you for not having their back as a friend. I've seen it happen before.

Guy13 · Answer

Stay out but keep a distant eye 👁 on things. Hang out with him more and prove without him realizing it etc.  I woukd not tell him until he opens up that area of his life conversation.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

A screenshot and an email or text is what I would do. But they might have a twin sister or brother or a lookalike cousin.

AviatorTom · Answer

I would not tell my friend, but I might send a text to her on the app and ask, "Does hubbie know about this?"

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I don't like playing games.

I don't like people playing games with those dear to me.

If I can confirm that my friend's spouse is "browsing" on dating apps, I won't let it slide.

I will show the evidence (the account itself and some screen shots) to my friend.

Anonymous · Answer

Say nothing. Maybe try to hint or say anon. Though my experience on dating apps is that most profiles are ghost profiles from years ago of people no longer paying for their services but didn't bother to deactivate the account. I got into some trouble a while back over my plenty of fish account still being active though I haven't been on it since 2017. But try explaining that to a 6 month pregnant woman who thinks you are trolling the Internet for strange ass.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

ABSOLUTELY 100% Show her! Nobody deserves to be treated with that level of disrespect, and as devastating as it would be for her to learn that the man she loves and trusted has betrayed her… It’s better she learns now than if she finds out later that you knew and said NOTHING!

Agape93 · Answer

Screenshot and send to them. If they're good, cool, if not, then they know now

SwellStroke · Answer

There is the possibility that it is known by the friend/SO. being all consensual? Then that would open it up to talk to them or just contact over the app?

So many different avenues that can be used in this one I would think.

Good question by the way. Often wondered that, but where I live not many people use it. And those that do you know who they because of how many people are in the area.

Red-Blaze · Answer

Will first talk to thee sponce about it
Give them a chance to explain qnd think about it, then tell my friend
It may be ok with her, or it may be something else, I prefer not to jump on the "there evil" right off the bat
But she should know if they did not tell her and she care for it

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Screenshot her profile, swipe right and probably pace through my house for a solid 10 minutes.

Sometimes couples set those up for fun so I'd just be a little torn on the correct course of action. I guess it depends but it would probably be some flavor of probing the friend to see if they know, doing it again in front of the partner who put up the tinder and go from there based on the reactions.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the friend really. I have friends that would do this to her first. Thier whole life is toxic to me. That one I'd just leave alone. Because odds are he knows anyway and I don't want to get tangled up in that stuff. But I have other friends who are r ee ally good guys and easily exploited by women. Him I'd tell.

Angieeebabieee · Answer

Call them, let them know gently send a Screenshot if requested. I'd want my friend to do the same. I wouldn't be so worried about "getting involved" if I'm watching my friend be blissfully in love and loyal to their partner who is not giving a fuck on a dating site.

RavVid · Answer

Wow that is a problem. It is really nasty to be dragged into infidelity. No matter what you do or don't do once you become aware of it you are involved in very personal nasty betrayal. If you take the attitude that it is not your business you are helping the cover up. If you disclose than you are getting intimately involved in the relationship.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Screenshot and send it. This is my friend we're talking about. My brother from another mother or my sister from another mister. This isn't causing drama if there is already drama. This will confirm what they suspected or inform them of what's going on.
If they are open/poly, I'll apologize and back away from it.

boredgal · Answer

if we have kids, I'll confront him about it and would probably give him another chance. and if we don't any kids, divorce babe, divorce.

Anonymous · Answer

Most likely they will deny it and maybe stop talking to you. So I wouldn’t interfere much. Or if I do I won’t go with a file and screenshots that’s creepy but maybe keep it short with a sentence or so ,, I was scrolling thought this dating app and I noticed your husband profile pic. If they deny it or accept it you leave it at that don’t prolong the conversation

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I have seen that. I did tell him. What’s a man in the US gonna do? He can live with a cheating wife or divorce her and let her destroy his life. That’s like a choice between a shit sandwich and cyanide.

Anonymous · Answer

Depending on the friend and depending on the spouse I might set up a date...

Not everyone is monogamous, and there are friends who I'd be open to being a playmate with... And too, if they're on there without their partners knowledge, it's liable to scare them off of it.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

I've been caught on dating apps before while dating people, and it's so damn annoying. I would keep my mouth shut- if they're not getting what they need in the relationship it's not my business.

mstbooblover · Answer

I wouldn't do anything if I saw my friend's spouse on a dating site. None of my business. It would be in any case up to them if they wanted to discuss the matter with me, because maybe they agreed with each other.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Given I'm in a committed relationship, if I were scrolling through dating site would be hypocritical to judge a friends partner. I'd probably match with them, try talking to them. not to pursue anything, just to offer a sounding board

Kori1236 · Answer

I’d be showing them. Just to give them a heads up, I would have evidence to back it up too. And if that friend confronts them good if they deny then I did all I could.

A_Bell · Answer

That's an A + B situation and I would C my way out. Perhaps they have an open marriage. Perhaps he's cheating. It's not my place to fix it.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

What am i doing on tinder in the first place 🤣, then we can jump to conclusions

petitedollbabee · Answer

Screenshot their profile and show my friend that their partner is likely cheating on them. It’s up to my friend how they deal with that information.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

I would struggle to not take the chance to hook up with her. …but I would, definitely, not tell him.

katiesmuff · Answer

I can't think that I would keep that information away from my friend especially if she were a very close friend.

TrueConfection · Answer

I don't think I make a good friend. I'd keep quiet.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd swipe right and see what happens.  If she's on Tinder and he knows about it, could be fun. If the account gets deleted, she knows she was caught.

LittleSally · Answer

I've learned the hard way not to say anything. But I still would.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I'd mention it for sure. Be good topic of discussion.

Rania05 · Answer

Takes screenshot, copy the link and tell my friends

Androm · Answer

i would take a screenshot and send it to his wife

pewter_moon · Answer

I would tell them. The knowledge then implicates me. I don’t assist cheaters.

sheikalana · Answer

I feel like that's none of my business. Maybe he knows about it and if you saw her chances are that she's seen you too.

Sasha0426 · Answer

A lot of people won’t but I would. I don’t know why anyone wouldn’t tell their friend their spouse is cheating. What if that was their spouse who was on Tinder? Wouldn’t they want to know?

Visionary7 · Answer

I’d make a fake account and start talking to them on the app, see if they’re active. As there’s a possibility they might just have forgotten to delete their account or something.

james_d0007 · Answer

Tell him and share the screenshots. Provided your friend is loyal to her as well. If he is too banging someone outside their relationship then I would not interfere in such instance. Could be deal made between the two!

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Screen shot Send Explain Tell him not tell anyone how he found out

Tracker1958 · Answer

Would you want to know if it was your girlfriend doing the same thing?

Anonymous · Answer

Eh. It actually means absolutely nothing. Do you HONESTLY think that Tinder would EVER take down the profile of a hot girl? Why would they do that? How would that help them?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Hell yeah, I would tell their ass! #ifyouseesomethingsaysomething

nawtee_me · Answer

make a date and see what happens... Someone may be using her pic and it may not be her at all...

CalSopSie85 · Answer

If she was ugly I'd tell him but if she was mega hot I'd use it to my advantage, screenshot it and tell her I want weekly blow jobs or I'm dishing the dirt.

msc545 · Answer

I would do nothing. The messenger of bad news is always a victim too.

Yellovv · Answer

You should ask your friend how his relationship going and you can understand better how things going...

Nominal · Answer

I would keep it to my self. It Depends on what kind of friendship We have and etc.

sidmanyav · Answer

I think I will treat her like any other woman on the site. If we happen to vibe, will date her.

Alliegal · Answer

I’d tell him! Ask him about it. Maybe it’s something they are into as a couple 😐

naivetykills_you · Answer

tell them asap obviously, show evidence too to make them assess the situation on their own.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t have friends, so this question doesn’t apply to me

DermalPunch · Answer

I would stay TF out of it!!!

exitseven · Answer

I would tell her.

worldscolide · Answer

I would inform my friend.

AdithyaR · Answer

Of course I'd tell them.

Luopio27 · Answer

I would show that to my friend.

18Uma21 · Answer

Put a bullet in his head

Gloree · Answer

I won't say anything

boobliker · Answer

nothing until I had spoken to them first

Wise4myage · Answer

Id let it go unless he was a best friend.

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