Do you find ''you're the love of my life'' but the person won't commit an oxymoron?

[CelineBV]

To me this is the same thing as telling your employee that they're the best worker ever, that they will be managers in a week or so but still find excuses not to promote them. So they're not the best employee ever and you're full of BS.

Same thing with the ''oh you're the love of my life'' but when the conversation is about commitment and having kids, the person comes with excuses not to commit. By logic if you're not willing to commit and have fears, then you're lying and the person isn't the love of your life. You're wasting their time. No other explanation.

I work with the logic that if I'm the love of your life then you'll have a strong drive to commit and actually do it. If not then you're full of BS because your words don't match your actions and I'm not the love of your life.

[coachTanthony]

If you break up with the guy and he finds someone marries them and has kids then he was full of shit but he might not want all of that and in that case he could be telling the truth.

[CelineBV]

Exactly. It means she was never the love of his life. I don't always operate with emotions.
My logic tells me ''if I'm the love of your life then you would marry me and have kids with me''. There is no ifs nor buts. Otherwise she was just a girlfriend to have fun with and enjoy the moment meanwhile he continues lovebombing her till she gets bored.

[coachTanthony]

True have to keep it in perspective.

[DevikaButts95]

Ah technically not, just means you're they're greatest love of their life thus far, they still have more life to go.
I'm not sure what you can make of that for whatever your situation is

[CelineBV]

If I'm the greatest love of their life, then I'll interpret that as ''he loves me enough to marry me and have kids''. If not then he can take a hike with those empty words.

[DevikaButts95]

Yea but like for me, you could be my greatest love, but I don't want kids, nor would I necessarily be ready to commit to someone forever.
I wouldn't really continue in the relationship in the kids regard though. .

[BlueScorpio]

It's manipulation, it's to get you to stay where you are until they're bored or find someone else.

[HighValue]

He could love someone, want to have an exclusive LTR, live together and have kids together without wanting legal marriage. Marriage isn't necessary for commitment.

[CelineBV]

An incomplete commitment basically. That's how I would interpret it. I'm sorry but it's either full deal with me or nothing.

[CelineBV]

He has to find someone that's on his same page on just living together without ever getting married. We would be incompatible in that aspect.

[HighValue]

Or you could offer to sign a prenuptial agreement.

[CelineBV]

yes and I'm fine with that

[Blackmoonsns]

That's called running game whenever a person a man or a woman is telling you what you want to hear it means their intentions aren't pure and they're just ain't to get what they want for the time being.

[SarahS98]

Yup that's BS to the fullest. ''Oh my love of my life'' but I can't/won't marry you, LMAO. I feel sorry for anyone that waste their time of those lying lovebombers.

[midnightmoon05]

Agree with that statement. Don’t waste time.

[Alex8736]

it has to be a 2 way street

[CelineBV]

yes same thing goes for a woman that's been with her boyfriend for 2-4 years and rejects his proposal; rare but it happens. Same thing... she doesn't love him enough either.

[CelineBV]

People (of either gender) staying in long-term relationship with supposedly ''the love of their lives'' but just won't or don't want to commit, they are full of BS.

[Alex8736]

100% agreed

[iceprincess8]

Yeah it's hypocrisy

[Anonymous]

Interesting 🤔