I'm all alone and I feel lonely. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I'm scared of ended up being all alone. I always wanted to create a happy family with someone as I come from a broken home. But right now I have no one in my life that likes me back. Seeing my friends in their 20s all moving forward getting married and being successful gets me anxious. How do I fix this? How do I learn how to enjoy being all alone and content with it? Thinking that I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with no one besides me got me feeling so miserable and hurt.

[ChrisMaster69]

Hi sorry to read through what you are feeling.

it’s really a case of sitting down and writing things out.

take stock of where you are, what you are doing, etc.

then look at what can be changed easily, with some effort, then medium term and longer term.

first things is finances and housing.

are you financially secure and a roof over your head for 12 months?

from that you can look at next steps.

Do you need to improve finances, improve housing situation?
then it’s putting those two into a medium term plan, where you want to be in X years with both,

you need to build you yourself first, build your security, then build your self confidence.

once that is sorted, you can look at socialising, either through clubs, sports, the type of job you do, volunteer work, pubs, clubs etc,

I would avoid a lot of social media like the plague, it will simply run you down with its negativity.

Getting out running, doing core work outs will improve you, posture, overall health, body shape and tone you your body,

[Asker]

This is true. There are other things i can do rn. Hopefully i can ignore all the negative thoughts in me and focus on improving myself

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah it’s really the best idea to start of with the stuff you can fix and sort,

Then basically work towards the harder stuff.

[Interstate]

Looking at your age range, you are into too much of a rush to advance your life. Not everybody is destined for marriage and kids. The big guy upstairs has alternate plans for us in place of marriage. And those are not meant in the path of "I do", usually end up saying to themselves, "Wow! If I was married I NEVER would have had this. I can't think of anything better than THIS!"

[Asker]

The people around me are so advance in life i just kinda felt left out. You're right. There's more to life than marriage and kids. I'll try to look at life differently

[Interstate]

Just live your life daily and as events and people come and go, act accordingly. Just don't live each day having expectations. Life will laugh at you something terrible.

[Slartybartfast]

Don't do what I did and allow someone to use you just to avoid loneliness and because you want a family.

[Asker]

Ok. I'll keep this in mind. Thanks

[Luckycharms12]

You are young those things will happen in time family and that. So just travel be happy and do you

[Asker]

Hopefully. Thanks

[Luckycharms12]

No worries any time

[mustafabey]

if you keep talking like that. no one can do nothing to you except you. and dont forget this; words are too strong than we suppose to. when you say: "I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with no one besides me." you are fucking yourself understand, killing your identity, honor etc? so firstly find a purpose for your life. change your mind. stop thinking negative. and go on or end you life. because its much more humanitarian act than killing your brain with this shit.

[LiamSawyer]

You can talk to me all you have to do is message me or follow me. about your insecurities any time you want. I will respect you and try to help you work through these thoughts.

[TheBigGuy9]

Depends, how do you look? What’s your personality like? At your age, you won’t find too many men who are mature or even want to date. So there’s that.
Still, you’re 18-24. You still have a few more years.

[Goatmeal]

Volunteer. It'll keep you busy, take your mind off your own situation, grow your social life, and make you feel good about what you're doing to better the world.

[Asker]

I'll try. Thanks

[Goatmeal]

Good luck

[InferiorElegy]

You're not seeing them because you're not looking hard enough but there are guys who like you all around you. Females can't ever truly know the feeling of absolute loneliness like guys do.

[poneglyphs]

damm sadly ur right my dude :(

[Wise4myage]

The world is your oyster, get out and enjoy it, and don't be afraid to approach people and engage yourself.

[Asker]

Nice suggestion.. thanks

[Wise4myage]

You’re welcome.

[KrakenAttackin]

Don't be envious of your friends, more than half will end up divorced and the remaining marriages will be mostly miserable.

[Asker]

Oh no i hope not. Wishing the best for them. As for me, i just want ro be content with what i have now.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... Having peace-of-mind within yourself is the best of all worlds. Seek your own peace-of-mind and all other things will fall into place. It has taken decades for me to learn this.

[mattclark242]

I feel sad for you it be ok.