Why most people these days only talk about sex when talking about a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Everyday I realize more that sex in a relationship is a fraction of what a relationship is, I’m a virgin (religious beliefs) and I had great relationships without having sex.

it made me value her beauty, voice, personality, charisma etc

I long for such commitment at this moment.

why is sex becoming a main thing when it comes to affection?

[KansasX]

First of all I think it's WONDERFUL that you are a virgin!

I think a ton of it comes down to what kind of school we went to, what kind of friends we had, and if we looked at sex as "true love waits" or just something that we did for fun.

I am 25, I have been with my partner for 2 years now, but I had 8 partners before I found him. I lost my virginity at 15, and I had 3 other partners before I got out of high school. And to be honest those 3 guys were friends of mine from the theater group, and I would just switch between those three for the last couple years of high school. Even worse is that I know of two girls that were having sex with them as well, and I know this because those girls were also my friends.

And now here we are in 2022/23 and sex is becoming VERY NORMAL! I am not going to get political on here, but they say 12 is now the new 14.

I will say that sex doesn't make you evil. I graduated from high school and college and now I have myself a good career. 9 guys have had sex with me, but thankfully it's not obvious.

[Asker]

Thank you for getting my point

[KansasX]

Maybe I should also say that I was a Christian before all of this, and I want to believe I still am. I took a dive at 15 and lost track, but I somehow got my life back on track at 23. I am doing better now.

[Asker]

Proud of you, keep being the better version of yourself

[Labokachulaa]

I've noticed and said the exact same thing. Lol even when I was younger I felt this way. It's gotten a lot worse it seems.

[Weapon77]

I'm a virgin too, man, for similar reasons. I understand what you mean, and it's so sad to witness. Some of the happiest couples I know werr virgins when they met. And most of the others had onky been with 1 or 2 other people for understandable reasons. Even if we disregard religious reasons, the science shows that rampant casual sex is detrimental to romance and society. People want the romance in movies, but REFUSE to do what actually leads to such romances in their own lives. Heartbreaking.

[Summeroflove]

Because they’re degenerates and the only time they’re happy is being a degenerate and want to force it onto people like you who are well normal.

You’re right and you’ll be much happier

[Guy13]

I am with you and the number blinder that destroys a relationship is sex. After sex, we look at everything through rose colored lens glasses. The signs are overlooked or missed. You're wise !

[AsaKyo]

Cause' people enjoy being whores more than anything nowadays

[sassyredhead]

Because relationships require vulnerability people would rather be physically naked than share their lives and heart with someone.

[LazerBean]

Because modern culture promotes it.

[CA4444]

Because that’s what men want

[Asker]

Don’t blame only men on this

[CA4444]

I know I know, but men are usually the ones with the high libido always wanting sex etc it seems more important to them, it’s not a problem for women to think about relationships that’s what we are wired for, that’s what we want usually, before sex

[misogynistic_pig]

Because that's all relationships are for.

[Asker]

Only sex?

[misogynistic_pig]

Yes, in the modern Western context, marriage is a system of legalized prostitution whereby a man bribes a woman with food/drink, housing, emotional security, job security, transportation service, an expensive ring, and a lavish wedding.

[Asker]

Get the fuck out of my post.

[misogynistic_pig]

This comes in exchange for allowing her to have regular sex and knowing who her children are through long-term institutionalized monogamy.

[sunflower00]

This is literally the most depressing view

[misogynistic_pig]

This description of marriage is not even all that women may be entitled to in a marriage, but it is the most a man is expected to receive.

[Twalli]

It's a way to show affection physically.

[Asker]

You look like that jewish American youtuber who travels the world cheaply

[Twalli]

Not really religious