The guy I’m exclusively seeing is confusing me - any advice?

[Anonymous]

I’m seeing this guy and he keeps saying he likes me but it’s been 2 months and I’ve seen him 3 times the whole time? And sometimes he will leave me on delivered for a day? And when I try to leave he always says haven't I proven myself to you, and says how much he likes me and wants me and only me and a relationship? But would someone who wants a relationship see you once every 3 weeks? He’s not that busy he works till 4 then goes home. He Only ever sees me on his terms and when he feels like it and when I confronted him today he said ‘Havent I proven myself to you’ am I being dramatic here? SURLEY if you like someone you’d put more effort in to see them! He drives he lives 10 minutes away?

[kylee2437]

So why do you feel like you need to prove yourself to him , when he isn’t clearly proving himself? It’s one sided and it sounds like he’s playing the fuck boy role and keeping you and other women in the loop of his BS. Tell him you no longer want to try to make things work anymore

[Asker]

Yeah i just wanted a opinion as he is making me feel like I’m really over reacting but I don’t think I am. He’s got a bad reputation as it is

[kylee2437]

If he isn’t hearing out your feelings and changing his behavior , but keeping you around , he is manipulating you.

[Finchie40]

Yea you are wasting your time with this guy, he only likes the convenience of you he doesn’t love you he loves how he can use you , realize that you deserve someone that wants to be by your side as much as you want to be by there’s , Love only grows when 2 people remove selfishness for each other , when someone really likes you they want you by them as much as possible they don’t make excuses not to see you , you deserve someone that would climb a mountain to be with you not someone that jumps over a little puddle , if he truly valued you there wouldn’t be any hesitation to have you by his side , if you want love then you need to find someone that wants you at all costs not someone that just likes the convenience of you

[HighValue]

In two months of dating you should have been together between 4 to 8 times depending on both of your schedules and how tiring the jobs are. It sounds like he isn't taking it very seriously to me.

[Asker]

Yes our schedules are exactly the same. I do 9-5 he does 9-5 and that’s it. We have still only seen each other 3 times.

[FilmGuy93]

I don’t know about all the dynamics in your connection, but it sounds like y’all need something interesting to do together.