Girls, will you get upset if he stops trying?

[Anonymous]

Girls. This guy loves you unconditionally and you have some feelings for him too (not very much) but couldn't get with him due to various reasons. You rejected him but he keeps coming back genuinely loving you. No matter how many times you hurt him, he is never angry with you and he patiently waits for the day you change your mind. He cares for you more than himself, trying to find reasons to text you and make you laugh. He understands you so well. And so on.

Then one day he suddenly disappears. Maybe he found another girl that likes him. Maybe he's just tired and gave up.

That little message you get from him almost everyday is no more. That cute little begging is gone. A week has gone without his trying to prove his love to you and that you two should be together. A month has gone and he still doesn't view your facebook stories. He's still online.

How would you feel?

[quaranta]

I would feel very relieved, finally the guy got the message and I'm not demanded to be responsible for his love life anymore or to reciprocate anything I don't feel for real, I'm free from any subtle guilts, free from all the debt he created by himself by giving too much without receiving anything. I would feel liberated. And I did feel liberated, the few times someone was so obsessed they wouldn't stop even in front of clear lack of mutual dedication.
But I generally prevent that by exposing the situation to the guy and quitting his attempts, to not let it drag. Other girls might want to avoid conflict and won't say anything, instead.

Further: you probably think that the girl got good vibes from your daily dedication. Most likely she couldn't care less about that, you were selling yourself for so cheap you were just free, she didn't have to put anything on the balance to get that attention, which also means: the less you pay for something, the less you value it. It probably makes no difference for her at this point...
At most she might try to contact you at some point but that doesn't mean she suddenly misses your desperation or that she feels something for you, she might just check out if everything is alright.
Let women express their feelings and make their moves too, instead of assuming they are mentally incapable to just function normally and that you have to do all the work behind. They are persons too. It doesn't work like that, and this attitude will only make them feel pressured, because their participation is not there and you are creating a scenario that you demand them to match, but you created that alone, without their wills. This is of course pressuring and off-putting.
They give you all the signals of interest if they are into you, they initiate conversations, ask questions, hint about going for a date, ask to hang out with them, tell you their personal daily things, etc. If these things are missing, not worth continuing: the message is clear, it's a no. If you keep replying with "giving" in front of receiving nothing, you are rewarding her lack of responses and setting the value of your love: 0. This is not how you make yourself desireable, it's the opposite, and it worns you out as the only result you get from the situation, in the end.

[Charlesbrandonf]

This is from your perspective and your version. But not sure if she is feeling this emotion. If she don’t feel this emotion then the guy is going to be hurt. Surely one can’t read others feelings emotions and their levels and measures.




Her version might be different. Her understanding her background her beliefs her personality her attention her emotion her feeling her everything would play role in understanding what’s happening around her.


If you both are same page it’s different, if you both are in different page. I’m sorry my friend you’ve to let her go.

[Adam1978]

That is the expected result it just should have happened way way sooner. You need to care more about yourself and your feelings not about what she feels.

[inhua]

only if he's good looking. if he ain't good looking she'd be relieved

[Songomatic]

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[Midgetmcwidget]

😭😭😭😭😭😭🤣 that's soo sad to read😭😭😭😭😭😭

[Asker]

Why is that?

[Spiritofn]

Creepy or sad depends on who the guy is.