In our group of five guys all in our mid-20's, all except one of my friends (let's name him James), has a girlfriend/fiance. James feels really bad about himself because he's never had a girlfriend or a good first date because every girl he meets ends up using him or treating him really bad by showing him up or abandoning him halfway through the date. He's a really great guy. We even double-dated with him a few times; and he's really doing everything right: It's just the girls he meets are terrible people! He has an Associate's degree, well-groomed & in-shape, but he just has a bad-luck streak! We would help him introduce him to a girl, but none of us or our girlfriends/fiances know any single girls.
About a month ago, our group decided to take a couple's-only weekend holiday in the woods. We really wanted to invite James along, but all of us agreed it was in our best idea to not invite him because he would have been complaining about being “alone” and insecure about himself all weekend in the woods with four other couples; and he would have felt more comfortable at home. We promised him we were going to plan an all-guys holiday in the future to make him feel better about himself.
About a week after we got back, he keeps on claiming he meet a beautiful woman, and that they are now dating! All of us were proud and congratulated him! But after a series of three weeks of us all asking James when we were going to meet his girlfriend, he kept making excuses claiming things like “she's too busy to meet you guys” or "She doesn't use Facebook." Last night, he claimed went on one of his “dates” to the cinema, but I ended up spotting him at the grocery store shopping alone because I was shopping as well. I am beginning to think James has made-up an imaginary girlfriend to compensate the fact that he's really lonely; and he doesn't want us to think less of him.
I feel a bit vexed and worried about my friend. What should I do?
About a month ago, our group decided to take a couple's-only weekend holiday in the woods. We really wanted to invite James along, but all of us agreed it was in our best idea to not invite him because he would have been complaining about being “alone” and insecure about himself all weekend in the woods with four other couples; and he would have felt more comfortable at home. We promised him we were going to plan an all-guys holiday in the future to make him feel better about himself.
About a week after we got back, he keeps on claiming he meet a beautiful woman, and that they are now dating! All of us were proud and congratulated him! But after a series of three weeks of us all asking James when we were going to meet his girlfriend, he kept making excuses claiming things like “she's too busy to meet you guys” or "She doesn't use Facebook." Last night, he claimed went on one of his “dates” to the cinema, but I ended up spotting him at the grocery store shopping alone because I was shopping as well. I am beginning to think James has made-up an imaginary girlfriend to compensate the fact that he's really lonely; and he doesn't want us to think less of him.
I feel a bit vexed and worried about my friend. What should I do?
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Okay, instead of the world "complain," switch it with the word "inadequate." James is not a whiner, but we felt he would have felt that pain inside coming along with us alone.
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