I'm so lonely I want to die, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I've been trying to find someone for a year now and nothings sticking. I haven't been alone like this before and as pathetic as it sounds I miss having someone to hold and put my love into. Lately my loneliness has gotten so bad I've been praying ind hoping before bed that I won't wake up the next morning, and everytime I see other people together online or in person I imagine killing myself. What should I do? And don't say work on myself cause I did that for a year before I started looking for a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Honestly if your loneliness makes you feel suicidal then you still have inner work to do. Even in my loneliest moments I didn’t think life wasn’t worth living, because having a relationship was just a small part of an otherwise fulfilled life. There’s other things to pour your love into, like building/bettering relationships with family, friends, and even yourself. It’s the holidays, go volunteer somewhere, put some love back into your community or do something that gives your life more meaning than craving a relationship. Being in love is great and beautiful but it’s not everything.

[Asker]

I haven't hugged a women in a year. Also, I've done ALL those things. And none of it makes my craving for a romantic relationship go away.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s fine to crave a romantic relationship, I’m talking about the fact that not being in one makes you suicidal. If you’ve really done all those things then maybe you should try them again and see if you find a different result.

[LazerBean]

Work on increasing your self worth. You will never be able to keep a healthy relationship as long as your happiness is fully dependent on having a date.

[Asker]

Read the end of the post hun

[LazerBean]

I did, I elected to ignore it since whatever work you did was clearly inadequate.

[Asker]

Okay. What should I do next then? I work out, I have friends, I volunteer, I run clubs, I go to college, and I work.

[Akam93]

You shouldn't feel that way. I've felt that way in a point in my life and then I finally got out of it. I do make a really good friend if you need someone to talk. :)