What's the difference between Eros feelings and Philia feelings for someone of the opposite gender?

[Anonymous]

[Guy13]

These Greek terms:

Eros: equate to Lust and the physical reactions that come therefrom.

Phila: equates to Brotherly love... Philadelphia (City of Brotherly love). This is a shared category grown love... Guys on soccer team.. traveling guys on team... starting guys on team. Brotherly love has layers. This is not applicable to Male-Female Besties.

Agape: is a sacrificial love. The love of one who cared enough to produce you... Parent or Creator, God or M-W married mutual submissive-serving love...

[Asker]

So what feelings come out from Male Female besties, I don't think mine is Eros or romantic feelings tho

[Guy13]

That's Dangerous love because we are only friends to those who we are attracted too.

We keep our Enemies close NOT because we want too or are attracted to them.

No "crush" is going to trust one with a guy-girl friends relationship. There's ultimately something about her that attracted the two to one another. "I finally did it... started dating my best friend." is common occurrence.